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writes: I told my friend through text she is my forever girl crush (I am also a girl) and she didn’t say anything. She usually responds to my text within an hour or less. I have explained it means someone you admire etc. is she uncomfortable did I freak her out?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (15 July 2023):
 Why would you send a text like that to your friend? As I understand the term "crush", it refers to someone towards whom you have romantic feelings. Perhaps you understand it differently? Perhaps your friend understands it differently? Whatever, I still wonder why you sent the text. What was your goal? Perhaps your friend is wondering the same?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2023): I’m the original poster and I want to first thank everyone for their help and responses. I reached out to her again and she said she was busy with work. I did not and probably will not bring up this topic again. We did not discuss it but we are still friends thankfully so lesson learned!
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reader, kenny +, writes (15 July 2023):
 Yes is does sound like she is a bit freaked out by what you said.
There is nothing that you can do now, you have sent the text and there is nothing you can do. Unfortunately we can't unscramble scrambled eggs, so we have to live with the consequences of our actions.
You might have to accept the fact that she may never want to talk to you anymore.
Just use this as a lesson, a learning curve, and next time think before you hit that send button.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 July 2023):
 "is she uncomfortable did I freak her out?"
Probably.
I think if she had ASKED if you had any such crushes and who they were, sharing it would be just fine, but yeah it's kind of uncomfortable for some to be "named" a crush, especially if they don't feel that way in return.
Depending on where you are from, most people don't call someone they admire "my forever girl crush".
Admiring and crushing on someone are two different states of feelings and being.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 July 2023):
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2023): You probably did, but there's nothing you can do abouut it now, untill she decides what she really thinks about it.
Let this be a lesson to you.
Most part of the communication is NON-VERBAL! How you look at someone, the tone of voice, body language... there's a good chhance that she would have understood you better.
Also, take care of the words you use. I love my best friend to death, we are liek sisters, but I would never us ethe word "crush".
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reader, TryingToBeFree2023 +, writes (13 July 2023):
 She sounds like it. If someone I thought was a platonic friend told me that, short of being a mean person or hurting their feelings to say I don't feel the same way (I have to work on that)... if just not respond and hope it went away so we wouldn't have to address it. To keep things as they were. If the person kept trying to explain, I'd probably draw way, way back from the friendship.
Leave it alone. Stop trying to get a reaction or assurance or affirmation or thank you. Let it go, or she just might let you go.
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