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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend has only one full blood sister (4 years older than him) after his younger sister died 10 years ago in her twenties. I didn’t know her, as we have only been together for 6 years.I know all families are different, but I’ve noticed he seems quite close to his sister, and the way he is with her I was wondering if it’s inappropriate or whether it’s just the fact that all families are different, and that’s just how they are…?I’ve noticed once when we met up with his sister (and the rest of his family) that she was wearing quite a revealing top, and I saw my boyfriend take a quick glance at her chest (it was hard to miss the way she was dressed, but still I find it a bit odd that you would look in that area at your own sister). I have a brother, and if he was wearing anything revealing an area of his body that was designed to attract the opposite sex I would feel a bit grossed by looking. Obviously there is also the fact how all families are brought up differently. We were all very private and swearing wasn’t allowed, and the subject of sex was not discussed. My dad also made sure we dressed modestly for school, with skirts at knee length, etc.My boyfriend’s family was the total opposite it seems, so they’re more open with stuff, but to me I think sex and sharing your body should be personal and between two people.The next thing I’ve noticed is they’re always laughing at stuff, including rude jokes about ‘cocks’ or once he was speaking in a foreign language referring to ‘your sisters vagina’. I found that odd. Apparently it’s what a lot of Indians/Pakistan people say in a jokey way, or at least they do so between them at the place they work (where there are a lot of Indians/Pakistan people there). I told him I found it weird but he just made light of it and explained that’s what they say at work as a joke, but I still find it weird…He arranged to meet her on her own recently, and although I was invited I didn’t go, as I didn’t fancy it, partly because I wondered if I’d feel like a spare part, but also because I didn’t have the money for the taxi fayre and also it was for cocktails, and I’m trying to cut down on eating and drinking as much. I’m always invited but I don’t feel prioritised and it’s as though I’m going with them. It’s always been with all the family before but arranging stuff with his family often takes more effort than it’s worth.Hopefully I’m overthinking and there’s nothing to it, but I just wanted some outside unbiased opinions.Thank you all for your help.
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