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writes:My boyfriend and I are in a distant relationship. We only see each other on the weekend. We talk on the phone almost every night. It has been like this for 2 years and our relationship is very steady. I used to love spending time with my boyfriend during the weekend. We will do lots of fun stuff like going to see a movie, walking around a park, or just sit there and talk to each other. Lately, I have been very disappointed every weekend I see him. There's always something that happen during the weekend that made me very annoyed. There that times it made me question myself if I can bear it for the rest of my life. I'm not the best communicator when it comes to problem. I tend to just keep it all inside. I don't scream, I don't argue. I get over things really quickly too. I know I should talk to my boyfriend about it, but I just don't want to appear as a whinny girlfriend that needs attention all the time. During the week, I long to see my boyfriend. It's when I don't get to see him that I realize how much I love him. I don't know why it has become like that. Am I becoming more demanding? Reply to this Question
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reader, Its_X_  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 What bothers you about him? Does it bother you to the point where its irritating? Tell me about it.
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reader, Yuna~ +, writes (19 October 2007):
Yuna~ is verified as being by the original poster of the question What makes me disappointed or annoyed over the weekend is that it doesn't seem like he missed me that much and wants to do exciting things with me anymore. Sometimes, he would rather play video games than go out and walk around. Maybe we are gether too comfortable with each other than attention is no longer as much as before. Maybe I'm too demanding now. I know he loves me and he misses me. I just don't understand how come little things about him annoys me so much when I see him.
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reader, Its_X_ +, writes (19 October 2007):
I know what you're going through, except I don't get to see my boyfriend very often. But what you should try to work on first is your communications with him. If you want it to be successful and fulfilling you need to learn how to communicate better. If you aren't saying what you feel then you're failing at your job as a girlfriend. Communication is key! And if you think you're boyfriend is going to seriously think you're whiney, then you're wrong. A guy that truly loves you will do whatever you want for you and listen to what you have to say. Be more open about your feelings, it makes everything much better. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): I have the exact same problem. My solution was to think about or write down all the things i love about him, or miss about hm during the week and try to pick those things out while i'm with him. Also i make a list (mentally if you like) of all the things you want to do with him when you see him. When he does something you'd missed over the week, reward him and yourself with an amazing kiss or whatever you'd thought of during the week. It will help remind you carry your passion into both situations. :] Good luck.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (19 October 2007):
Why have you been very disappointed every weekend you see him? Has the separation caused you to love an image instead of the boy?
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