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writes:My mom has been married to my step-dad for 2 years now. Whenever he gets mad at memy mom takes his side. He also told me to "shut-up" and "that no one including my mom doesn't care for me". He is truly rude and mean to me behind mymothers back. I don't want to live with my father either because I have problems with my step-mother. I know rightmy life is a mess:( I am going to tell my mom what he said to meand if she doesnt care I think I am running away and maybe live with my sister. Does anyone out there have a suggestion before I make a BIG decision? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): your step dad sounds like a dick babe dont take his shit i would never let my step perents boss my around if they did i would simply tell my mum/dad no one in my opinion has the right to boss you about unless they looked after you your whole life and comforted you in your time of nead if he hasnt earnt your respect then dont give it to him , its not your fault just tell your mum straight out how bad he is treating you and say it hurts you (your her baby she should look after you ) if not then if you sister can take care of you live with her
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reader, Dangerously Enthusiastic.  +, writes (29 August 2012):
 Your life is hardly 'a mess'
Just talk to your mam and see how things pan out.
If she takes his side it's something you will have to accept and move on from.
Talk to your sister and see what her opinions are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): I'm sensing bit of a pattern here OP.
At the risk of having my head bitten off by you, this sounds like a classic case of the spoiled child.
I could be wrong, but its all too common in situations where a child's parents separate, the child then gets both parents full attention for a period of time (separately) until the child's parents each get a new partner, the child feels as though his/her nose has been shoved out of the picture and then becomes jealous and starts acting up for attention, and in the process, making their parents and step parents lives a living hell.
You say you don't get along with both your step father and step mother?
And your mother takes sides with your step father when things kick off?
Am I right in thinking that your father also takes your step mothers side when things go pear shaped at his house between you and her?
My advice to you would be to move in with your sister if things are becoming too tense at both your parents homes.
And after all, you are an adult now so you have the freedom to choose where you live, and are not under obligation from the law to live with either of them.
I think its time to take some adult responsibility and walk away from this situation.
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (28 August 2012):
First before you do anything i think you should get a job and if you already have one you should start putting away money so you can move out. If your age bracket 18~21 is correct then you arent exactly running away since technically you are an adult. Then have a chat with your mom about what has been going on with your step dad. if things dont change then yes move out.
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