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writes:hello, i have been going out with this girl for a week short of a month and i really like her. The problem is that she hasnt had alot of serious realtionships before and is SUPER shy when it comes to kissing. we havent even made out yet. i am 16 and she is 15, a year younger.so basicly i was wondering if you could give my any ideas to help her feel more comfortable with the physical side of the our realationship, because as shallow as it sound that is one of the most important parts for me. i asked her about it and she seems more freaked out about it, like she doesnt know how. Should i just wait? I find it extemely hard to not kiss her, there has been loads of moments that would have been perfect but i always have to hold off. Any ideas?
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reader, adamskidude  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 She's young of course she's shy. Just hold her hand through the situation and make sure she isn't scared of it.And don't just dive in there tongue blazing like some kind of sick 80s romcom. Soft kisses to the lips, not the back of her throat for starters :)
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (31 May 2011):
This might put her in a difficult spot. She might like you but not feel ready, or she might like you but want to wait until she really likes you and is really very close to you and comfortable before she will kiss you. When you ask her, she might not know what to do, because she doesn't want to push you away or make you lose interest, but she also wants to be ready. When you ask her, it might put her in a tricky spot.
Having said that, if you like her and it is natural for you to want to kiss her, it is good that you let her know, that you express yourself and let her know how you feel. It is good that if she isn't ready, that she lets you know how she feels. If you like her, you will want for her to be ready and feel comfortable, and that just takes time. Give her the time she needs, and if she likes you eventually she will kiss you, or you will lose interest and find someone else to kiss. That is life. It is a good idea to learn to take your time and get to know someone in a deeper way.
Good luck.
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reader, topher747 +, writes (31 May 2011):
 when i was in this situation, i took my bf to watch a film at my house and we got close and started to cuddle and he got more comfortable and then we kissed.
so you should try to cuddle up to her and then slowly try to kiss her in a nice way maybe just a peck to start with and then go from there.
hope this helps :)
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reader, amzzie +, writes (31 May 2011):
I'm shy a lot older than your gf who just in my first serious realtionship x me and my bf was dating etc before we properly got togther we kissed sven weeks after meeting but were both shy so it a bit hard for us you be ok you just got to be in a situation were you make her relax she properly nervous thinking she won't be good just reasure her and take it slow xxx
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