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writes:Dear CupidI'm in LDR with my bf for past 1 year. We r in a relationship for.past 4 years. He went abroad for his work. Earlier he used to call me everyday and we used to talk everyday or text me. Nowadays he is not calling me and if I do.he is not picking up the calls and not responding to my text. Whenever I ask he says he is busy at work. I begged him to talk to.me atleast 2 days once, as I'm the kind of person who is not comfortable not talking to bf for days.Long story short, I wanted to visit my bf for Christmas. We have talked about visiting him on christmas and he is okie with it. I have booked the flight, my flight is tomorrow. So he hasn't contacted me for past 3 days, no calls, no text nothing.If I visit him tomorrow and if he doesn't meet me what would I do in a strange place on Christmas. I don't know anyone there other than him, he is supposed to.pick me up from airport and we planned to stay in his place. What should I do now? Pls help me, I'm confused. I don't want to stay away from my bf on Christmas, I'm scared since he is not picking up.my calls, what if he doesn't meet me in this strange place. Pls help me
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 December 2014):
 Can you cancel the ticket? If so, I'd do so. And then I wouldn't bother calling/texting him till he actually reaches out for you.
I DO think that phonecalls/text EVERY day might be a tad over the top (it would be for me) but totally ignoring your calls/texts? It kind of shows that he is no longer as interested as he used to be. OR that he really isn't wanting a LRD with you anymore, but don't have the balls to tell you.
OR does he think all the arrangements are made, so no need for all the chit chat til you get there?
Or you CAN go, (if you can't cancel the ticket) and then find a nice/affordable hotel/motel and SEE this country on your own. YOU are a grown woman and CAN travel on your own. See the sights, do some shopping and when it's time to go home, go home. IF he contacts you, good. If not... then you had a mini solo vacation and you now know where you stand.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 December 2014):
 I'm sorry that this is happening to you now.
It's a lousy way to find out your relationship is over but I fear that it is.
I would cancel the trip and not even contact him.
see if you can at least move the ticket to a different date without too much cost.
DO NOT just go and show up if he has not responded to you.
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reader, Ginger fish  +, writes (23 December 2014):
 I hate to say it but I think he may have lost interest as no communication is not a good sign. I think you should text or email him asking him if he wants you to come out or be in a relationship with you any more because if not, leaving you hanging is rude and dirty. Don't leave for this trip until you know because you don'twant to be stranded in a strange country where you know no one. If he doesn't reply take that as a sign. You deserve to he treated much better than to be left waiting and wondering, and you will find a wonderful MAN (I put emphasis on man) who will treat you right. I hope this helps and I'm so sorry you are in this situation, I too have been there and its not nice.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2014): It's possible that your boyfriend is caught up with work but it's definitely sketchy that he has not contacted you in 3 days before you are due to see him for Christmas. If it's possible, take the flight to the place, call him before you go, and when you get there a few times letting him know that you're at the airport and that if he does not respond within an allotted time (a few hours), you are going to exchange your return ticket and fly back home that same day.
I don't want to upset you or scare you but if I were you, I would distance myself from him a bit because he doesn't seem to want to get into contact with you.
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