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Archived questions from: December, 2014 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My daughter wont let him in the house, and my parents say to leave him

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3602 days ago

31 December 2014 (F) - I'm 43 been in a relationship over a year and a half I love him but he cheated on me with his ex, we got back together and I fell pregnant all my family are telling me to have an abortion and get rid of him I love him it's over between him and his ...

Why is he INNITIATING texts if he HATES talking to me?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3603 days ago

31 December 2014 (F) - A guy I like and will start dating soon (after the holidays) always randomly texts, then IMMEDIATELY ends our conversations abrutly, with a "good night". We hardly talk now, if at all it is probably about once a week or twice at the most. As opp...

She thinks this is funny. How can I get her to understand that I don't like that she when we make love she lets off wind? Why does this happen?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3604 days ago

31 December 2014 (M) - I have what I call a severe prob;em with my partner in that when we make love she lets off wind and never does do anything to stop it and when I said something about it she thought it was funny and laughed at me and wonder if I should end it with ...

He will not commit but have I put up with this for too long? Should I stay or go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3604 days ago

31 December 2014 (F) - I have been friends with this guy for years I have met his mom and sisters they all know about me. He practically shares everything with me even personal stuff like his habits bank details etc. I literally am his first point of call whenever...

I want my ex take an HIV and STD before rekindling our relationship. What if he refuses to do so?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3603 days ago

31 December 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid,I haven't been with my ex for over ten years we are talking long distance now and have hopes of rekindling our relationship, but I am in fear of having sex with him . I want him to take an HIV and STD test before I give myself to him agai...

Should I give up on Prince Charming? Says he won't marry me unless I agree to become a swinger with him

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3362 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) - I am a very attractive, tall, successful, and fun-loving 25-year-old young woman. I am deeply and truly in love with the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. Our sex is amazing, and the adventures we have together are truly unreal. ...

He wouldn't commit so I ended it and bought a house. Now we might be getting back together...

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3603 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years, and for the last year I have been unhappy with the progress we've been making. He asked me to move into his home a while back but point blank refused to commit to/discuss any more of a future than ...

I snooped on my boyfriend's Facebook account because I no longer trust him - is it time to break up?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3602 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) - Basically, I've caught him lying to me a couple of times in the last few weeks and I was shocked. I never believed he had it in him and it's taken a lot of begging on his part for me to agree to give him another chance. I've always had an idea what ...

Why am I like this? I just feel my whole life has been unlucky in love - when everyone else seems to find happiness.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3605 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) - All through my life I have avoided relationships and getting close to guys. When I was a teenager I was quite plain so never got any male attention. However as I grew older I blossomed and had a few men wanting to get close - but never the ones...

I verbally abuse my boyfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3604 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) - I verbally abuse my boyfriend and I am aware that it is wrong. However, I do it so he can pay attention to me. This time I did it while visiting his job. He ask me for a hug and I told him that I did not want to hug him. Then, I proceeded to tell ...

Loves me, loves me not. Then wants to see me again. Am I expecting too much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3603 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) - I'm not sure about what should I do now. I've been with my bf for 5 years and he's going to marry me next year. We used to be so connected and compatible. Our relationship was great. He made surprises and seriously trying hard to make me happy. ...

I'm not given a chance. why do I self sabotage and why are women so picky with friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3605 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) - Its like I unconsciously sometimes ( not always) want to fail or make people not want to want to get to know me..as in the past Ive not been accepted, sadly women are cliquey at times and despite efforts ive been cold shouldered or dismissed. like...

What's going on? What should I do? He manipulated me into ending our relationship two days before New Year

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3605 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) - I wrote a few weeks ago because my new boyfriend, who had showered me with attention, flowers, dinners, mix tapes, texts, at the start, had gone a bit quiet with me. The first time I stayed over his house (and the first time we had sex), he had a...

I said "yes" to a proposal but I was not ready

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3605 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) - OP's original title ** Call me crazy but I just accepted a proposal from my LDR boyfriend of 6mths. The problem is ever since then there are things about him that I know I won't be able to cope with. I get angry when trying to communicate with him...

My girlfriend ignores my calls and only calls back when she needs something

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3606 days ago

29 December 2014 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend over 4year now since then she have been doing some wrong thing in which I just let it go ,but now I can't take it any more she hot my feeling that sometime I feel like crying If call her and she saw the missed calls, ...

My mom is having a hard time dealing with a death in the family and is venting all her pent up emotions on me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3606 days ago

29 December 2014 (F) - Dear cupids, This is not a relationship question but more something ive been needing help with in terms of my mother. My aunt passed away a few months ago, and both my mum and i were really close to her. Obviously this has affected my mum mas...

How do I wipe away memories of bad ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3606 days ago

29 December 2014 (F) - Hi, I keep having vivid dreams every night lately, mostly just random dreams but so vivid they are like movies, I can wake crying/laughing/in shock. Last night I dreamt about a man from my past, who I can only label as a sociopath. I spent a good y...

With my boyfriend but want to know more about his friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3606 days ago

29 December 2014 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our relationship is doom now. We argue a lot and I feel unconnected with him anymore. We don't have same interest and seems like being in different opinion on many things. I admit that we both feel ...

I think my husband is financially abusing me, please advise

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3606 days ago

29 December 2014 (F) - I think my husband is financially abusing me, he is in a different country at the moment staying with his family. He has told me he has not got my savings back which he gave to a family member to invest in some company. I told him not to send the...

He asked me not to email or text while he's abroad, because his sisters might see?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3606 days ago

29 December 2014 (F) - Hi all, please see the other question for brief background info as i was already feeling nervous about where i stood. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/when-im-with-him-i-feel-loved-i.html bf of three months, i love him , he doesn't love me ye...

I can't understand myself

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3607 days ago

28 December 2014 (F) - So I meet men , we break up and later I find out they met someone else in less than a month. They block me from their lives or harrass me by using the other woman or completely disappears out my life. I am getting so sick and tired of this. I feel ...

Do men wish their women looked like porn stars?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3599 days ago

28 December 2014 (F) - A question for men . Do men secretly wish their wives looked like porn Stars ? Not be actual porn actresses - just look like them ? ...

Is she being selfish and should I bring it up in such a new relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3607 days ago

27 December 2014 (M) - To cut straight to the chase, I think my girlfriend is selfish. But is she? Is it just me overreacting? Basically I really like this girl. We've been together about 2 months. We've told each other that we like each other and were not trying to me...

Am I wasting my time waiting for my boyfriend to grow up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3608 days ago

27 December 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 5 years and I have been having a hard time recently. Basically, I have caught him out in a couple of lies (things I wouldn't care about him doing, but I do care that he lied/hid them from me) and I'm struggling to trust the things he ...

My friend's boyfriend isn't good for her

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3607 days ago

27 December 2014 (F) - I'm worried about my friend, she met a guy of plenty of fish 5 years ago,she practically speaks or txt every day with him,he's moved in with her 2times for a couple of months even her toddler loves him(dad doesn't see her child) Anyways last Yr ...

Am I being jealous, selfish and disrespectful towards my Gf? Should I put up with her disrespect?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3608 days ago

27 December 2014 (M) - Hi, I've been with my girlfriend now for six months, she has two kids to a guy she split from over a year ago. They came to an agreement after they broke up that he would collect the kids and have them stay at his house every weekend. Since me and ...

My girlfriend says my the relationship between me and my son is unhealthy!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3607 days ago

27 December 2014 (F) - My son 21 and we have a great mother and son relation but my girlfriend always finding fault in our relationship. Because my son tells me I'm his number one woman in his life and he's the only child i have and we can talk about everything, my ...

If I break up with my girlfriend I will have nobody!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3608 days ago

27 December 2014 (M) - My girlfriend complained to me tonight about me not having any friends..we both know it's true, but it stung because we always kept it beneath the surface. I'm an awkward guy and I lack the effort of connecting with people, especially in college ...

I am worried about upcoming annual reviews at work.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3606 days ago

27 December 2014 (F) - Dear all, I'm a recent grad who began my new office job in July and I'm very overwhelmed. I'd truly appreciate your advice. I work in a freight forwarder for a major ocean exporter. My job is mainly to discuss rates with carriers and review c...

Former friend has joined the new group and is causing problems with gossip and lies.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3609 days ago

26 December 2014 (F) - Hello. My problem is this. I've been friends with this woman for three years. We were best mates all this time but then suddenly things changed. She began to spend time with a few other girls and for a long while we never saw each other. S...

She left me at Christmas

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3607 days ago

26 December 2014 (M) - So my girlfriend and I have been off and on the past year. Everything seemed alright she had been staying at my house for the past week. She got a DUI and has been worried, Christmas time makes her depressed. Any way I woke up at 5 am and she was ...

I want to stay calm and be rational but something doesn't add up. Are the texts really innocent?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3609 days ago

25 December 2014 (F) - My boyfriend is a friendly guy but he takes it too far with women he doesn't know well. When we were going through a bad patch he struck up a friendship with his new single neighbour and she then came on to him despite knowing about me and this ...

Would you be jealous of this cheat's wife if you were me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

24 December 2014 (F) - I'm writing to this site because i'm feeling pretty conflicted. I used to have a physical relationship with someone who was very wrong for me and it destroyed any self esteem i used to have. Most of the time i was miserable when it was going on. ...

My boyfriend is emotionally unavailable so I cheated. Now what?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3610 days ago

24 December 2014 (F) - I have been with my bf together for 1.5 years and for the past 6 months, we have been arguing a lot (a weekly basis, and it always ends up with me crying). Things we argue about: him flirting with other girls excessively, him texting other girls ...

What's up with his behaviour? He has a Gf. Would it be weird to hang out with him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3609 days ago

24 December 2014 (F) - I saw a guy friend today that has a GF, he admitted he liked me and that he didn't want to hurt me or his GF by cheating but still bothers me to hang out with him. Its like he is obsessed. We used to hang out alot but I stopped since his GF is home ...

She's been flirting with another girl. What are my options? I don't think I can cope with her actions and threats.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3590 days ago

24 December 2014 (F) - I honestly don't know what to do. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and we've lived together for the last year. I pay all the bills as she works part time and i work full time and everything has been going great. Last month she...

How can I convince her to wait until I'm ready for marriage and children?

This question has 36 answers - newest was posted 3604 days ago

23 December 2014 (M) - Hi aunts and uncles. I'm looking for some impartial advice and my girlfriend uses this site a lot so thought I'd give it a try. We have been together for 5 years, I am 27 and she is 29, and recently she has been putting a lot of pressure on me t...

Two separate lives... how can I help him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3607 days ago

23 December 2014 (F) - I'm a white girl that met and fell in love with an Asian guy, we had a baby over a year ago. His family have never acknowledged our baby or me. He used to visit them to meet his children to his ex partner who is also white btw. In the end and ...

He feels responsible for his depressed ex gf......how do I deal with this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3609 days ago

23 December 2014 (F) - Ive been seeing this guy for a month now. We really like each other and things were going great. Til now. I dont know the ins and outs of why he and his ex of 7 years split up back in summer but I do know that they werent right together and they ...

This is not the first time he has done this to me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

23 December 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid My bf wanted to go celebrate newyear in NY. So I have booked tickets and did all the other arrangements which costed me a whole lot of money. Now he is complaining about the flights, hotels everything. I have actually checked with him...

How can I get over feeling I'm too old to have a girlfriend at 26? How should I flirt, talk to and approach women?

This question has 38 answers - newest was posted 3469 days ago

23 December 2014 (M) - The fact i'll be 27 in a few weeks and I still haven't had a girlfriend yet, obviously still a virgin, the fact that I didn't have my first girlfriend and didn't lose my virginity around the age-range most people do just makes me bitter and ...

I am supposed to visit my BF for Christmas, but he is not responding to me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

23 December 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid I'm in LDR with my bf for past 1 year. We r in a relationship for.past 4 years. He went abroad for his work. Earlier he used to call me everyday and we used to talk everyday or text me. Nowadays he is not calling me and if I do.he is no...

Met online, had 6 dates, had sex on 4 of them, is he just using me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3604 days ago

22 December 2014 (F) - Dear Aunts, I met this guy at an online dating site about two months ago, and after we met in person (about seven weeks ago) we have been out about six times and we had sex four times out of the six dates. The other two times were nice and romanti...

My wife of ten years says abusive things and then expects me to apologise. How should I respond to her accusations and her insults?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

22 December 2014 (M) - Hi, I'm really concerned. Ours has not been the best of marriages. We're 10 years in, we have two beautiful daughters. I'm the stay at home parent and I've thrown myself at the role. We've moved 3 times and I've made new friends/ a new world ea...

He is dwelling in the past when we need to move forward!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

22 December 2014 (F) - Hi everyone.. I am quite in a pickle at the moment and i urgently need some advice... So about a week ago, my boyfriend and I were in an argument and things got pretty bad. And we were both invited to the same party. At that party I was feel...

I said " I love you" but he said he doesn't love me but is enjoying our time together.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

22 December 2014 (F) - I told my bf I loved him after 1 year. He stood quiet and didn't say anything. I left home and all day he did not call or text me. I called him late to talk and he basically said that he doesn't love me but is only enjoying time with me. He ...

After two years I want to tell him I love him, but what if he brushes it off?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

22 December 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. He's wonderful in every way. I want to tell him I love him but what if he brushes it off like it doesn't mean anything? We've talked about our other relationships and before with another ...

We are working on things but the spark has gone!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3613 days ago

22 December 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been through a bit of a rough patch. Arguing and falling out over petty things. We are okay and have decided to work things out and put everything behind us. However, now it seems the spark is gone and I don't know whether ...

Should I email now that they have deactivated their social networking sites?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3613 days ago

22 December 2014 (M) - Hi Well my situation is quite simple and i just wondered if anyone had any insight. Someone who has been a good friend over the last few years has deactivated their facebook account and has apparently changed their account on a mobile messag...

Am I better off dating someone within my own culture/race?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

22 December 2014 (F) - Five years in an interracial relationship with a man fifteen years older than me. I thought I loved him but now, I'm unsure. Holiday season is depressing. I've never been invited to a family dinner or functions and I hate it. My friends are always ...