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*kkwhatttodo
writes:I kno its wrong but I've been interested in my exs friend I've always thought he was cute but never made an attempt to talk to him my ex and I have been broken up for about two years now the problem he's not just some ex he was my first boyfriend we were each others first loves I lost my virginity to him we were together for about for about 2in a half years an after we broke up he had a new gf right away but we still talked an messed around for up until about 4months ago my exs friend an I went to the same school an had mutual friends after my ex and i had broken up we flirted it was obvious we were attracted to each other the whole vibe was there but he would have gf an he knew my ex an I would hangout a little still. Recently I ran into to him while he was at work an not to long after he had asked our mutual friend for my number he texted me but I kept it short I dk what to do cause I think him an my ex are still hangout occasionally an I know my ex has moved on in a new relationship but still would be upset and would hate me for talking to his friend because of our history we say we'll always be there for one another when we really need it but I feel I really could have something good with his friend. What should I do?
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reader, xnickx +, writes (25 September 2010):
 and if he hears something about you and gets mad, then he's just controlling you. It's your life, not his. If he wanted to dictate who you date, then he could have still been your boyfriend, and you could be dating him. But obviously something came between that. He's had 2 years to get used to this notion, and if he doesnt, then you need to explain it to him.
But you're being smart and using your head about this, so i say keep using your head, ultimately follow your heart, and you'll end up okay :)
Nick.
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reader, dkkwhatttodo +, writes (23 September 2010):
dkkwhatttodo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI get what your saying about the think about the ex thing but I'm not just some random ex to him till this day if he hears something about me he gets mad an will try to make a big deal out of when were not together an haven't even talked in months . So that's why I'm worried about it you know I didn't want to be the start of drama but ill go for it an see what happens because I do like this dude I just need to find out if he interested me for the right reasons and not just sex or to make my ex his friend jealous
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reader, xnickx +, writes (16 September 2010):
No we dont know. we can only make guesses based on what you tell us.
Anyways, most guys dont just sit around talking about their ex's. If this guy asked for your number he's atleast interested in your friendship, if not more.
Again, if you feel like there could be something there, then build upon the fact that he is atleast making attempts to be your friend (meaning he wants to get to know you,and if you want to get to know him nows the best time).
Nick.
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reader, dkkwhatttodo +, writes (16 September 2010):
dkkwhatttodo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell when he had textd me I asked him why did he want my number out of nowhere & he didn't text back I wasn't trying to be rude I think he took it the wrong way though I just was wondering cause he could be doing this just to make my ex jealous of they aren't talking you know because he's been knowing I've had a crush on him.. Sooo what should I do now I texted him a few days after an he didn't reply I don't get it what did he want my number for you know
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reader, xnickx +, writes (14 September 2010):
dont try telling him you love him... thats an easy way to scare him off.
But if you feel something there, go for it. You're 2 years removed from his life, i hardly remember my girlfriend from 2 years ago.
I say go with confidence and best of luck.
Nick.
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reader, Hanply  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 emm..I think u must be in act for a while coz maybe he had been hurt your heart soon..but,u must trying to tell him that u LOVE him not just ex and the most important,see in his eyes and try to touch him heart and soul...may Jesus bless u now and forever...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): If you have been broken up for two years, I say go for it. If you think he likes you, why not? Just because you dated the other guy first doesn't mean anything. This could be the guy you spend the rest of your life with.
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reader, SophieF  +, writes (14 September 2010):
If you feel comfortable enough talk to your ex and ask how he feels about it. If not then explain your concerns to your ex's friend. He will either choose to talk to your ex or agree with you that if would be inappropriate. Either way you'd get an answer and wouldn't be left wondering if you should or shouldn't contact the guy.
It's always tricky when an ex is involved but your ex started seeing someone else so you shouldn't feel guilty seeing someone else either.
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