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writes:If im going to have this baby its going to change things so much im in school is there anyone whos been through this i could do with the advice x Reply to this Question
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 You could change things? That is a great understatement. You will not even have a life. Think about it... You have not even lived 1/4 of your life and already you are going to have a child?? You won't have a childhood, it will be taken away from you. A baby having a baby as they say. Also agreeing with Birdy once again, can you even have this baby? Hips need to grow to be able to carry a child and at 12 or younger you are definitely not fully grown. I'm not sure what I'm telling you to do. If an abortion is out of the question, then it has to be given up for adoption. The child could be faced with many problems though, premature birth complications, etc. In any case you should not keep and raise this child. It will be a huge mistake and you will never get your life back. How can you raise a child and teach it values and morals when you have yet to mature or learn values and morals yourself? Think in yours and the childs best interest, please. Let your parents know and get some help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): Heya hunI hope my advice helps you, whether you choose to follow it or not because you may not agree with it. I'm 15 and about a year ago I fell pregnant after getting very drunk at my mates party. I still don't know the name of the guy who got me into that mess. Anyway, I found out I was pregnant, and I was gutted, I had no idea where or really who the father was, I was petrified of telling my parents because they're very strict and I knew they wouldn't approve of it or accept what was happening to me, and i go to an all girls private school so I'd get expelled for sure if any of the teachers found out. So I confided in my best mate and she went to the doctors with me and I decided what the right thing to do was. This was really hard for me by the way, but the more I got used to the idea the more I accepted it. I chose to have an abortion. You may not agree with this at all, but I strongly suggest its what you do. I can't imagine what you must be going through right now emotionally, I couldn't deal with it when i was 14 so what it must be like for you at 12 i can't bear to think about. It may seem like the wrong thing to do now but it worked for me, besides I had my entire life to think about, i'm a straight a student and i enjoy my life too much to give all it up for one silly mistake and i strongly suggest you consider doing the same; think about how much you have to look foward to in the future. Obviously its up to you, as it's your life and your responsibility, but would it really be fair to the child and yourself to continue with this pregnancy. Also think of the strain it'd do your body, you're still a child yourself, not even a teenager yet. I suggest you tell someone you trust and who will give you lots of support and help guide you as is what is essentially the right thing to do. No 12 year old is ready to be a mother no matter what the circumastances are. As for the bastard who got you in this situation....All the best babe, write back on here to tell me how you're getting on. Hope i've helped in some wayLove Milly x x x x
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Sorry, I meant birth.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (14 April 2008):
I think that you and your Mum need to get some medical advice. If you are pregnant at twelve, you may not be able to carry a child through to conception if you still are small in size (especially your hip girdle). A pregnancy at your age could also cause you a lot of future medical issues. Go and see a Specialist or High Risk Obstetrician/Gynecologist AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
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reader, Yuna~ +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Sorry to sound mean, but how old are you? Are you really 10-12 years old? You're expecting a baby. I can totally understand it'll change everything. Where's the dad of the baby?
If you can provide more information, I can prehaps give you more advice.
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reader, mia_1936 +, writes (14 April 2008):
 hey honey how old are you you dont want to have a baby at a real young age i had a lil girl when i was 16 still in school and planning to go to college. so please take this to heart. a baby is a wonderful time in your life you will see alot of changes but you will be very happy. and if your like me you have alot of support your family or friends will help you while your in school to watch your baby. but take it from me please dont drop out getting a ged is alot harder than you think i have been trying for three years. if you ever need to talk just hit me back up. tyyl.
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