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writes:My boyfriends sister has just started acting weird. When i first started dating him she wasn't that jealous of him spending time with me. Now that my boyfriend trys to see me 2 times a week she doesnt like to be around me and i told my boyfriend of 11 months that this bothered me. I went to spend time with him at his house and she ignored me so much then she called my boyfriend over and made tons of plans to spend time with him. I barely get to spend a lot of time with my boyfriend and his sister is making tons of plans with him. I work full time plus go to college so its hard for us to be together even though we love each other. I dont get why she started acting this way cuz me and his sister were the best of friends. what should i do because i want to spend time with him too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. His sister is 21 and doesnt have a boyfriend or a license. I wish she would get a life so that she wouldnt be dependent of her brother. My boyfriend ive talked about this with and he understands completely and has my back. I love him so much!
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reader, msnewbeginning +, writes (30 June 2011):
 You should explain to him that she is doing this out of spite. Also explain that you deserve his time just like her and when your schedule permits you deserve his time. If you work and go to school she can find time to spend with him then. If he ignores you then tell him maybe his sister should have him full time.
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reader, xnickx +, writes (30 June 2011):
 Try directly talking to his sister. Confront her if you have to. If there are any problems between you two, that should be the easiest and most direct way to find out and solve them.There should be no reason why the 3 of you cant hang out either. See if you can make plans for that, then the 3 of you wont have to be torn between each other.nick.
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reader, kenty139  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 I completly relate to this. My boyfriends sister is a right cow and blanks me. Maybe you should go along with them or go into town with them. But tell ur boyfriend that you want some alone time too. You're in a relationship with him not him and his sister. She needs to learn that her brother is happy in love with you. Maybe try and set her up with someone else. :)
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reader, la petite belle +, writes (30 June 2011):
 wow... this is odd behavior... I think that it might be because before she didn't really make much of the relationship but now that you guys have been together for so long, this might bother her a little bit.
I think that you should first try to investigate with your boyfriend, ask him nicely and subtly about his sister, perhaps mention that you have felt that his sis is acting somewhat distant towards you, if this brings nothing, I am an advocate of talking... talk to her and ask her if there is anything that is bothering her and offer help. Tell her that you would love to have a good relationship with her and she if that helps!.
I hope I made myself clear!. Take care!
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