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writes:I have plenty of friends but they are all in one aspect of my life, the theatre. So, see each other a lot when rehearsing but much less when we are not. Mostly because they are all coupled and mostly with kids (because of our ages - we're all in our 30s/early 40s).I realised this was becoming an issue and have tried to widen my social sphere by joining a sailing club and a badminton club but it isn't at all social for the same reasons. They turn up and play badminton and then go home because they have young kids. There is no socialising afterwards or at any other time. Similarly, the sailing club is mostly families so on race days, they are all very friendly but all the ones with kids have their little cliche so the few singletons are left out. Any extra social activities revolve around the families.I have tried a few other clubs and interests but it's always the same - very nice people there but once the activity itself is done, they all go, because they are all couples and nearly all have kids. It's inevitable in some respects, at this age, people are often fairly recently married/coupled/with kids and so they spend most of their time together. But when you're single, you constantly feel like the spare part and aren't included in things because you aren't in their circle simply because you don't have the connecting issue of kids.I had hoped that I might possibly meet someone at one of these activities in the dating sense (failed, no single women at any of them) but even if not, to have widened my social groups and had more to do with other people. Yes, it's nice to have a sail and a game of badminton, but I also want to meet people to do other things with - ie, make friends with some of the badminton crowd to go for a curry with, the odd drink, maybe a group going to a film.I've tried online dating for 2 years with only a couple of dates. Am fed up of being the spare part and only having one type of friends (who are thinning out because of the kids). Where do I go from here to meet single women AND other sociable people??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2012): London is about 3 hours away!
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous  +, writes (8 August 2012):
Ok so idk what part of england you are from but i just googled singles clubs in london and it gave some pretty good results, so try that and see how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2012): Aunty - my last 2 relationships were with older women, neither worked out, in both cases because they had been there and done that and wanted to stay in. I have a bit more life in me than that!
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (8 August 2012):
 Try older women who's kids have grown up and left home...plenty of those about :-)
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