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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How mad should I be with my BF for talking about our sex life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 505 days ago

31 July 2023 (F)

age 18-21 - So my BF let me borrow a headset and game with him and some online friends he plays with and I got to hear a lot of crazy boy talk. It was geeky boys talking like they are hard core warriors or whatever and a lot of trash talk making fun of each other. My BF is geeky but he ... (475 words)

Do I deserve my punishment?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 503 days ago

31 July 2023 (F) age 16-17 - just over a week ago we broke up from school i am 15 me and some of my friends went out and drunk some alcohol we then became loud and started the throw dustbins around by this time we were all drunk, the police were called and i was put in the back of a police car and taken ... (310 words)

Is he shy? scared? Or not interested?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 505 days ago

31 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Female 30s I've recently met someone that I think is interested in me, but a little unsure. He's doing some work for my nextdoor neighbour but I've noticed him always glancing across at me and smiling when I'm around and he's helped me a couple of times with moving furniture... (122 words)

Friend rejected me when I said I loved them but now acting very touchy feely

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31 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in a pretty painful situation with a best friend and I would love advice or an unbiased opinion. We have been very good friends for many years, almost a decade. My romantic feelings only developed in the last several months, and were quite a surprise - but very welcome... (495 words)

Slept with my ex and now he’s distant

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30 July 2023 (F)

- I’m so confused right now. My ex Dan who’s 33 and I have been over for a year. The relationship only lasted 15 months but the connection between us was incredible. Dan has a lot of personal issues he’s been through so much in his life and was incredibly insecure and this is ... (398 words)

Why did my friend's daughter think I was going to surprise her with something I couldn't afford?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 508 days ago

30 July 2023 (F)

age 26-29 - Not really a question but just an odd situation i found myself in…? My friend invited me to join her and her 11 years old daughter to a trip to the zoo. Her daughter really wanted to do an animal encounter but it was ridiculously expensive so my friend told her ... (437 words)

How do I convince my husband that our friends need to come to us this time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 508 days ago

30 July 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - Quick question. My husbands colleague who I has become one of his closest friends moved away to a city 3 hours away by car, 9 years ago, with his wife. They still keep in touch and we still see them once/twice a year. What I have an issue with is that since they m... (309 words)

Boss repeat

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 508 days ago

30 July 2023 (M)

age 41-50 - Me late 40s. My boss is a lady younger than me but much senior in role. We both were traveling in car for business trip. I was on wheels and she was in back seat. Suddenly, she was talking on phone in chivalrous tone briefly explaining purpose of trip followed by a comment that ... (120 words)

What is the deal with boss's conversation where I can hear?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 509 days ago

29 July 2023 (M)

Am I being too sensitive over their "marking" of my bakes?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 511 days ago

28 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I enjoy baking as a hobby- I’m self taught and often bake for family and friends - I don’t get paid I just enjoy it. On a fair few occasions I have baked cakes and biscuits, cupcakes etc…. For my husbands workplace when they have had charity events, which they often... (348 words)

Do I have to choose between my brother or his ex wife for the sake of my neice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 512 days ago

28 July 2023 (F)

age 51-59 - Great site...I do come on here sometimes and get good advice. My niece is an actor here in Canada. Somewhere along the way she became addicted to fentanyl. To make matters worse she is based in Vancouver and for awhile she was out on East Hastings in Vancouve... (402 words)

My partner's mum seems to dislike me and it is making things awkward.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 508 days ago

27 July 2023 (F) age 26-29 - Partner and I have been dating for about three and a half years now. Things with his mum seemed okay at first, but I have noticed in the last year or so she has become snide with me and throws little comments here and there. For example, my partner's parents invited us ... (573 words)

Not enjoying being a mum - how do I snap out of this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 503 days ago

27 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm going to be brutally honest - I'm struggling with mum life, in fact life I'm general! Back story - I never wanted kids, nor did I particularly warm to them (I'm more of an animal person than a people person!). When my husband and I married the idea of a family grew on m... (356 words)

Why does my husband cry more over someone he doesn't know rather than his own children?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 498 days ago

26 July 2023 (F)

age - Im in serious crises and dilemma.My husband just cried when he got the news,. that her favorite singer died, . it was not the first time, . he died, and was devastated a few years ago when another fav singer died,. he also cried, and got very emotional when his father died,. ... (174 words)

Should I just accept the way things are with my family?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 515 days ago

25 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m really struggling right now and need some help, advice and a bit of love please, Cupid friends. I just feel like my life is falling apart. Especially when it comes to my family. It’s super complex, but I have alcoholic parents who were very emotionally abusive. There’s... (680 words)

What went wrong with our dating? I thought we were doing ok!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 516 days ago

23 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I need advice on what went wrong with this guy. We met in April. He totally swept me off my feet I'm talking expensive dates,flowers a love story. He even gave me money when I was in need. It was long distance and he was coming to me every weekend. After forth date he asked me ... (621 words)

Husband left me stranded at restaurant after we had a disagreement. Is the marriage over?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 514 days ago

22 July 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid I (40f) been married to my husband (35m) for 2 years, dated for about 3 yrs before marriage. Have 1 kid (3 yr). Got a new car recently based on my husband suggestions. He never came to see the car or test drive, I did it and liked it. He hates the new car so much ... (365 words)

Boyfriends relationship with his full blood sister

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22 July 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has only one full blood sister (4 years older than him) after his younger sister died 10 years ago in her twenties. I didn’t know her, as we have only been together for 6 years. I know all families are different, but I’ve noticed he seems quite close to his... (509 words)

Friendless because I hate sexuality

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 517 days ago

21 July 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been experienceing something all my life that is making me increasingly frustrated and angry It's people who assume single people are miserable and lonely. Well, I AM lonely and always have been but it's not bc I'm single - it's because I don't have friends and don't ... (1526 words)

Friend has a drug substance dependency.

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20 July 2023 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Agony aunts and uncles, I live in a city where I suspect there is a high proportion of mental health issues and substance abuse (Berlin). I think this is linked to it being a city that is very creative and also very queer-friendly. These two fields often bring them their ... (265 words)

How can we politely turn down going to a house being offered for a shower?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 520 days ago

19 July 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - A friend of mine will be having a baby shower soon and a mutual friend of ours who had volunteered to host it at her house has had to pull out so we are currently looking for somewhere to go or for someone else to host it. Unfortunately the cost is quite expensive to hir... (277 words)

Competitive cousin is making me jealous!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 518 days ago

19 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - My cousin and I are the same age (literally a few months apart) and ever since we were small she has always been competitive with me. She’d always want what I had or wanted to do things I did like ballet and swimming and then try to beat me at it. As we grew olde... (508 words)

Shall I hand in my notice at work so I can go to visit my family abroad?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 520 days ago

19 July 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a dilemma and not sure what to do… I got a new job in February and I told them at the interview that I had a 3 week holiday booked - (flights already paid for), to Australia in September (I live in the UK). I was told it was fine. When they offered me the job I... (519 words)

His remark has me wondering if I should end our friendship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 521 days ago

19 July 2023 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm a 51 year old woman who is currently single (been divorced 10 years now). I had a relationship with another man two years younger than me straight after I got divorced - a rebound I guess - but this ended up with me finding out he had gone back on dating websites (which ... (394 words)

How do I approach my girlfriend and tell her its ok if she's bi or a lesbian?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 521 days ago

19 July 2023 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello people, right so I think my girlfriend might be in the closet, or bi, or maybe just a free spirit, i don't know, let me explain. I know she's had 3 experiences with girls before but she always describes them as "just naughty" or play things, her words not mine. Whenever ... (271 words)

Should I text him and ask where we stand or should I end it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 522 days ago

17 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend asked me for space and time after we had a misunderstanding and it’s been a month now of no contact. When I see him at public events he stares at me when he thinks I’m not looking but he makes no effort to come talk to me and doesn’t approach me. It already feels ... (205 words)

Why does this couple act this way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 523 days ago

17 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I really don't know what to think of these people's behavior. Can you help me make sense of it? This couple live near me. I have said hello to the lady, just in passing, 3 times (in case she maybe hadn't heard me for some reason). Both her and her husband have quickly cha... (344 words)

I am extremely attached to my daughter and have no life of my own, by choice

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 521 days ago

16 July 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - I have turned to DC for help over the years and never once have this lovely site and the wonderful aunts let me down. Thank you all, for your selfless advice and for helping people the way you do:) I feel strange talking about my problem but here it is. I am 40 years old. I ... (545 words)

How would I even broach the topic of attempting to rekindle something with someone who once hurt me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 523 days ago

16 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there - I have a situation who I don’t know who else to speak to about it. 3 years ago I was in a relationship with someone who I genuinely fell in love with. He had a lot of maturing to do and couldn’t quite seem to get to the point of saying he loved me back. We had a ton ... (363 words)

I told my friend she was my forever crush girl

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 525 days ago

13 July 2023 (F) age 22-25 - I told my friend through text she is my forever girl crush (I am also a girl) and she didn’t say anything. She usually responds to my text within an hour or less. I have explained it means someone you admire etc. is she uncomfortable did I freak her out? ... (50 words)

He's a millionaire but says money is tight. Is he testing me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 528 days ago

10 July 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - I’ve been divorced for 2 years. Separated in 2019. I haven’t dated in many years. Now it’s online dating which is daunting and sometimes intimidating. I’m aware this question is ignorant and judgmental. Please go easy on me. I met another divorcee through social media. He’s 53 ... (209 words)

Is it ok to go to the dr when I feel sort of sick rather than waiting till I am extremely sick?

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10 July 2023 (M)

age 36-40 - I am getting over a case of bronchitis (I am still coughing and I am having problems falling asleep at night but I feel like I am recovering from it). One of the mistakes that I made is waiting too long to go to my doctor to get checked out. I just assumed that my cough wo... (153 words)

I seem to keep friends at arm's length. Is this ok?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 526 days ago

9 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello cupids, This is more of a friendship question. but really keen to get your wisdom and advice! I have always had very good friendships during my life but have definitely noticed a pattern where I prefer to stick to having a couple of very close friendships and like ... (487 words)

Partner had surgery and hasn't touched me since then yet does all kinds of work for friends

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 531 days ago

7 July 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - I am so frustrated and feel like leaving my partner. Me and my partner moved in together 1 year ago after he had heart surgery. We had been together 10 years. I feel I have been very accomodatong and patient. He has not come near me in any way since the surgery claiming... (460 words)

Does he like me more than friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 532 days ago

7 July 2023 (F)

age 26-29 - I am really bad at picking up signs if a guy likes me. This guy we meet up monthly for a gaming community event with friends, and this is how we met. We mostly talk online because there is a 2-3 hour drive between us. I know it would be better taken off the internet, hoping it ... (486 words)

Coworker questioning my virginity and sexuality

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 533 days ago

7 July 2023 (F)

age 36-40 - Please help me address/respond to a nosy coworker. In the past I went to her about questions regarding guys/dating and that I told a guy something about me and I think it freaked him out. It was about my weight and how heavy I used to be-but she assumed it was because I told ... (221 words)

He uses my secrets against me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 524 days ago

5 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - How do you deal with a bf who uses your secrets against you? We've been together about 2 years. Whenever he argues which is quite abit he decides to throw things on my face. For example I ruined all my relationships and I can't keep a man, I'm a bastard because I didn't... (77 words)

Friend that cut me off keeps texting me even though I haven't responded in a year. How do I get her to leave me alone?

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5 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Someone I had considered a really good friend cut me off because she didn't agree with one of the decisions I was making (September 2021). We were coworkers at our previous employer. She questioned my judgement because she didn't agree with it, and then told me she can't talk ... (288 words)

Dealing with a narcisstic man

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 533 days ago

4 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Has anyone ever dealt with a narcissistic man in a relationship? I am living with a guy who never says he is wrong. No matter what he does, it’s my fault, my mistake, my actions that has caused an argument or a disagreement. He’s always adding other woman on social media an... (137 words)

How to deal with a boyfriend who always asks for money?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 531 days ago

3 July 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - How to deal with a boyfriend who always asks for money? We've been together 2 years now and in this time he always asks for money. His latest request is his rent for $1500.00. He is always out of work. Some excuse. I need to focus on my own issues rather than support a lazy ... (84 words)

Friend got birth control and lied

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 534 days ago

2 July 2023 (F)

age 13-15 - My friend Lex I just found out rode her bike to what's basically an abortion clinic and got birth control. She told her parents she was with me and I almost got in trouble for lying for her when I knew nothing about it. Luckily I was at work like I was supposed to be. She ... (158 words)

Does she want more? Friendly and flirty

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2 July 2023 (M)

age 30-35 - Dear Agony Aunts, It’s been over a year since I got out of a toxic relationship, and as I want to move forward with my life, I am willing to give love another chance. At my workplace, I have met with a very friendly Africain American girl, and I am curious about if anythi... (367 words)

What should I expect?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 536 days ago

2 July 2023 (M)

age 30-35 - Theoretical question. Say I meet a nice woman, and she eventually tells me that she wants to engage in sexual activity. Ok, cool, but, I don’t have much experience with sex, and I just want to know what should be expected of if I do the missionary position, and then, she does ... (75 words)