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writes:My Best Friend and I are both 16 and are from pretty different backgrounds. I live in a more or less comfortable middle class background where I go to private school, and he lives in a lower class background, where his parents are separated, his Dad has schizophrenia and I'm scared he might to because he's paranoid about being on the news for big crimes that he had committed when he's asleep (He's never been on the news, he's never committed any crimes either) He doesn't drink or do drugs which is good. But he is obsessed with communism to the point where he wants to give up his education because he doesn't want to become a "wage slave" and start a revolution in our country because it's a totalitarian regime according to him, we live in the UK (far from a totalitarian regime)I'm worried about my Best Friends, he doesn't want to finish school, what can I do to help his future?I'm scared for him because I'm moving away for two years to go to a school in Hong Kong, and I'm scared that if I leave, he'll be all on his own. He has no friends at his own school. I'm scared for his future, I'm scared that if I leave, he'll be even more depressed, and I'm scared that when he grows up without any qualifications or motivations, he's just going to end up dead, in jail, a drug abuser (his brother was killed by a drug dealer), or he'll end up being an alcoholic.I'm scared for him because he's almost like family and we've been friends since we were young. He says he'll be fine, but I think otherwise...
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 I realise, to you, this is going to sound very harsh and selfish. Walk away from him, close the door on this chapter of your life NOW! There's nothing you can do to improve his situation. Your job right now is to concentrate on yourself and your future. The more you try to save him from his plight, the more you'll find yourself dragged into his world. I've always believed that we're all here to help each other. That being said, we need to know where to draw the line. Otherwise we can become overwhelmed and no longer able to take care of ourselves. You have neither the age, wisdom, experience, or training to be of any assistance to him at all. This kind of thing must be left to those who have the training and resources to help him.As much as it might hurt, and regardless of the guilt you may feel, sometimes, you just have to let go.
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