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anonymous
writes:Hi, i'm not sure where to go with this situation.My best friend knows i'm gay, and is completely fine with it, as in it's something we talk about daily.He's not got a girl friend anymore and hasn't had sex for a few months so i know he's desperate. He'll lie down on top of me, fully clothed, while we're watching a film and move very close, close enough so my arm is nearly under his arse. That ofc means his penis/balls are resting on my arm, fully clothed. I then start moving around and he gets hard pretty much 100% of the time.But the funny thing is, this has never been mentioned!It happens every day and neither of us mention it. Now i think he knows i'm in love with him but i don't know if he is just leading me on for fun or what?I'm too scared to mention it incase he either completely denies it or never speaks to me again.I know people will say just stay away from him and move on but you know when you're in love it's not as easy as that, even if he's taking me for a mug.I mean is there any subtle way i can bring it up without him getting angry/offended?
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (27 October 2011):
 Well... If I had a 'straight' friend like that... coming on to me. I'd certainly reciprocate. The next time his hardon is on/in/near your hands... fondle him up. Not real actively at first... just a bit of nudging. If he starts grinding against you... then go for it. After all, if he goes all ballistic on you you can just turn it on him and say that HE was the one that first started rubbing his hardon against you. What did he think you were gonna do with it??? Make bread?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 October 2011):
 Ok so he's curious but not curious enough to actually try it.
Don't ask him and don't spend more time feeding your crush. He says he doesn't want "male/male" sex, so respect his choice. Even if his actions tells you something else, it could be that he is just REALLY comfortable with you. Bet you he isn't like this when other s are around or you guys are out?
I wouldn't bring it up, but I would avoid the situation where you feel like he is coming on to you. Such as if he gets on top of you while watching TV, tell him to get off you.
Find yourself a guy who KNOWS what he wants.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 He's a homosexual in denial. I am sure he is attracted to you. Play along with him but don't judge him. He doesn't want to be labeled.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Guys, thanks for the reply.
Yeah i mean i've asked him before hand about things like that, but he's jumps on the defensive.
Things like, "never" "not even if you paid me £1 million"
But yet he does that and the guy even asks me to masssage his feet?
I fear if i do make a move or ask him about it i won't get the outcome i really want, i'm worried he'll just completely cut me off.
He's confusing the bloody hell out of me lol, i 100% know he's attracted to women and claims he is 100% against any male on male sexual activities.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 October 2011):
Tell him to get off you and stop teasing. See how he reacts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): Next time this happens and he gets hard, take the matter into your own hands or kiss him passionately or both. From what you've said, there is absolutely no way he isn't attracted to you. He's just maybe scared to say it out loud, and his raging erections are his way of telling you. Go for it. And good luck, let us know what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): I think he's just a very horny teen with bi-sexual tendency that shows only in 'desperate' sexual frustration / deprivation time. This is the highest possibility, and in this case you have to handle your feelings because they won't take you anywhere. He just wants to put his penis in anything right now.
If you think he has more than this for you, ask him out of the blue if gay / bisexual guys might find you attractive? The answer and reaction will shed a lot of light on the matter.
Just don't hold your breath and don't get all worked up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): I dont know your friend but from what you have said it makes me assume he might have a genuine interest in you but doesn't know how to go about it.
You could try asking what is holding him up from finding another girlfriend? This could give opportunity for him to open up to you or maybe he might drop hints that he likes you. I can't imagine he would be doing this to lead you on fun because surely he would mention it to see your reactions if it was a laugh?
Best of luck moving forward with this x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Has he ever gave you any hints at all about him being attracted to men? You know him better than anyone else as a friend so are there any signs at all that he could be hinting at you that he wants to be involved with you. Maybe just lightly ask him in conversation one day if he has ever thought of being with a man, or is he certain that he is 100% straight. If you put it like that to him at least you will know and you are not directly asking him is he coming on to you.
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