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writes:Ok here we go, first of all ive met this guy but the problem is im totally in love with him but i cant be with him even though i want to...this is because i am christian and in our religion we only date others in our religion? anyway i really think hes the one though...:/ and i cant explain it to him because he will cry, or no accept it.secondly i have never passionatly kissed anyone, i wouldnt know what to do with my tongue and that?:/ does it come naturally or what because im really nervous about kissing::/please help.
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reader, Jackalus +, writes (6 July 2011):
Hi I think depending on what type of christian you are may change the churches views as they all have varying views, are you catholic, church if eng, baptist, Methodist or so on. I am no denomination and I am pretty sure I am allowed to be with anyone but alot of Christians find that one of the most attractive things in a man/woman is hem being a Christian too. As for kissing it is as natural as anything, the first one though shouldnt be too long.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 Hi Rose,
I hope you don't mind hearing from an old guy. Many religions teach against interfaith dating and especially inter faith marriage. After all dating leads to marriage. It is also good to have friends who share your beliefs. I'm sure you know the many reasons for the rule. I even get the feeling that you accept it. So you have drawn a line that you won't pass. But, . . .
Without knowing it you have formed a two way emotional attachment. You Want to be with him, He will cry when you explain the rule. You are as attached as if you were exclusive dating already without any formal date.
Since the relationship already exists in fact, it is no longer profitable to discuss whether or not to date. The question now is how to handle the relationship in the context of the differing religions. I'd advise you to get input from your parents and his. I simply don't have enough information to advise you further.
About kissing, Solve the other problem first. And it doesn't come naturally for everyone. Anonymous Female's answer is one of the best I've seen.
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 This logic is a little bit flawed...
I'm a Christian too, and there is no "law" that says Christians have to date other Christians. There is simply a teaching that talks about being "unequally yoked", meaning that if you're a devout Christian and you're with someone who is not, that can make things difficult for you in the relationship. There is no "thou shalt not" about dating a non-Christian.
If you like him and he likes you, there's no reason why you can't be together! Maybe it will last long-term, maybe it won't, but how will you ever know unless you go for it?
As for not knowing what to do when you're kissing, trust me, it's a natural instinct. It will happen, you'll know what to do, and if not, let me know and we'll talk. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): hi,
I read your problem and I think it's complicated one - if you are sure of your emotion towards him and you understand his personality try to find a way to tell him how you feel - you may try to get close to him let him feel you care ,the way you look at him he will feel you and if you felt he's accepting what your try to get more closer something he says you give a smile fuul of love things like that - as long as you're another religion don't say it loud maybe it will take time but that what it takes to be sure he feels for you - if he's not feeling for you try to take it and move on maybe it's the right time to be together -
secondly about kissing let it be normal first time let him kiss you and most boys know how to deal with it he may touch your face while kissing you he may hold your hand but don't let him touch your body - et the sec. time or third you can touch his face or put your hand on his hair if he used his tongue you can use yours if he didn't don't - when he kisses you the most important thing is to feel connected to him
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reader, adamskidude +, writes (6 July 2011):
 If your religion teaches that everyone is equal and loved by god, then why are people who worship in a different way seen as not good enough for you?
I don't see why you would let somebody else dictate to you how to live your life.
Religion is a nice concept but you shouldn't let it get in the way of happiness.
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