Is he trying to avoid hurting my feelings? Or does he have feelings for me?
Q. Dear cupids, I am a bisexual male, and I have met this guy who seems straight. Well I say seems because I know he had sex with at least 2 girls over the last year. I fancy him a lot and we became very close friends over the last year. However, ...
A. 7 July 2014: He likes you, but he is too shy to admit it. He might not be out of the closet. ... (read in full...)
Is this classed as cheating..has he learned his lesson?
Q. Hi I need some peoples advice on a situation because I feel myself going crazy! I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years, all was going great up until summer of last year... I noticed he started acting really strange at the end of s...
A. 31 October 2013: Hi, It sounds like to me that he's definitely gay and in the closet. It seems that he is struggling to accept that he could be Gay. ... (read in full...)
Husband watches man to man porn. Is he still solely hetrosexual? Or is he more likely gay?
Q. I am married. In the every first year of our marriage I discovered a CD hidden by my husband. But on that porn were relations between men to men. I was so innocent about it. I talked to my husband and he asked, with tearful eyes, forgiveness ...
A. 17 March 2013: I'm sure he's gay. I have no doubt about it. No Heterosexual watches gay porn on a regular basis unless they are in the closet. ... (read in full...)
My husband's parents refuse to accept the fact that my son is gay, they want us to send him for therapy to have him fixed and have gone as far as tell us that it must be our fault!
Q. My 18 year old son reciently came out as gay. I was initially shocked but my husband and i are trying to be supportive because at the end of the day we love him regardless, the problem is trying to get his grandparents (my husbands folks) to see it ...
A. 15 November 2012: You should ask his Grandparents to get counselling so they can learn to accept their Grandson for who he is. Your son has courage, acceptance and self-awareness of who he is at a young age. This is something to be celebrated. He will do well in ... (read in full...)
He has two sides and I fear of the evil one! Do I ask him to leave?
Q. My story is very complicated but I really need advice on what to do. I am 26 years old im about to start Grad School. I was raised in a very Christian home which I am proud of because of the values my parents set. The issue is Im Bi-Sexual and ...
A. 8 January 2012: Get the man out of your house and out of your life. It will be the best for your long term well being. Although this is a very hard choice. You still MUST do it. Its imperative. ... (read in full...)
I kissed a guy today. But now I'm freaking out. How do I deal with my confused feelings?
Q. I kissed my friend today. We are both the same age, it felt really nice. That was hours ago and now i am feeling really low about it all. I think we were both half expecting the other to punch when it happen but we really did kiss. It just happened ...
A. 8 January 2012: You kissed him because you are attracted to him. Nothing wrong with that. You are freaking out because you are afraid to realise that you could be gay. You are also getting a self loathing feeling because of the prejudices associated with being ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed by my boyfriend
Q. i met my boyfriend of 8 months at my job when i started over two years ago. i was a bartender there and my (now) boyfriend would come in with his buddies for happy hour and that is how we met. unfortunately i had a very verbally abuse n...
A. 8 January 2012: Its very wrong. You should break up with your boyfriend. He is dispicable in my opinion. ... (read in full...)
Is my crush from college gay? or bi?
Q. hey there all, and sorry if its long, I am 22 y.o. gay and yes from Cyprus. So you understand that being out of closet means shame for my family and no friends (that is why i am in the closet yet). Anyway, there is a guy at my college that i am...
A. 1 November 2011: He's gay if he lets you touch him the way you do. Before I came out of the closet I was also watching Straight porn. It doesn't mean that he's straight if he watches heterosexual porn... (read in full...)
Is he just leading me on for fun? How do I approach it with him without offending him?
Q. Hi, i'm not sure where to go with this situation. My best friend knows i'm gay, and is completely fine with it, as in it's something we talk about daily. He's not got a girl friend anymore and hasn't had sex for a few months so i know he's desp...
A. 26 October 2011: He's a homosexual in denial. I am sure he is attracted to you. Play along with him but don't judge him. He doesn't want to be labeled. ... (read in full...)
Girl at school told me it's just a phase. It's not. What can I do about my love for my possibly gay PE teacher?
Q. Im 15 and i love my pe teacher but he never seems to notice me, my friend caught me staring at him in the cafateria and i had to spill my guts and she just told me its a phase and i'll get over it. but i know its not and i really want him both in a...
A. 25 October 2011: There is no such thing as a "phase" when it comes down to your sexual orientation. Many gays in denial use that pretext as an excuse for not acting upon their sexuality. I'm a gay 26 year old. I began having feelings for guys in my school at the ... (read in full...)
He's my emplyee and the apple of my eye. Can we be more than that? Do you think that it's all wishful thinking on my part?
Q. I recently hired a new male employee (I am a gay male) who is 16 years younger than me. We have a great relationship at work and have even hung around together after work on a few occasions. He knows that I am gay, and single, and he is well over ...
A. 25 October 2011: I don't think its all wishful thinking. You should pursue your inner feelings if you like him. However don't make any advances on him or flirt during office hours. Hardly any straight guy would enjoy hanging out with you so much if they weren't ... (read in full...)
Meeting my online date in 2 weeks and I am nervous! Any advice?
Q. Just to set things up: I'm 18, just graduated high school in the spring and am now in college. I'm a gay guy and a virgin. Okay, here's the thing, there are no remotely gay people at my school. None. I've been to all the LGBT club meetings and I a...
A. 25 October 2011: I'm surprised that an 18 year old would be attracted to a man of 56. I believe he just wants to have sex with you. You should not meet up with him. Stay online friends. Tell him you don't want to meet up because you are too shy. Its you decision ... (read in full...)
Being ignored by the first guy I ever loved, how can I fix things?
Q. I am 15 and i am a bisexual, a year and a half ago, i told a boy in my year, that i was convinced was also gay/bi, that i liked him and he cyber bullied me. It has been a year and a half later and he hasn't spoken to me at all, he has unfriend...
A. 21 October 2011: Possibly So Confused could be right that he wants nothing from you. Its also possible he is in Denial of being Gay/Bi and is trying to hide it from himself and you, by showing that he doesn't care about you at all. Be nice to him and ask him once ... (read in full...)
Can't find the perfect woman (or near perfect woman).....
Q. I'm quite a perfectionist, granted. I've had several girlfriends throughout my twenties so far but I can't seem to find the 'complete package'. My ex girlfriend was perfect in respect to the fact that we had an amazing physical connection from ...
A. 20 October 2011: Yes there are. You will find a girl that is near to perfect one day, but not perfect. Don't look for perfection. One day, the girl of your dreams will come along. ... (read in full...)
My fiance slapped me. Should I dump him?
Q. im engaged and my weve been together for 3 Years. Yesterday we got in a argument and i told him something that pissed him off and he slapped me in the face twice. He has a bad temper but that was overboard.at the moment i told him that i was done ...
A. 20 October 2011: You should Dump him. He is abusive and bringing your self -esteem down, it will get worse as time goes on. Break up and keep away. ... (read in full...)
I'm in the closet and like my best friend. How do I proceed?
Q. Im 16 and gay (closeted) and i have a huge crush on my best friend. I just need some advice on how to go about getting with him or at the least coming out to him. I dont know his sexuality. Everytime i see him i i just want him more and more. Pl...
A. 20 October 2011: Without getting emotional, tell your best friend you are gay when the time is right. Observe his reaction carefully. Then on another occasion tell him he looks cute. Again observe his reaction. Good luck !
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I am very upset that someone else is treating my son in this way - what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid My son is 8 and lives with my ex-husband and his wife every second weekend. Last weekend, the wife had an argument with my son and my son lay face down on the couch. The wife told him to stay there until he had calmed down. He went t...
A. 19 October 2011: Tell your ex-husband immediately you want to speak to his wife about the issue. Ask his wife if its the truth what your sun told you, if yes, then tell her "NEVER EVER do it again". ... (read in full...)
How do I get over an affair I didn't want to end?
Q. How do I move on with my life and forget him? We are both married. We work for the same company but different buildings. We had been having an affair for 10 years. I am currently unemployed and have been for a year due to an on the job injury. ...
A. 19 October 2011: Time will make you get over this affair you had. In the meantime You need to try and turn the page and move on. ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend's best friend is gay...
Q. One of my boyfriend's best friends is an Australian guy who recently had to move back to Australia after living as roommates with my boyfriend for around a year here in the United States. They've gone on road trips together, shared a room, changed ...
A. 19 October 2011: I think both your boyfriend and his best friend are gay. They both have a crush to each other too. If your boyfriend wasn't gay, he wouldn't take risk of making you suspicious by letting his friend follow him everywhere and being touchy and all. ... (read in full...)
Struggling to get my 14 year old to open up about her first love and first break-up, any other moms going through this?
Q. Hi...so, my 14 year old "little" girl has just experienced her first love and now it seems like her first breakup!..She is not allowed to go on dates yet, but the young boy often came to our house over weekends..and every now and then a group of ...
A. 18 October 2011: There is nothing more that you can do than tell her that you are there for her if she needs help and/or moral support. ... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm imagining this-my teacher constantly stares at me!
Q. My teacher always stares at me ? I'm a 17 year old female and I've noticed that a male teacher who I haven't had as a teacher constantly stares at me in the hall ways as well as sometimes when he pops into my other classes. It started last year and...
A. 18 October 2011: Your teacher might to be attracted to you. Nothing to worry about, he won't make any advances on to you, because he would be putting his job at risk. Just ignore him. ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is gay...
Q. I just want other opinions...my boyfriend served in the armed forces, he's quite the hard ass at times, and he's the stereotypical alpha male. A friend of his is visiting him this week. This friend is also in the service and is coming from Iraq...
A. 18 October 2011: Your boyfriend is a homosexual in denial or/and leading a double life with his so called "friend". No heterosexual man would call or allow a friend to call him a "sweetheart" unless there is something going on between them. That is showing ... (read in full...)
Lost, confused, and no back-up plan. How do I change courses at uni and not feel I've failed everyone?
Q. Hey, I'm three weeks into a six year vet course but hate university. I desperately want to leave, but not just due to homesickness. I do miss home, but I've made some friends and I love my accomodation. I think I've picked the wrong course, an...
A. 16 October 2011: Be as self-aware as possible. Is it really the courses,university and/or profession you don't like ? or is homesickness more the issue. That is the key question. People can always change their mind quickly in a short period of time, nothing wron... (read in full...)
Girls around 18 how do you feel about thick black eyebrows? Should I trim them?
Q. hey guys this question is mainly towards the girls around my age. I just came back from holiday and I've got a really good confidence boost just from relaxing. I have dark hair and big thick black eyebrows because I am black irish I sometime...
A. 16 October 2011: I think most girls would prefer that you trim you're eye brows. The previous posts below from the girls are only saying this to be nice and that you should like yourself for how you look. You should trim them so that you have average looking ... (read in full...)
Did I over-react? my husband defended his friend. Ignored my feelings. The sexual joke was about me
Q. Tell me if I'm over reacting or if I took this the wrong way. My husband has a male friend who I think has really disrespected me. They were talking online with a bunch of people. My husband's friend said: "We should get you a webcam and have ...
A. 16 October 2011: You are not overreacting at all. He has been very disrespectful to you. You should point out that his friend has a bad influence on him. You should ask your husband to stop talking to this friend all together, because of his bad manners and ... (read in full...)
Did my daughter have sex while she was visiting a friend? Or am I over-exaggerating things?
Q. I am a father to a 17 year old girl. A little over a month ago i gave her permission to stay at her friend's house during Easter recess. She DID go, because i called one day and spoke to her mom who then passed the phone. Fine. I was proud of her. ...
A. 2 June 2011: Yes I understand you. I would not feel stupid if I were you. I don't think your doughter is laughing at you, she didn't want to tell you because she really wanted to go to the concert, however this is no excuse for not letting you know. Your ... (read in full...)
Did my daughter have sex while she was visiting a friend? Or am I over-exaggerating things?
Q. I am a father to a 17 year old girl. A little over a month ago i gave her permission to stay at her friend's house during Easter recess. She DID go, because i called one day and spoke to her mom who then passed the phone. Fine. I was proud of her. ...
A. 2 June 2011: In my opinion you should tell your doughter the following:
"Hope you had fun the other night but next time please come back on time because I'm still responsible for you as your dad legally and morally", period. Don't punish her or make her earn... (read in full...)
We waited until we were married to have sex, and now we are married he is not interested!
Q. I am 21 married 5 months back to my boyfriend whom I dated for about 1 year, He was very caring and loving before marriage, we didn't have sex before marriage as we wanted the feel later, but sex was always the topic in our chat.. But after marriage ...
A. 2 June 2011: These are the following possible reasons I believe that he doesn't like sex with you.
1. Is too anxious when having sex and is scared to underperform
2. Is not attracted to you sexualy
3. Has a sexual dyfunction
4. He's gay and in deni... (read in full...)
He has made it clear he doesn't like me, but still takes me out as if it were a date.
Q. I'll try to keep this brief. I'm 18 and this guy is 20. I was "seeing" him back in Sept/Oct/Nov. We used to go to the movies, out to eat, bowling, etc. And so I thought he liked me, if he was willing to take me out and pay each time. So aft...
A. 2 June 2011: There is a possibilty that he's gay and in denial which is why he might be scared to get too involved in a relationship. Did it ever occur to you that he could be gay ?... (read in full...)
Did my daughter have sex while she was visiting a friend? Or am I over-exaggerating things?
Q. I am a father to a 17 year old girl. A little over a month ago i gave her permission to stay at her friend's house during Easter recess. She DID go, because i called one day and spoke to her mom who then passed the phone. Fine. I was proud of her. ...
A. 2 June 2011: Based on all the responces you got, its a good thing to analyse them and question yourself based on the answers you got. Of course as a farther you only want to do the right things for her. You shouldn't punish your doughter, not at the age of 17. ... (read in full...)
I was hanging out with my friends, feeling happy, and then out of NOWHERE, my mood shifted and I was depressed. What could this be?
Q. Please please please any help will do! Can anyone make sense of this and tell me what the hell happened with me the other night and why this may of happened!?! I'd really appreciate it! I was out on a night with a big group of friends both guy...
A. 31 May 2011: I think its good that you are aware of this mood disorder and not in denial about it. That makes it easier to help you and give you the right advice and/or treatment . I think you should see a doctor/phycologist and talk to him about it. Take care ... (read in full...)
My dad is having a relationship with my math teacher!
Q. I am very confused and I need help! I'm 19 and my parents are divorced since I am 9. I live at my mom's but my dad lives in the same small town... A few days ago, I went to a party and decided to go sleep at my dad's cause it was closer. I...
A. 24 January 2011: Unfortunately there are many gays that come out much later in life, this is because of the social stigma and prejudices that gays encounter. Don't worry about it, just accept your dad the way he is but don't ever mention any of this to him. ... (read in full...)
Is there any truth in his words and actions?
Q. Ughh, lets just start.... from my last few questions posted i have asked for some advice to what i should do about the guy i like. Just a recap, he has been my best best best friend for a few years now, we hang out, we talk alot (just like norma...
A. 14 January 2011: I am sure that he is attracted to you. The problem is many gay guys are scared of commitment, and therefore they react in different ways . You seem to be sure and mature about yourself. He isn't at that stage yet. Take care !... (read in full...)
I love him so much that I physically can't do anything because of the hurt
Q. dear cupid, so i am openly gay and i have this friend who used to be my room mate and was bi for years, and over summer, he got this girlfriend. but yet we had this connection that him and his girlfriend didnt have and we were planning to get toge...
A. 14 January 2011: As a gay in this world, you must remember one very important thing. Most gay guys are afraid of getting committed into relationships. I say this from experience, I had many experiences were I knew somebody liked me a lot etc..but they are afraid ... (read in full...)
He drives me crazy, I just can't sleep..
Q. I don't really know where to start. Firstly, sorry for such a long post. We to give you a bit of background, i'm male, 22 from England, in full-time education. Basically, there's a guy in my class who, to be honest, I have a major major cru...
A. 5 December 2010: I'm sure that he's gay and that he's using his girl friend as a cover up, since he's not yet completly out of the closet. From the hits that he droped, you can be 100% sure that he likes you. Take care !... (read in full...)
He took rough sex too far and now I'm afraid to trust him
Q. My boyfriend like to be rough during sex. So when he started slapping my face about 6 months ago I told him that he was taking it too far and they only thing I don't want him to do is slap me because I feel like he is abusing me. He still likes to ...
A. 24 October 2010: I agress with Tennisstar. If you told him clearly to stop slapping you. He must respect that otherwise its abuse. Period. You should break up with him before it gets into an abusive relationship. There is a risk that he could be violent for ... (read in full...)
He said he liked me and then started ignoring me, why?
Q. hiya i'm having some trouble with this guy. i have probably only known him for 3 weeks now. he first contacted me on facebook. he acted like he wanted to get to know me. he goes to another school but some of my friends know him so i was just b...
A. 24 October 2010: The best way to sort out this problem is to get over it. Its hard but the longer you think about it, the more its going to upset you. Who knows why is acting like that. Its his loss. Find a another guy that you fancy !
Take care !... (read in full...)
Attention deficit disorder or just plain abuse?
Q. I really need some help here. My fiance (or ex fiance - we ended it last night) is ADD and a month ago we moved in together although he is still in the same house with me and my 3 kids. Everything I say gets shot down in flames. I am always the pe...
A. 24 October 2010: I my advice would be no different than Aunty BimBim. Get him out or get yourself out !! AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!!. ... (read in full...)
I would like to work overseas but my family are worried about me!
Q. Hi. I'd like some advice on this. Last year, i worked as an Au Pair in Spain, but unfortunately, it didn't work out, and i was sent home after only being there for two weeks. I dont want this to stop me from looking for another Au Pair position ...
A. 24 October 2010: First off, I would say when you plan to work in another country its imporant to realise that the culture is going to be very differnt from your own culture, therefore its important to go with a humble and open minded attidude.
Working as an Au pair... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to show me affection again!
Q. I just returned from a deployment from iraq. my wife had an affair with another woman. I have forgiven her for the infidelity but now she will not have sex with me. The other woman is now trying to get my wife to leave me by laying these games. ...
A. 24 October 2010: Your wife could be lesbian or bisexual and has recently come out of the closet. I think you should not try and convince her how much you like her etc..but try and find out what she wants and except here decision. She might not want to be with you ... (read in full...)
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