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... Send *una~ a private message | | | *una~'s profile:I'm a 28 years old girl who lives in Canada. I enjoy helping others with advice as other helps me with my problem. I think this is a great way for any one to see it from different lights. I often think we are all good at suggesting advice to other people's problem, however, we are blinded when we have to find a solution to our own problem. Maybe it's true that love is blind. At least it blinds the one who’s involved.
I'm in a steady relationship with my boyfriend right now. We met online, which I still think it's unbelievable. We are in a long distant relationship but he still drives 2 hrs to spend every weekend together. We are looking into moving in together soon. It will be much better for us since we long to see each other every day.
I know relationship is hard to maintain, let alone grow. I do have faith that we will be able to do it. We both know that we are together because we want to, not because we have to.
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No replies yet... 29 May 2007: One day when I was traveling, I saw this interesting looking wooden puzzle box. You have to do different steps in order to have access to the inside of the box (of course it comes with direction which you will hold on to). I thought it’ll be the ...
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Is meeting people from Internet dates a bad thing?
Q. Dating people off the internet and going to meet them is a bad thing? I dunno why but feel tense if I tell my parents where my new partner came from if i did find someone of internet......
A. 23 July 2008: I agree with you the old school parents thinks dating on internet is dangerous. All they hear is young girls get hurt when they decide to meet the guy they met online. I think it depends how mature you are too. I agree there are bad people out there ... (read in full...)
I think he was recording us when we had sex. What can I do?
Q. i been with my bf for a long time and im not sure but i think he was recording us while was were having sex. and i reali dnt knw wat 2 do. whether to ask him why he done that, or tell my sister about it and if i do i reali dnt knw wat she will do to ...
A. 23 July 2008: That's a big issue. I personally will not be happy about my boyfriend recording our bedroom business. I don't think it's legal to do so too.
I'm not sure what kind of relationship you have with him, but it might be better to find out for your... (read in full...)
I need advice about my boyfriend's family. I find them a bit difficult to cope with.
Q. Hi - could really do with advice regarding my boyfriend and his family. I have been married before and my ex-husbands family made our relationship very difficult. They were very snobby and looked down on me and often picked fault. i felt so ...
A. 23 July 2008: My boyfriend's parents lived on a farm and I'm totally a city girl. They have 8 super-large size dogs and 15 cats that goes in and out of the house. Because of all the animals, the house is also messy and smelly. The good thing is they understand ... (read in full...)
Can a marriage work when two people care about one another, but don't have 'chemisty'?
Q. My husband and I had a very short "dating" experience, we went straight from meeting to moving in to marriage. We didn't take the time to get to know each other and it has been a very long, challenging road just over the past year. We both admit ...
A. 22 July 2008: I really believe the chemistry can be worked on if you both desires. Think about the good things you like about him when you two first started dating. Are you discover more good things now you're married? I know in the western society, a relation... (read in full...)
He sort of half asked me to marry him by doing a text and not sending it but showing me instead. Then he acts like I've said no. I'm really confused.
Q. hi i was wondering if anoyne could maybe help ok ill get to the point me and my bf have been together for 2year and 5mnth like evrey relationship weve had are ups and downs but we get on really well it was his birthday not so long ago i didnt have...
A. 18 July 2008: Maybe he wants you to talk to him about it. He's afraid you'll say no.
I know from a girl's point of view, we DO NOT want to be the one who mentions it. But if you don't, he'll think you are trying to say no by not talking about it. So I think you ... (read in full...)
My online date cut contact with me after 2 months!
Q. I talk to a guy on-line dating we meant , were seeing each other a few times a week , texing and enjoying each other company . then he stop answering my tex and when I asked him what was wrong he said his ex came back from florda . I didn't even ...
A. 18 July 2008: Hi there,
I met my boyfriend of 3 years on a dating site on the internet. However, I did meet some guys that began a very close relationship (online) and all of a sudden disappear. The thing with internet dating is that the guy might be talking ... (read in full...)
Met a cute guy, any advice on what to do if I see him again?
Q. I was at work (at a theme park) selling pictures after the ride. It was going really slowly and hardly anyone was buying them. A very cute guy came in line for the ride (the ride line and picture place are next to each other) he said hi to me. When...
A. 14 July 2008: That's pretty sweet of him.
Yes, you did the right thing. If you see him again, I think you will know what to do. It's one of those destiny thing. I believe if it's meant for you two to meet, then you'll naturally know what to do if you see him agai... (read in full...)
Feeling clueless as to what to do about my partner's smoking!
Q. I am at odds on what to do about my smoking partner. Is it wrong to ask him to stop? I've read some of the other posts here and some seem to be strongly of the opinion that it is wrong to expect them to quit as you entered the relationship kno...
A. 14 April 2008: I do not think it's wrong of you to want your partner to be healthy. I would be like you if my boyfriend smokes. Besides, if he smokes, that would affect you too. Maybe you should just be honest with how you feel. It's still up to him to decide what ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from really bad period pains! Any tips on how to obviate them?
Q. Hi, i'm suffering from really bad period pains! And when i'm in classes at school I don't know what to do because the pain becomes unbearable - and its not like I can just take a paracetemol because some teachers are quite strict about it! ...
A. 14 April 2008: You should talk to your doctor about it. One thing I found that reduced my period pain is when I was on birth control pills. Don't be afraid of the name birth control pills. Lots of people take it for other reasons than birth control. Maybe you can ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have advice for me on having this baby?
Q. If im going to have this baby its going to change things so much im in school is there anyone whos been through this i could do with the advice x...
A. 14 April 2008: Sorry to sound mean, but how old are you? Are you really 10-12 years old? You're expecting a baby. I can totally understand it'll change everything. Where's the dad of the baby?
If you can provide more information, I can prehaps give you more advi... (read in full...)
Should I trust him if I commit to a mortgage agreement
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for 3 years. We are both in our mid 20s. He is now living in different city because of work. He would like to buy a property so I can move up to his city about 1/2 year later (when my work gets orga...
A. 28 March 2008: Thank you all for your reply. I have another question now:
What kind of legal preparation should I be looking at but won't make my boyfriend feel I don't trust him? Afterall, I really do trust he won't do anything to screw me over.... (read in full...)
Can someone tell me how to prevent leaking during my period?
Q. Hey Ive had my period before But I sometimes leak at school! Its happened 4 times already. And my school has a strict dress code so if I want to tie my jacket around my waist its dress code and i get a refrel!-.- I need some advice.How can i...
A. 24 October 2007: I totally understand your situation. I sometimes have a really heavy flow and it is very troublesome at times. I started using tampons with a maxi-pad at the same time. Tampons are awesome. It will leak-proof when you're doing sports. The maxi-pad ... (read in full...)
Abuesed for ten years.
Q. I was sexually abused by my stepfather for about ten years and i was so afraid and ashamed to tell anyone..i finally got the courage to tell my boyfriend at age 17 and and he helped me to tell my mother..so i wrote my mother a letter telling her, ...
A. 24 October 2007: I once heard someone said this: You can love you parents, love your husband, and love your kids. However, the one who will spend the rest of your life with is your husband. Your parents and kids are from another generation from you. I don't know if ... (read in full...)
Does it hurt the second time?
Q. I had sex for the first time last year but haven't seen then because it was a holiday thing, but now i'm with this lad and just wanted to know if it hurts for the second time. it didnt really hurt me the first time that much but i bleed, does me not ...
A. 24 October 2007: Oh, I can totally relate to that.
My boyfriend is British and I'm Asian. Size is definitely different between the two races. He was my first man. It hurted me very much the first few times. Then it was fine after that. He went away for 3 months and ... (read in full...)
I love him when I don't see him, When I see him, it makes me question if he's the one.
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a distant relationship. We only see each other on the weekend. We talk on the phone almost every night. It has been like this for 2 years and our relationship is very steady. I used to love spending time with my boyfrien...
A. 19 October 2007: What makes me disappointed or annoyed over the weekend is that it doesn't seem like he missed me that much and wants to do exciting things with me anymore. Sometimes, he would rather play video games than go out and walk around. Maybe we are gether ... (read in full...)
Should I have kids with my boyfriend when I can see an example of what our kids will be like?
Q. I'm 24 years old and my boyfriend is 26. We have been dating for 2 years now. We are planning to move in soon. I was just thinking the other day I don't think I want to have a kid with him. I love him dearly, but I don't know if I can stand for my ...
A. 19 October 2007: Thanks everyone for their opinion with my problem. I understand there are things about my boyfriend that I don't like. However, there are other things that made me love him very much as well. I don't think there's a perfect guy out there that I love ... (read in full...)
How can I balance between disciplining my bf's daughter and being liked by her at the same time?
Q. My boyfriend has a daughter (age 7) from his previous marriage. She lives with her mom and I get to see her every other weekends. His daughter likes me a lot, but sometimes I don’t know how to say no to her. She likes to play rough with my boyfriend ...
A. 13 September 2007: Thank you for everyone who has responded to my question. This question is going to be very important for me and I would hate to do something wrong. I’ll give more details as it might trigger you to tell me more advice.
I have been with my boyf... (read in full...)
How can I balance between disciplining my bf's daughter and being liked by her at the same time?
Q. My boyfriend has a daughter (age 7) from his previous marriage. She lives with her mom and I get to see her every other weekends. His daughter likes me a lot, but sometimes I don’t know how to say no to her. She likes to play rough with my boyfriend ...
A. 13 September 2007: Thank you for everyone who has responded to my question. This question is going to be very important for me and I would hate to do something wrong. I’ll give more details as it might trigger you to tell me more advice.
I have been with my boyf... (read in full...)
I'm basically having to choose between my sister and my ex, whom I still want to be with; am I wrong to feel like this isn't fair?
Q. iv been split up with my ex fiance for nearly 2 month now. but hes suddenly arrived back on the scene asking if he can see me and stuff, which i have agreed to as only friends, even thou deep down i want more. he has told me his life has went do...
A. 25 July 2007: I totally understand your situation. My boyfriend has a daughter who I adore too. Your sister might try to protect you by telling you he’s not the one. But I think you are the only one that can tell who’s the perfect one for you. Your sister can ... (read in full...)
I'm basically having to choose between my sister and my ex, whom I still want to be with; am I wrong to feel like this isn't fair?
Q. iv been split up with my ex fiance for nearly 2 month now. but hes suddenly arrived back on the scene asking if he can see me and stuff, which i have agreed to as only friends, even thou deep down i want more. he has told me his life has went do...
A. 23 July 2007: Yes, family is important. What makes family different from a friend or a boyfriend is that they are related to you and no one can change that. Family member should also cares for you but not telling you what to do or else they will disown you. They ... (read in full...)
My BF put his computer game before me! Why would he do that?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have always had a shaky relationship, that has now gone on for almost 2 years, but somehow we always recover from any arguments we have. For the last week we've been on and off, on and off...Just the smallest things would have us ...
A. 18 May 2007: I was in the same situation as you, only my bf plays Final Fantasy XI. I think WOW is not as bad as FFXI. I came to understand how it’s addictive. I asked my bf to explain to me about the game. I realize you are always doing tasks with other people. ... (read in full...)
I have low confidence in my looks. Should I just dress like all the other girls?
Q. i don't think i'm pretty enough coz all my m8s and most of the girls in my yr all wear make-up and rolls their skirts up and i don't see the point of gettin in 2 trouble for it so i neva 2 it. and after nine yrs of bein bullied for the way i look ...
A. 17 May 2007: Why are you saying you're not pretty? Make up and clothes plays such a little role in making you pretty. You've probably heard of inner beauty is all it matters but probably don't believe it hey? Well, let's think about a solution in a practical ... (read in full...)
How do I best deal with my bikini-line?
Q. I have a secret shame...body hair. I have olive skin and long dark hair that grows really fast - great on your head.. not so great on your bikini line. I don't know what the best way is to handle this problem. I've tried shaving, hair removal cream ...
A. 17 May 2007: I understand it's frustrating. If you are determine to have this problem solved, you have to be willing to handle the pain.
There's 2 things I've got in my life that I am very glad that I've tried. First is hair straighten (because my hair is fizz... (read in full...)
Did my girlfriend do something with her ex? She had a bruise on her inner thigh.
Q. my girlfriend went to her ex-boyfriends the other night to get some of her things. she said she would be home later and didn't come back till morning. the next morning her and i were getting intimate and i noticed a golfball size bruise on her inner ...
A. 17 May 2007: Did you calming ask her or did you accuse her doing something behind your back? This is a very important question to ask yourself.
If you think about it logically, if you accuse her and ask her why there's a bruise on her inner thigh, then of cour... (read in full...)
In my culture, a woman must surrender to her man's libido when married. This is not my view-but can a woman's desire for a man mean fidelity in a marriage?
Q. I am born in asian culture and sex is a highly debatable issue when it comes to male-female relationships here. Typically, a woman is not supposed to have any desires of her own and have to surrender to her man's libido when married. She is to be ...
A. 11 May 2007: Very interesting....
I'm Chinese myself and I sort of understand what you mean, but still not fully.
I think in the modern world, girls are now more educated and knows more about options they have. However, it depends on the girl. Being raise in... (read in full...)
How can my boyfriend be so certain that I'm really the one for him?
Q. Hello. I'm 22 and my bf will be 24 in a couple of months. We've been dating about 1.5 years and up until recently it was so wonderful. He is my first long term boyfriend and I lost my virginity to him. He has had prior relationships lasting a few ...
A. 10 April 2007: Just remember there’s no guarantee in life. You will never know what will happen in a relationship no matter if you started dating someone, in a long term relationship, or even after getting married. What’s important is do you love him? What love ... (read in full...)
He says I'm too quiet in the bedroom... I want to show more appreciation, but how?!
Q. My guy says I'm too quiet in the bedroom--so much so that he sort of looses his train of thought and feels like he's wasting his time when we're physical together! He's talked to me about it, and I've just said I like to be able to relax and not put ...
A. 4 April 2007: For me, intimacy must be when both parties are not afraid of the surrounding. It is hard when you’re afraid to be heard. I understand we girls tend to get all shy about showing our enjoyment in sex. I do too. One thing you can easily do and ... (read in full...)
The sex is great but how will I know if I have had an orgasm ?
Q. Dear Cupid, what does an orgazam feels like? I am very pleased with the sex with my boyfriend and I enjoy it so much, and sometimes I feel that I am coming or that I am very close...but how will I KNOW that this is an orgazam? Is it just a great pl...
A. 30 March 2007: Remember making love is a part of building a relationship. You need time and observation to enjoy it more and more.
I agree with annoymous that if you don't know, then you probably haven't experience it yet. Don't worry, you need time to learn abou... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to help a girl with a broken heart ?
Q. whats the best way to help a gurl with a broken heart?...
A. 30 March 2007: I don't know if you will agree with me (as every girl is different), I find it very comforting when someone is holding me in their arm and not say a thing. The fact that I know he's not worth it, or there's always someone out there that's better, ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend never calls when he says he will, We love each other so why is this ?
Q. I don't know what to do about my boyfriend's bad calling habbits anymore! We're in a long distance relationship and a few weeks ago he moved out of his roomates place and back home with his parents. His cell phone has been dead for the past month ...
A. 30 March 2007: Sorry to hear all that. I know exactly how you feel. I'm just like you, always want to hear from my bf. Only I'm lucky my bf will call when he said he will.
I'm in a long distant relationship too. He also just moved back with his parents in a litt... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Had DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? I want to hear your stories...
Q. Has DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? If so, please let me know. Either post here (anon if you prefer) or send me a private mail. Sometimes when I'm coding at midnight or tinkering with an errant database, or wondering wh...
A. 2 March 2007: I cannot say how much I appreciate having a site like this for me to ask questions about problems in my relationship. Everybody needs reassurance once in a while. Everybody needs other people's opinion when trying to make a decision about what to ... (read in full...)
How can I get skinnier? I'm 5 foot 9" and 149lbs.
Q. Hey everyone, I have a question, Im 19 and in vet school. I have an amazing boyfriend, who is at university about 3 hours away. I know I should be happy, but I cant help but worry. Im 5ft 9 and I weigh 149.6 lbs. I feel nauseous every time i look in ...
A. 26 February 2007: Dear Maid_Marian_vetbabe, You're not fat or overweight. If you're 5' 9", it's totally reasonable to weigh 149.6lbs. From the sound of it, you're heavier than those models you see on the magazine because you have muscles all over your body. Pleas... (read in full...)
I met him through an internet dating agency and he was the ideal man... until he just disappeared off the face of the earth!
Q. ok, here's the deal. i recently split up with my boyfriend of 3 years and a friend told me to sign up to an internet dating agency where i met an amazing guy. we exchanged emails for a week, swapped numbers and last sunday we met up for the first...
A. 17 January 2007: I hope he will call back and tell you a good reason why you haven't heard from him.
I've been though the internet dating thing too. I've meet this guy who I talked to on msn every night. We had a great time talking and always make plans to talk ... (read in full...)
He's spontaneous...I like things planned ahead of time! Is this just a guy thing?
Q. My boyfriend never seem like he's on top of things. I always see him as not knowing how to prepare things ahead of time. Maybe I'm a bit on the organize side. But I like the idea of knowing what to do next. On the other hand, my boyfriend is a ...
A. 12 January 2007: Thanks guys! The thing about how you tend to find someone who completes you is something I never realized. Thinking back to why I love my boyfriend, it is because he is someone who has his own character yet shares same values as me. He is a caring ... (read in full...)
My holiday hasn't even started and I'm in tears from missing my bf. Is it normal to feel this way?
Q. Hey guys, i'm going on holiday at half past 5 tomorrow morning to America (currently in England) i'll be there for two weeks and it has only been 3 days since I said goodbye to my boyfriend but I already miss him so much that I end up in tears ...
A. 8 January 2007: It is totally fine to feel this way. My boyfriend went away for 2 months and I was in tears the first few weeks. It seems like your case is easier to handle. Why don't you focus on how fun your vacation is? Time will fly when your mind is focus on ... (read in full...)
Is sweating part of puberty?
Q. is sweating related to puberty? if it is then does that mean that i will grow out of it?...
A. 4 January 2007: If it's really bothering you, I have a suggestion.
I used to sweat a lot in the arm pit area. It was embarrassing and limited me to wear only dark color clothing. I was told by a friend about a product called "certain dri". You can get it easi... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me how to gain muscle mass without taking protein supplements?
Q. Hi! i'm 16 and work out 3 times per week can anyone tell me how to gain muscle mass without taking protein supplements? i take high protein foods and have no results in my 12 inch arms....
A. 10 October 2006: I don't know if it's true, but I heard (from a guy)if you eat a potato every day along with working out, you will gain muscle mass very effectively.
I know starch makes you gain weight, and it will turn to sugar. But if you are skinny and lack... (read in full...)
How come I worry about 'being alone for the rest of my life"? What's wrong with me?
Q. I'm 19 and yet I'm worried about being alone for the rest of my life. What's wrong with me?!...
A. 2 October 2006: I don't know if it will make you feel better. I met my bf (first boyfriend) when I was 22. I was in school and focused on getting good grades all along. After I graduated from university, I feel I should start looking. I have to admit I'm very picky ... (read in full...)
Does having sex in a shower cause bladder infections?
Q. I have a serious question...I have been getting bladder infections very frequently. What causes this? someone told me that you get them from having sex in the shower, or having too much sex? Why does this happen every time that i have sex with my ...
A. 27 September 2006: Bladder Infection? Is it the same as Urinary Infection? I know when I start having sex, I got it and it made me so uncomfortable for a week. Had to go to the doctor and took antibiotics. My doctor said it's good to pee after sex just to flush any ... (read in full...)
Im spending the whole day with her and Id like some ideas of how to make her feel special and show her what she means to me.
Q. Okay so me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 and a half months and every minute i spend with her is fantastic but we met outside of school and having both recently started the academic year in different schools in the year she is starting ...
A. 26 September 2006: I agree with Toria that you are the one who will know best. But base on what my girl friends say vs. what other guys say, I gather guys assume girls will like a day out with planned activities like rides, movie, dinner, etc... But most of my girl ... (read in full...)
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