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writes:hey there all, and sorry if its long,I am 22 y.o. gay and yes from Cyprus. So you understand that being out of closet means shame for my family and no friends (that is why i am in the closet yet).Anyway, there is a guy at my college that i am interested in. From the first time I saw him, i had a crush on him. I approached him carefully, and tried to "accidentally" bump onto him at college restaurant and at college cafeteria and so on. So we became friends really fast and easy since we have common interests in many things (music, movies and so on). The thing is I started slowly compliment him, and find out about his life by having conversations and so on (no stalking!) and i slowly started to touch him. A punch, some tingling, touch his back as friendly manly hug and so on. As he was letting me do it i continued and now I am at the point where i touch his hand and rub his fingers and he just reacts the same way. I hug him and he just seems to like it. Though all this happen when we are alone or when no one see us, or else he is very straight and different (i am too when people are there except him).So I was ready to tell him I am gay and interested in him when all of a sudden he asks me to fix his computer and (i know its embarrassing but) as i was looking at his files I found straight porn.So it seems he is straight? No gay or even bi porn or pics there.. none...The thing is that I know LOTS of straight guys, and none accepts touching (not even manly hugs), nothing! But he is... so i am very confused. He has no girlfriend, and probably still a virgin.Whats your opinion? could he be bi in denial? bi and not knowing? Please let me know your opinions :) much appreciated!
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (1 November 2011):
 He's gay if he lets you touch him the way you do. Before I came out of the closet I was also watching Straight porn. It doesn't mean that he's straight if he watches heterosexual porn
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 October 2011):
 If I am honest with you it sounds to me like he probably is straight and you are looking way to much in to it because you have feelings for him. Some straight guys are comfortable with who they are and therefore accept hugs from other male friends as they are not scared to show there feelings for friends as they know who they are. It is hard to tell how he would react by you telling him that you are gay. Maybe you could try and have a conversation about people being gay to see how he reacts before you tell him. Maybe talk to him about a 'friend' you have who is gay and see how he reacts.
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reader, jc2008  +, writes (27 October 2011):
I lived in Cyprus for 5 years (South side) and I noticed how much more affectionate and passive the Cypriot people are towards eachother compared to those from my British culture. He might just see you as being friendly and probably doesn't care as hes secure in his sexuality. I hope it all works out for you as I know what its like to be a gay guy over there.
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (27 October 2011):
 I too have a straight friend. He's very accepting of my physical affection towards him... but he's not going to entertain any form of real intimacy other than a platonic friendship.
College is a very experimental/awakening period in life and many guys and gals come to the realization of their base sexuality. I would venture to say, that your friend probably IS STRAIGHT but still likes you as a friend only. I can't say how he would react if you told him you were gay. You know better than any of us here because you actually know him. That being said I would then caution you against telling him, knowing now what you know, unless you are absolutely sure that he would still accept you for who you are without any reservations.
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