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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for a 2 months now but we were seeing each other before. one night i was at a seshion and got drunk i ended up being all over this guy. he heard i was all over someone and we met up that day to talk about it and to see each other before he went on holidays , i told him i was positive i wasnt (because at the time i didnt know i had done it) and he believed me. then that night tom told me i was all over him on facebook i told my boyfriend right away we got in this huge fight and then we ended up staying together and he went to france for 3 weeks but he has no phone or internet. i promised him i wudnt drink or go to this disco , then i heard he was going to break up with me when he came back from holidays to get back at me for cheating on him so i wasted 3 weeks waiting for him , so i broke up with him by voice mail but then i told hes best friends i did and they go no he wasnt thats not true so i sent him another saying i was joking , but hes best friends are gonna tell him i wasnt .. then that night i went to the disco he told me not to go to but i only drank so much so i had control over myself and i didnt cheat on him and also my sober friend was watching me .. but people are saying i cheated on him 3 times which is not true ! hes coming back in a week now. i dont know if he will break up with me though cause he actually rele likes me and before i went out with him he was such a player and used girls all the time but with me he hasnt even tried to and this is his longest relationship . what do you think he is going to do ? should i end it now or wait til he gets back and talk to him about it ?
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reader, xnickx  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 first, breaking up after you cheat is not 'getting back' at you, it's his disapproval for your actions.second, saying you're 'joking' is not an appropriate way of covering up this kind of mistake. What's wrong with "hey babe, i'm sorry, it was a misunderstanding. Your best friend told you i wasn't kidding about breaking up with you because then i wasn't. I heard you were going to break up with me when you got back, and i was hurt and didn't know what to do, so i said that. But now i also heard that you weren't going to break up with me, and i really still want to be with you, etc.""i dont know if he will break up with me though cause he actually rele likes me"And that's just plain manipulative right there. Saying no matter what you do he'll always forgive you because he really likes you is beyond wrong, and is no guarantee.No one can tell you what he's going to do. if i was this guy, i'd take you back as long as you promised to be honest. But you had better be walking on egg shells, because if i caught you in another lie, i'd say goodbye.And as rcn pointed out, "you have to make that the ONLY time it can be used as an excuse"And wait till he gets back. Nothing good can come from being hasty and ending it now. Talk things out, because this can be worked out.best of luck,nick.
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 July 2011):
 I believe it can be worked out, but girl, you better begin practicing honesty. I know, you didn't know you were all over this guy, or you say that at least, you have to make that the ONLY time it can be used as an excuse, and you do this by changing your actions. If you want people to be real to you, you need to first be real to yourself, and then be real to them. Be honest, or you can kiss him or any other guy good bye.
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