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*lga94
writes:hi, i'm an 18 year old girl. I was just wondering if you guys could give me any tips and suggestions for my first time having sexual intercourse! It will be both his and mine firt time. Thank you! (: Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom +, writes (30 August 2012):
This is a common question.
I hope you and your B/F have been together for a while, and are talking about being life partners. I also suggest that you spend a while - anywhere from several days, to a few weeks or even months, getting acquainted with each other's bodies and orgasm response cycle WITHOUT penetrative intercourse. I think that you can learn a LOT from non-coital lovemaking (necking, petting, making out, bundling, outercourse, or whatever you want to call it). In the long run all of this "practice time" will make you a better sex partner.
My wife and I were wedding-night virgins. Based on that experience, I think the physiological mechanics of your first intercourse will go MUCH better if you help him to a climax early in your foreplay, and then he brings you to orgasm just before the actual coupling. And, don't lay there and let him "put it in" - instead, if possible, you should get on top and envelope his erection with your vagina.
One recent thread (with lots of advice) is "Is there a way to break my hymen without pain?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-there-a-way-to-break-my-hymen.html
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reader, Olga94 +, writes (29 August 2012):
Olga94 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your advice! (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): Expect it to be a below average type of an event. Seriously. If you have read romance novels, watched movies with some romantic or great sex scenes, or porn - it's ALL a bunch of BS. Sex is truly an overrated thing. Orgasms are INCREDIBLY overrated. I remember what I thought sex and orgasms were like when I was a virgin. Reading romance novels and sex scenes in the movies had me thinking it was some earth-shattering, intense feeling. Now I am not saying it's bad, or mediocre, but it's just not as dramatic and fabulous as you may imagine it to be. I truly wish someone would have clued me in or told me. This way you don't have to question if something is wrong with your or your sexual relationship.
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (29 August 2012):
I remember my first time. Poor guy tried everything to make my first time good and make me orgasm. So first and foremost no expectations. Second sex is portrayed as this amazing blissful experience and it can be very good but its definitly overrated. When i first had sex i was thinking wow thats it? I should have waited for someone that was comitted and i was in love with. Thats some food for thought. Third i would suggest keeping lube and condoms on hand as well as indulging in lots of foreplay and oral sex. And makesure you are both comfortable w each other and that there is no pressure. Good luck!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 August 2012):
 It should not be much of a problem if you engage in enough foreplay - kissing, fondling, maybe some oral - those kind of things. I'll admit that my experiences with first time sex was long ago, but we never needed artificial lubricant of any kind. Might help, but as long as you are turned-on and stimulated, just go for it. Just understand that a first time may not be all that amazing.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (28 August 2012):
 Olga94,
No pressure is the #1 thing. #2 is expect things to go wrong. #3 don't tell everyone what and when you are going to do. And over it all trust.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): Try to relax maybe have a glass of wine make sure you get lubricant and plenty of foreplay this will relax you as well as get you going, taking your time is important as you learn the things you like as you go on and there's no need to try every position good luck
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