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writes:i want to know if it is right to marry my cousin. I love him so much and i cannot live without him. We've been dating for the past 4yrs nw. We've never had sex but we kiss. What do i do? We love each other so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): There is no problem, I live in the US and I got married to my first cousin 8 years ago and we have a beautiful and smart 4 years old son together. I talked to a doctor before we get married and I was told that if there is not any genetic disease in our family it is fine. I am very happy with my marriage.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 I did a quick review of marriage traditions in Nigeria and it seems like cousin marriage isn't unusual there, depending on the tribes involved. You've been dating for four years, so presumably both your families know what's going on. Are both families in favour? If they're not, that will be a big obstacle for the future of your married life.
If they are, then the responsible thing to do is have genetic testing done, so that you can be confident that any children you create together aren't going to have health issues.
If these both line up -- your families are onside and the doctors say your children will be fine -- then bless you and may you be happy together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): If you love each other and guidelines say so, i see no problem. For me, i see cousins in relationships like big age differences etc. As long as you can't tell genetically your related, then i dont see why not. You saying you have not had sex makes there no reason forpeople looking down on you, and calling you incest. And if they do, what have you really done wrong? Falling for someone isnt a crime. Have a really good think about thing with your partner, and see what he thinks about it, and uncle bob has said, if cultural differences or guidelines see no fault, i wish you the best of luck and a lifetime of happiness.xxxi
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reader, uncle bob +, writes (12 March 2011):
 In most cases...NO!
Maybe if he's a third or fourth cousin it might be OK.
By third or fourth cousin, I mean, one so far removed from your bloodline, it would make no appreciable genetic difference what so ever, or a cousin related to you by marriage only.
It also depends on the laws and the cultural customs in your country. If neither of these things are an issue, then I say, "Go for it"!
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