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writes:I enjoy baking as a hobby- I’m self taught and often bake for family and friends - I don’t get paid I just enjoy it.On a fair few occasions I have baked cakes and biscuits, cupcakes etc…. For my husbands workplace when they have had charity events, which they often do.Now a couple of months ago all his colleagues and their partners (myself included) met up for an event his workplace was hosting. I met all his colleagues for the first time. Now a few of his colleagues decided it would be funny to score my baking out of 10- they had practically listed what I made - scoring items 6/10 4/10 8/10 etc…. Now I personally found this a little rude of them - not only does it take me time to bake for them (I work a 40 hour week), the cost of all the ingredients comes out of my own pocket - I get zero benefits baking for them.Just to note no one had been drinking or were drunk -if they were I would have put it down to the drink talking. So now they have another event coming up and they need me to do some baking and I refused. I told my husband he can buy some cakes and bring those in as I’m not prepared to waste my spare time (that I don’t have much of) to have my baked scores out of 10! My husband told me that I took their comments too personally- maybe I did but I still think it’s rude to score someone’s baking unless they have an actual business that they paid for! Of course my husband thinks I’m being stupid! Maybe I am but my point is, is it not rude to mark someone’s bakes that someone has voluntarily done for you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2023): I could have written this post myself! Something similar happened to me too and I stopped baking for them, I made my excuses and they didn’t get another thing from me! No you aren’t being too sensitive- you are doing them a favor which they should be grateful for!!! It was VERY rude of them, regardless if they were joking or not- it’s wrong to rate people bakes who are doing out of the goddess of their heart!Never bake for them again, only bake for those who appreciate it.I’d have words with your husband too- in fact show him these responses!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2023): I totally agree with you. It is very rude - and it is superior. You could also look at it this way. Usually when someone's cooking or baking is being reviewed it is by an expert. These people have no qualifications or skills in reviewing. Unless they are expert bakers they are not fit to review your baking. They know diddly squat about this.
When you take a driving test it is an expert driver who rates you, not just anyone. And not just for fun, for safety.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 July 2023):
 Oh HECK NO! There wouldn't get another crumb of my baking when they can not appreciate it.
And hubby can do the baking from now on. He is on thin ice.
You are absolutely within your right to refuse.
Besides, now someone else can step up and take over the free baking for charity events. Either one of the workers there or their spouses.
You do NOT owe them squat.
Your husband should support YOU in this.
And of course, it's personal! When some moron decides to "score" your FREE contribution as "fun" for them, they don't deserve a thing. Ungrateful idiots!
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (29 July 2023):
 You're a much more tolerant person than I, if you found this just a "little" rude! I would have nothing to do with these people ever again and I would certainly never bake/cook for them. The audacity to rate your baking when a.) They barely know you (b) meeting you for the first time and(c) you're doing it out of goodness and they're hogging it for free.... Not only would I be mad at them, I'd not be very happy with the husband as well, if he thinks you're being "stupid".
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