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male
age
30-35,
*razybeast
writes:Ughh, lets just start.... from my last few questions posted i have asked for some advice to what i should do about the guy i like.Just a recap, he has been my best best best friend for a few years now, we hang out, we talk alot (just like normal friends) then one day i noticed him... he knew i was gay and was completely fine with that from the start (with him being straight) and a month or 2 later i told him, he was fine with it and our relationship has only grown... now my problem... ever since and before i told him (about a year ago) we flirted alot and i mean ALOT, then one day he started rumours and told my other close mates that he was bisexual and that i was going out with him, also he began to give me compliments through them.. jus tlittle comments like, i like the way ____ looks today or that im "quite atractive" so obviously i would hear all these things through my friend... i confronted him about it and told him not to if he didnt want to be with me in that way and we stayed as friends, it stopped briefly for 2 weeks -.-A few months after that i actually got over him!! ... for a week -.- mainly because he came up behind me one day hugged me around my waist and kissed my neck which sent all the feelings rushing back... then its died down again, i dont know if he stopped spreading rumours if my friends stopped telling me what he been saying.so everything was fine... up intill... yesterday, i was by his locker talking to a mutual good friend of ours who keeps jokign that us 2 should get together and we just laugh and carry on... well this time he came over and dropped a bomb shell on me! He admited to me that he had been going round the school saying that we are going out and that he was bisexual, i asked him why and he just shrugged his shoulders and tried to drop it... Me being furious i felt like knocking him the f**k out... but instead i gave our mate the look that sayd PLEASE TALK TO HIM! and she said i will. it was kind of a relief after that day that he told me this cause i had people looking at me all day and whispering behind my back so i thought something was wrong. Today... he wasnt in, i dont know why but i also found out this morning that he was now going out with a friends foster sister... he always does this when he starts going out of a new girl, he's knows i get jelous so he "tries" to hide it... so the small talk that was supposed to happen didnt.he has left me bewildered and messed up, i dont understand anything anymore, everything used to be black white, face to face and now its all blured.. i dont know what to think anymore and he is the cause of this, i cant ignore him cause he only acts more full on to get my attention and will go into Extreme flirt mode and i cant not be friends with him cause i'd be losing my single most best friend in the world.I think i should re-tell him that i still lik him and ask why he is acting like this... but if i get the normal shrug of his shoulders, what could this mean? o.OI have never felt (i guess you can call it) love like this before and im not even sure if he knows what he is doing to me, i just wana know if he there is any truth in his words and actions.Sorry about it being so long winded, i really had to get that off my chest and to try and clear my head for 10 minutes xxXx Beasty xX
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 I am sure that he is attracted to you. The problem is many gay guys are scared of commitment, and therefore they react in different ways . You seem to be sure and mature about yourself. He isn't at that stage yet. Take care !
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reader, XxMishxX +, writes (14 January 2011):
sounds like this guy is a typical male. reading your question this is what i thought "this guy is taking this p*ss out of you, thats what guys in general do, its a male thing, they are always so much more immature then the girls of your age, males just want to take everything as a joke, take the p*ss and generally immature"
there is two ways of looking at this, hes either taking the p*ss which isnt nice at all (and can be seen as bullying) or, hes confused about his own sexuality and is testing the waters to see how people would react if you two did go out or he was bi-sexual. he could be confused or in denial and got a girlfriend to try and make the feelings go away? i dont know his personality so i cant comment if he'd be the type of guy to go that far as to hug and kiss you just to take the p*ss. only you know yourself.
you need to get him on your own, somewhere quiet and tell him how you feel, ask him why he flirts with you, if hes confused or just taking the p*ss. only he can tell you that. Tell him you love him and him flirting and messing about is hurting you and you need to know whats going on, stop flirting and messing about and be a friend if he is indeed messing about or actually come out and tell you he likes you. If he is curious, confused or in denial, im sure you once were then you know how he feels so be sensitive but firm. But you really need to sit down with him and talk properly, if he doesnt give you an answer or shrugs, then personally i wouldnt want a friend like that, obviously leave the door open but dont stand for it.
good luck :-)
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