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I live on Vancouver Island B.C.
I have 2 failed marriages.
I am currently single and intend to stay that way.
I had 2 children from my first marriage.
My son committed suicide on Feb 25th. 2010 aged 33 years.
He leaves behind 3 sons.
My daughter aged 30 (single) lives in Ontario
I think I've made just about every mistake a person can make,
so I have a lot of experience to draw on.
I'm just a guy who want's to help others live a better life than I have.
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Will my body issues turn my fling off?
Q. So I'm kinda worried right now. I have this fling ( we were on a no commitment zone) and we were planning to get into the sack after his vacation next month. Although we've seen each other in person, this will be our first sexual experience. The...
A. 4 April 2011: The only people that don't have imperfections are the ones you see in the magazines. Here's a hint, the "touch up department" air brushes the hell out of these photos. Everyone has imperfections, he has them too. If your's bother him, then I gues... (read in full...)
Should I regret losing my virginity?
Q. Should I regret losing my V-card? last year I gave my virginity to my first bf ( I was 22 and he was 25)...at first things were great I thought we were in love, but I guess it was just lust. We dated for a month, then he dumped me and then we were ...
A. 4 April 2011: Why are you asking anyone else if you should regret something or not? (especially on the Internet, the worst of all possible places to look for personal answers) If you want to feel bad, then go ahead, feel bad. If you want to feel good, then fee... (read in full...)
I feel ready to lose my virginity, but am I wrong to think this way?
Q. I am a 15 year old Christian girl who likes to take a, as my mom would say "ride on the wild side". and lately i've had one thing on my mind when im near my bf. well actually more then one but them all leading to the same thing. SEX I am a virgin a...
A. 4 April 2011: So, your a normal 15 year old... good for you! Your thoughts and feelings are healthy and natural. However, even though your body's ready for sex, is your mind? The emotional costs are far greater than anything you can imagine. I know a few ad... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. Am I still a virgin? I have a sex with my lesbian partner, she finger me. I am worried on what I should answer on my employer if they are asking me if I'm still virgin? I'm totally lost I don't know what to do.......
A. 4 April 2011: Unless "virginity", is an extremely important part of your culture, who cares? Now a days, "virginity" is more a state of mind than anything else. It's your business and yours alone! No employer has the right to make any inquiries into your sex life... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smells down there. Why, is this normal, and can it be changed?
Q. Before i start, im a girl, im 16, i have been with my boyfriend now for four months and i am really happy with the way things are going but here it goes... So, my boyfriend is a year older than me, he isn't very experienced, I am the first girl h...
A. 4 April 2011: First off, your both too young for this kind of behavior. Then again, I'm just an old fart who really doesn't know what I'm talking about. Even though I've been just about everywhere and done just about everything, even the things your talking ... (read in full...)
Meeting a guy from Facebook... How do I remain calm?
Q. So, there's a guy ive been talking to through facebook, and we've been talking for several months now... We text/chat/call each other all the time, and have soooo much in common, and we seem to click very well. I really like him, and I think I love ...
A. 1 April 2011: Before you meet this guy, I suggest you go to Youtube and watch the "DATE LINE" series on catching predators. Most of the things in life that look to good to be true, usually are! What's wrong with dating the guys you already know? There's a... (read in full...)
Is it not normal for a girl to masturbate?
Q. Before you say anything, yes i'm quite aware that i'm a girl, but i mean, from what people say (not online or anything, like in 'reality') it seems as thought girls don't. But i do... At least once a week, usually once a day... But fro...
A. 1 April 2011: Of course girls masturbate. It's a healthy response to a natural condition. Anyone that tells you otherwise is a liar, and not comfortable with own body. You enjoy it, so go right ahead!... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to my friends with benefits guy?
Q. Long story short i have a Friend with Benefits we have met before, but we Haven't yet met up for 'sexual favours' and I know that he just wants me for sex and sh*t, but that's all I looking for anyways but I'm a virgin (he knows this) ...
A. 29 March 2011: Your still very young, do you really want to cheapen yourself at such an early age? What about all the stories he "will" tell his friends? Do you want all the guys thinking that "they" can have you too? Because that's what most of them will be thi... (read in full...)
How do I get him to French Kiss me?
Q. my bf and i have been dating for a while and i so badly want him to French kiss me.....Sadly have never done it before so i don't wanna make the first move. how can i get him to either french kiss me or get the idea that i want him to?...
A. 29 March 2011: This is an answer I've posted before, but I believe you can adapt it enough to fit your situation. First, he might not be ready for this level of intimacy. Or he may lack the confidence for this type of kiss. Remember, you want to enter pa... (read in full...)
Anything wrong with our ages?
Q. Can a 17 year old who will be turning 18 in a month date an have sex with a 19 year old?...
A. 29 March 2011: Morally, I see no problem at all. However, legally, there might be a problem. It's best to check on the age of consent laws in your state first. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend accuses of cheating and calls me a slut!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, but I dont feel loved. we have been bestfriends for many years prior to our relationship and I think he cant cope with my past relationship. I was with this guy for many years back, and I gave talked to ...
A. 29 March 2011: The answer is simple... walk away! You've put up with his abuse for five years now, so you claim. In all this time, he has shown you no respect what so ever. Do you really think this situation is going to get any better? Time you start to respect... (read in full...)
Am I being silly worrying about the comments after a nose job?
Q. I really want to get a nose job for my benefit nobody else! I've thought about it for years and years and I've saved up. My parents said if i want to take the risk then go for it and they will support and look after me when healing process! I'm ...
A. 29 March 2011: If you feel the need to have this done, then go for it. If your so called "friends" feel the need to question you about it, or make fun of you, just tell them you've been having breathing problems for years, and finally decided to have it correcte... (read in full...)
He thinks he's gay. Is there any hope for this relationship?
Q. I've been with a guy for 8 years and have a child together. Recently he came to me and said that his confused and thinks he's gay. I told him to find out if he is or not. The other day he came to me and said that he gave a guy a bj, he said he liked ...
A. 29 March 2011: Your "family" is already ruined! It's time to take your child and make a new life for the two of you. He is engaging in dangerous and potentially life threatening behavior. Is this the kind of future you want for you and your child? He's putting h... (read in full...)
I am very scared for my best friend. Please tell me how I can help him.
Q. My Best Friend and I are both 16 and are from pretty different backgrounds. I live in a more or less comfortable middle class background where I go to private school, and he lives in a lower class background, where his parents are separated, his Dad ...
A. 29 March 2011: I realise, to you, this is going to sound very harsh and selfish. Walk away from him, close the door on this chapter of your life NOW! There's nothing you can do to improve his situation. Your job right now is to concentrate on yourself and your ... (read in full...)
I need money. Is gay porn the answer? I don't want to cheat on my GF.
Q. hello, i am in serious dept, i haven't got a job and have £103 every 2 weeks. with my balance being so high I cant make the next step with my girl friend. i watched a program on MTV about porn stars lives, there was a guy on there whom who was ...
A. 29 March 2011: Why not invest your time in improving your education, so you can find a job? I know it's hard, but others have done it, you can too. Besides, if your girlfriend has any respect for herself, she'll loose any respect she has for you if you choose this ... (read in full...)
My feelings for my teacher are overwhelming. How do I deal with this?
Q. Well, I don't know whether I'm in love with my male English teacher or just having crush on him but I do know that I have feelings for him and it's more than just an admiration or respect.. I've been feeling it for more than one year now... I'm ...
A. 29 March 2011: Even though I'm an old "Geezer" today, I too was once in the same position as you are now. So I know how hard this is to do. You just have to ignore these feelings. In time they will pass. I know this answer sucks, but there's nothing else you can ... (read in full...)
Has my teacher got feelings for me? Or just being nice?
Q. I know you’re all going to think I’m being childish here, but please hear me out. I’m 18, and very mature for my age. Last year, I met my college lecturer, and we hit it off straight away. There was one point though where I got close to this boy and ...
A. 26 March 2011: This is clearly one very disturbed individual. DO NOT allow this to continue any longer. Report his behavior to administration immediately, and ask to be reassigned to another teacher. Your very life may depend on it... "SERIOUSLY" I take it ... (read in full...)
What do I say to my daughter who wants birth control?
Q. My 16 year old daughter came up to me last night while I was making dinner and asked for birth control. At first I didn't say anything I was in total shock. Let me give you some back story. She's a good kid. She's no straight A student and she'...
A. 26 March 2011: Did I hear someone say "Mom of the Year"?
I think you handeled it wonderfully, considering none of us ever wants our little girls to grow up.
Be proud of her and her respect for you.
As far as what to do, I'm afraid your just going to rely on what... (read in full...)
Are all men after tall women?
Q. I'm 22 years old, less than five feet tall. i am as pretty as any other girl and healthily thin so will any guy be interested in me?its not my fault or anyone else's why i am the way i am. I'm in college for 2 years and no boy has even dared talked ...
A. 26 March 2011: Do any of these guy's know how old you are?
For all they know, you might be one of those 14 year old geniuses, and afraid to approach you for the very reason you might just be a minor.
You might also look very young, and the guy's that do know you... (read in full...)
I'm mature for my age, but don't know if this teacher has feelings for me? He gets overprotective and jealous when I get close to other guys....
Q. I know you’re all going to think I’m being childish here, but please hear me out. I’m 18, and very mature for my age. Last year, I met my college lecturer, and we hit it off straight away. There was one point though where I got close to this boy and ...
A. 26 March 2011: This is clearly one very disturbed individual. DO NOT allow this to continue any longer. Report his behavior to administration immediately, and ask to be reassigned to another teacher. Your very life may depend on it... "SERIOUSLY" I take it ... (read in full...)
What rights does my child's father have?
Q. Im pregnant and I am keeping the baby because I don't want to have to go through having an abortion. I am happy with my decision but the baby's dad is not and says 'get rid' but I'm not going to. can anyone tell me what are his rights? (UK) and...
A. 26 March 2011: Seeking legal counsel, is what you need to be doing.
"DO NOT RELY" on anything you read here!
Most of the people here, DO have your best interests at heart, but I feel not many of us are barristers of the English courts.... (read in full...)
I like an older man... help?
Q. I'm 17 years old, gonna be 18 in a little under two weeks. I'm just gonna be blunt, I like this friend I have, and he's about 36-37 years old, and we met online, of course, we have a lot in common, he knows how to cheer me up, and he's an amazing ...
A. 25 March 2011: CONGRADULATIONS... You've hooked a PREDATOR!!! Of course he knows how to cheer you up, he's probably very skilled in the art of gaining a young girl's confidence. He's probably been doing it for quite some time. He knows exactly what you need to ... (read in full...)
My cousin has a total lack of respect for me
Q. How should I deal with my cousins behaviour? I am not quite sure what this means when someone does this but my cousin refuses to engage in serious conversation with me like he does with the other women in the family. He avoids serious topics a...
A. 25 March 2011: This guy is "family" not friend. If a stranger treated you like this, you'd probably have nothing to do with that person. So why are you worring about this cousin? There's no possible way anyone can like everyone in their family. There's just too... (read in full...)
Ex wants me back but I like someone else
Q. i have broken with my boyfriend 6 months ago and these 6 months he was very angry with me because i was the one who broke up but suddenly after 6 months he become friendly with me and know he wants to start our relationship again but know i like ...
A. 25 March 2011: Move on! What ever it was that made you decide to break up with him, probably still exsists between the two of you. There can be no going back. What's done is done. Don't allow yourself to get sucked into any games he wants to play. First, he'... (read in full...)
My mom says he says that to all the visitors!
Q. i met this boy in the bahamas he works on the beach and i thought it was love at first site he keeps telling me to move to florda so we can live together and get married my mother told me he says that to all the visiters..i have my money saved up ...
A. 25 March 2011: Listen to Mom! 99.9% of the time, these guys are looking for that hallowed "Green Card".(if it's still called that in the states). Once he has citizenship, you can expect him to either dump you, or at least, bring the rest of his family to live wi... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of all her exes!
Q. Hi, I'm in a relationship with a woman I absolutely adore, we're both 22, the problem is I know she's had quite a few boyfriends and I myself haven't really had a huge dating history (but not non exsistant). Basically I definitely don't feel good ...
A. 25 March 2011: If you continue to live in her past, the two of you will never have a future. Your showing in your letter (question), you clearly don't trust her. Do you think she hasn't noticed this? Like "SweetSmoochy" says "she's with you, not them". Your ... (read in full...)
Do I need to seek help? I like older men!
Q. Okay so im a 18 year old single mum to a 10 month old baby, for a long time i have been attracted to older men. My daughters father is 38 and i am currently dating a man who is 52, is this normal? Or do i need to seek help??...
A. 25 March 2011: I'm not trying to be a smart-ass. It seems to me as though you have some unresolved father issues. You say you have a 10 month old with a 38 year old man, who's no longer in the picture, as far as I can tell. Your now dating a 52 year old man. I ... (read in full...)
My problem is his pregnant partner. Is there a chance he will just love me and leave me?
Q. Am girl who is 21 years of age,there is this guy I just met and I love him and I do want to have sex with him, but my problem is his pregnant partner. What if he loves her more than he loves me? What if he just want to have sexual relations with me ...
A. 25 March 2011: Some things are just not meant to be. Pull yourself together, and put those raging hormones back in the box. By the way, it's not love your feeling, it's lust. Anything you think you might have to gain is far outweighed by all the devastat... (read in full...)
If he's married how do I let him go?
Q. Need help. I have dated a guy for two years. Since i was 16 and he was 19. He always told me he loved me, that he wanted to marry me and he treated me well. We have been through a lot but i can honestly say i love him. A few months ago he went ...
A. 24 March 2011: From the way you word this, it sounds like he comes from a culture far different from yours. He is willing to let his parents choose his bride for him. If this is so, then there's no way either of you would be happy if he chose to go against his ... (read in full...)
Guy and feelings--how can we get you to open up?
Q. I tell my guy I like him and that he turns me on but I don't get that from him. The other day I got him to say he likes me and he said that he's already told me that he liked me and cared BUT I certainly don't remember that. You ladies know when a ...
A. 23 March 2011: Most North American Males are still raised with the mindset that, a real man never shows his true feelings.
(don't want to look like a "Pussy")
Just look at most of the American movies that have been made in the last 80 or so years. To be a man yo... (read in full...)
Was my teacher genuine or will he forget me while I wait? He told me to cool until I'm no longer a student
Q. Okay, so I've been crushing on this teacher for a couple of years now, and we've gotten pretty close lately but he's been scolded and he told me we should cool things off for a while because he says he doesn't want to get me in trouble. He said he ...
A. 23 March 2011: Walk away. You and he are too far apart in age, experience, and emotional stability. You won't be able to relate to his friends nor him with yours. You will both soon find, in public, the two of you will be scorned by others around you. His friends ... (read in full...)
My mother is mad at me because she found out I was having sex
Q. ok so i am 16 years old as is my boyfriend of seven months. about a month or so ago we started having sex. we love each other very much he is not using me and he is a really great guy and we have a great realationsship. but last week my mother found ...
A. 23 March 2011: Your mother's mad at you because she loves you, and doesn't want you to go through all the pain and heartbreak your about to step into. At your age, once you add sex to a relationship, everything changes. You are far more emotionally invested... (read in full...)
Why are people so judgmental?
Q. Why are people so judgemental? On here there are a lot of aunts and uncles, who seem to think that because a young questioner asks a question about love and relationships, they need to discourage this young person from being grown up and thInking ...
A. 22 March 2011: I think all us "old folks" are doing is trying to save you from all the emotional pain of youth.
We're not here to put you down or to judge you.
All we want to do is to help you avoid some of the pit falls of youth, we ourselves, fell into.
I... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable that boyfriend flirt texts with other girls!!
Q. My bf is mega flirty with girls via text. He's never cheated and I don't think he's the type but it still makes me very uncomfortable, especially as most include sexual flirting such as "Oh, we could have some fun with an empty house ;)". What d...
A. 13 March 2011: If he's aware, that your aware of his texting indiscretions, he's clearly showing that he has NO respect for you. He sounds as though he's not mature enough for an exclusive relationship. A horny little adolescent, if you will. You ask if you should ... (read in full...)
Crush on dad at daycare.
Q. I work at a daycare apart of a company. I've been there for about 2 1/2 years. I used to work in a toddler room called "Shining Butterflies" and there was a Dad there named Rick. I took care of his daughter and learned he was from Scotland and ...
A. 13 March 2011: This situation happens to most of us, at one time or another. What you have to ask yourself is, "If I pursue him, what would I be gaining, and, what would I be destroying"? If your thinking rationally, and not with your hormones, I believe you... (read in full...)
If there's no one else in his life, then why did he push me away??
Q. Why did my boyfriend do that? did he really love me? ? I was with my ex boyfriend for 5months, we were so in love and everyone thought. We were the cutesy couple. I believed him when he told me he loved me, but I was so paranoid in our relat...
A. 13 March 2011: You say your both 21. That's still very young. He may have decided that he's not ready to commit to an exclusive relationship. I'm guessing he feels there's so much more he wants to do and learn, or places to see, before he commits to anything... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had a child and I haven't told my parents yet
Q. My girlfriend gave birth 3 months ago. We study abroad and were able to hide it from our parents. She managed to tell hers though when she was half way through her pregnancy. The thing is our parents don't really approve of the two of us being ...
A. 13 March 2011: Your in your early twenties, and you now have a kid.
Your supposed to be an adult now, it's time to "fess up".
Tell them now. If shit hits the fan, well so be it.
You'll survive.
You say your terrified of your parents.
What are they going to do... (read in full...)
Should I help the woman next door?
Q. I'll keep this as short as possible. My neighbors are wonderful people. He is very ill and wheelchair bound from MS and another debilitating disease. Last night his wife came onto me, she wants me because as she put it, she feels safe with me. I ...
A. 13 March 2011: Let's play "Tiptoe Through the Mine Field", shall we? Your single and dating. So it's clear your interested in women, other than the neighbour's wife. But your a nice guy, you may want to mow your neighbour's lawn once in a while, just to help hi... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend's boyfriend
Q. okay... I am in love with my bestfriend's boyfriend. i have liked him since xmas and never told anyone, then last week i went to a party with my BFF and we saw him there, we had a great time- dancing; throwing food; laughing; and talking. fast f...
A. 13 March 2011: To begin with, your not texting on your cell phone. This is an opinion site on the Internet. Please write in "FULL" words, so old, albeit highly experienced, "GEEZERS" like me, will have at least some idea of what your asking. So, your hot for ... (read in full...)
Is it right to marry my cousin?
Q. i want to know if it is right to marry my cousin. I love him so much and i cannot live without him. We've been dating for the past 4yrs nw. We've never had sex but we kiss. What do i do? We love each other so much....
A. 12 March 2011: In most cases...NO!
Maybe if he's a third or fourth cousin it might be OK.
By third or fourth cousin, I mean, one so far removed from your bloodline, it would make no appreciable genetic difference what so ever, or a cousin related to you by marri... (read in full...)
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