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writes:I met this guy at a club. I am not his date,he invited me to come over his place to watch movie together.so I came to his place and had a small conversation with himsuddenly he invited his friends and left me alone.he ignored me and just had fun with his friend. what was that all about? what am i?so I got offended I told him I had to gothe he said. 'okay then call me when you get to your place'i got more angry because he didn't want to take me home safely.so I asked to take me home with himthen he brought his friends with him so I could go home with his friends hahawhy he doesn't want to spend time with me?does he not interested in me? righ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2012): You met a guy at a club, you're not his date, you're not dating him and you're essentially strangers to each other.
Just because he invites you back to his place, it doesn't mean he necessarily he has to treat you in any preferred or honorable way.
Frankly it sounds like he was hoping he'd get laid and when he realized he wouldn't, he lost interest. I'd stop analyzing what's wrong with him and work on your expectations of the strangers you meet in clubs.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (8 August 2012):
You've asked this question here before: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-that-he-just-does-not-like.html
I also noticed the same question on other websites going back to mid July.
Obviously, this situation is bothering you because you've been looking for answers for at least 3 weeks. But I don't think asking people online to validate how you feel is going to make you feel any better about him being either rude or socially inept.
The only way you can find out how he feels about you is to talk to him. You need to call or text him and find out if he will go on a proper date with just the two of you (or if you feel that is too forward, you can ask to spend time at his place or yours...but again with just the two of you.) if he is interested, he will want to spend some time with you, without his friends joining in. You will only have your answer if you talk to him. Please work up the courage to get in touch with him.
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reader, MidtownToDowntown  +, writes (8 August 2012):
The guys sounds like a jerk, end of. I'm not trying to be unnecessarily harsh, really, but I wish that I had someone be straight up with me, and me listen to them, everytime some jackass comes my way and I try to justify his actions. Sometimes a guy has a legit reason for bad behaviour; most of the time, he's just a bad guy. You can sit until the cows come home trying to figure out whether he likes you or not, but, personally, I draw the line when a guy won't see you home safely. I know they're hard to find, but there are decent guys out there who will, firstly give you the time of day, and secondly will walk you home/make sure you get home safe. If this guy initially wouldn't spare you the time to make sure you get home safe, then why should you give him the time and effort and phone him?
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (8 August 2012):
First i must stress how dangerous that is and could have been. You met him at a club didnt know him and went to his place. He invited his friends. You could have been gang raped. I know you probably think im exaggerating, but thats reality. You should be careful and take more care of your safety! Anyways i wouldnt see him again. Maybe he wanted you to join with his friends and have a good time. But next time dont go home with strange guys you meet at clubs unless you know them! Or at least have gotten to know them better dont just go to their house. I know people do it all the time, but its not safe. Take care.
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