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anonymous
writes:i met my boyfriend of 8 months at my job when i started over two years ago. i was a bartender there and my (now) boyfriend would come in with his buddies for happy hour and that is how we met. unfortunately i had a very verbally abuse nasty boss who would insult and humiliate the staff on a constant basis and one night i had enough and finally quit...we came to blows in the middle of my shift and i walked out. my boyfriend knows how much of an ass my boss is/was..being a customer he has seen it first hand...and he was also there the night i quit. the whole situation was quite upsetting and i despise my (now ex) boss..i told my boyfriend that i dont want him going in that bar anymore, because i feel it would be disrespectful to me if he does (like he should have my back)..and he agreed that he never ever wants to step foot in that bar again after how my boss had treated me..well i found out that he has been going there!! he went not even a week after i quit and has been in a few times. i feel betrayed..i feel like i look like an idiot..i get in a fight with the owner and quit and my own BF is still going there giving this a@%hole business!! it just feels like a slap in the face..he knows how i feel about him going there but hes going anyway..i knw that this bar was his hangout and his buddies all go there but this is wrong of him to do this right?
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (8 January 2012):
 Its very wrong. You should break up with your boyfriend. He is dispicable in my opinion.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (8 January 2012):
 It's good you managed to get out from under the thumb of some douche bag boss...but now you are making things a little difficult for your man again with all this.You had just quit, and were upset, and being a somewhat decent guy your BF did and said a couple things to make you feel better. I don't think it's a slap on the face or a betrayal him going there unless he forced you to go there with him. This was your own fight and it's not being disrespectful of him to go there again unless you confronted him about it, and he promised not to go there again, BUT STILL DID, that would be another matter all together, he would have openly lied to you!!So instead of putting forth all kinds of arguments and making mountains out of mole hills, let's do this...put the shoe on the other foot, flip the coin around and consider a complete reversal of situations. How would you like him making major demands of you towards the end of quitting you and your girl's favourite joint because he quit working there? Would you comply with his demands? If you find such action rational and completely justified then you need to confront your BF and work on setting your relationship boundaries, otherwise drop the issue as you don't work for the douche anymore.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (8 January 2012):
 Yeah, kinda tacky on his part! So have you confronted him? And what does he say for himself? What if the roles were reversed. Has there ever been anyone that pissed him off? Maybe he too has quit or been fired from a job, and how would he feel if you continued to hang out there like nothing ever happened? It's been my experience that men have a hard time putting themselves n our shoes, unless we make give them a taste of their own medicine. Talk to him and see what he says.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2012): I don't want to be presumptuous, but i suppose that's all i can do right?
Well it doesn't seem like he's all that serious about the relationship, I mean if my boss had treated me very badly, so bad that i had to quit and i asked my boyfriend to please not go to this bar and he said for sure babe! but went anyways, i would be upset, can't he go to another bar? it must feel uncomfortable for you i understand. But, on the other hand I think you might be a little petty, I mean come on its just a bar and it's not like your going with him, you know? I'm guessing that you haven't found another job yet and you leaving this job happened recently, because when you find another job and move on you won't be upset that he goes to this bar. Hope I helped, if I was wrong in anyway, i apologize!
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