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writes:My boyfriends best friend was coming home for the first time,I have never met this guy and I wanted to create a good impression cuz he is my boyfriends best friend..so I woke up made lunch,cleaned the place..and then his friend came over we had lunch it was lot of fun,he's a very nice guy and he told me so much about my boyfriend of how he was in high school,all the funny stories..so when I went in to get dessert I overheard my boyfriend and my best friend talk he asked him something like are you serious about her so my bf was like yeah I think I found the one,so he was like good for you man if not for you I'd definitely tap her..!I was shocked I mean 'tap her' that's just way disrespectful..I wanted my boyfriend to correct his friend but he dint and all he did was laugh..what's with men and the way they talk about girls!!is it just me or do you think their words are disrespectful sometimes??!
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (29 August 2012):
 I agree with Cerberus. He didn't say it to you, he was telling your bf and that was a compliment. It would be disrespectful if he said it to your face, yes. Your bf didn't correct him because he is proud to have someone so attractive, it was a compliment that made him happy. Yes men don't always sound as nice as women might but it's how they talk. Unless he is gay he probably won't discuss how delicious the lunch you made was and how lovely of her to clean for my visit. Take away the rough edges and you can see it was a nice compliment to you. Personally I would've liked to hear that. But if you don't like such talk try not to listen to a guy's conversation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): I'm with SVC. Not disrespectful. And for those of you who say it is limited to kids is leading a sheltered life.
Think about the cliche of the old man chasing his assisted living nurse down the hall in his wheel chair.
I woke in the middle of surgery and remember a female standing right in front of me. Like breast to eye level. I don't have a clue what I said, but I remember them all cracking up. I hear it is quite common for a man to say some pretty crass things when their inhibitions are masked by sedation.
The day I can't talk about a pretty woman and the things god programmed me to think about her is the day I need to be put out of my misery.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): I do think it's a compliment at all when a guy says I d deffinitely Tap her, because as we all know guys would sleep with anything that moves.
And I deffinitely think that it is disrespectful to talk like this to a boyfriend of this girl. But your boyfriend doesn't think that obviously. It doesn't change the fact that it's disrespectful.
That's a weird way to pay a compliment. If he said, she is beatifull, that would be a compliment, but to compliment saying that he would have sex with you?he would have sex with thousand of other girls beatifull or not.
And also you weren't listening, you overheard it. He wasn't even trying to keep it town so you won't hear it. I'm with you on this, I would be upset with my boyfriend also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): Though it's meant to be a compliment....it's incredibly disrespectful and typical of men who are, shall we say, not all that mature yet, talking smack around their buddies, trying to impress each other, etc.
There is hope, they usually grow out of it eventually...at least most of them. I am in my mid fourties and around here it's "I'd hit that" with the younger crowds up to around 30's....my social group, mutual friends, co-workers, social events...many conversations fly, but men become more refined and they just don't speak like that anymore.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (29 August 2012):
 NEVER listen in to conversations between males, especially young ones - it's mostly "playground talk"!
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (29 August 2012):
I have to disagree with so confused. Its disrespectful certainly, but then think about how we talk about men with our girl friends. Ex is he hot? Hows the sex? Have you seen it, how big is his package? Lol i know ive done that with my friends not while their partner was there though. But we all know and have our personal opinions about whats important in relationships. I dont think he intended to be rude, because if he did he probably would have said something to your face. So just think about it that way. Just remember when you have kids teach them a proper way to chat about people that is less offensive. Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): There's a reason we generally don't say that kind of thing in front of you OP. OP to us guys that's one of the biggest compliments we can get from another guy about our girlfriend. OP you may have preferred "she seems nice" but that's usually guy code for "rather you than me man, she's only alright looking" and trust me you never want to hear a guy friend tell him "yeah she seems alright". OP it's only disrespectful if he says it in front you. He was paying your boyfriend a compliment, not you.
One of my closest friends has started dating a new girl and the first thing I said to him after meeting was her "fucking hell man she has great tits" "I know right, it's awesome"
OP what is it you think we appreciate in women? Hair? Nails, fashion sense?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 August 2012):
 no he was paying you a compliment honey... it was not meant to be disrespectful at all...not after he asked if she was the one..
he's jealous... my fiance had the same conversation with a friend of his who got a gf and he kept asking "is she the one"
men that are ready to settle down want everyone to do so...
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