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writes:So, there's a guy ive been talking to through facebook, and we've been talking for several months now... We text/chat/call each other all the time, and have soooo much in common, and we seem to click very well. I really like him, and I think I love him too,because he swore to me that all he wants is to see me happy, and to be mine, but having my extreme trust issues, im a little nervous about meeting him... i'm 14 and hes 13, (but we're both very mature, physically AND mentally) and he just told me today that he'll be visiting my city for vacation (orlando, florida). I was so excited at first, but then again, now im worried that when we meet i'll freeze up at the sight of him ( hes verryyyy attractive :] ) or he'll lose interest in me because im not as pretty as i seem in my 256 pictures... ive talked to my friends about it, and they all say ill be fine, as long as i be myself but i still worry because at school i used to be made fun of by guys because of my appearance, but lately ive been working on it, and look a lot better, and im becoming very popular at school :] How can i meet this guy without freaking? I can barely trust myself to remain calm!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): please take friends with you. This happened to my friend and it wasnt who she thought. even though she had seen 'him' on webcam... in actual fact it was just a young guy he knew. If youre going to insist on meeting him please, please dont go alone and make sure others know exactly where you are aswell
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (1 April 2011):
 Before you meet this guy, I suggest you go to Youtube and watch the "DATE LINE" series on catching predators.Most of the things in life that look to good to be true, usually are!What's wrong with dating the guys you already know?There's also the problem of liking a guy that lives in a different city. What kind of relationship could you ever hope to have? Have you told your parents you want to meet a guy you've only met online?Why not be safe, and just play in your own back yard?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 April 2011):
 Be very careful meeting someone you met online. There are predators out there who are extremely good at posing as teens to lure in young girls. Like itsallcool said, make sure several people know where you are. Set up a time that you will call them to let them know you are OK, and set up a timeframe after that that they will get help if you don't text. Meet up with him in a public place and don't go with him somewhere private. Have a strong (physically) friend or family member come with you, at least close enough that they can see you and make sure you're alright.
I know this seems like overkill, but this is your life and it's not worth risking so you can seem cooler. Your age (12-15) is the prime age bracket for online predators. They usually communicate for several months (yes, that long), sending pictures and texts before they just happen to randomly be passing through your hometown for a visit. Be careful. It seems weirdly coincidental to just randomly pop in to Orlando.
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reader, jayokayo  +, writes (1 April 2011):
 this all sound great but there is just one thing to keep in mind, is he really a 13 year old kid... im saying this because there are a lot of people out there who say they are young and the pics are not theres but of someone elses kid and there friend list is usualy made up of people they make friends with on fb just to make it look like they are really a kid.as the guy said before me get an adult to go with you to act like a stranger, meet in a public place, have your mobile with you and be sure to let your parents know where you are going and ring them every so often to let them know you are safe. sorry if what i said is a bit scary but its better to be made aware of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2011): hello, i think if you've been talking to eachother for that amount of time, i think the sense of urgency when you meet will kill the awkwardness, you have to remember to be just how you were on the internet to him, dont be shy, also remember you're older than him (so try think, maybe he'll be more nervous than you) i dont think i have given as much advice as i could have, but its 3am. im going to bed. write back if you need more help, :D cyaa
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reader, itsallcool  +, writes (1 April 2011):
1st of all tell someone where your going2nd of all take a charged mobile with credit on 3rd of all if need be have a friend/family person act likea stranger passing by so if all goes wrong they can step in4th meet in a pubic place with lots of people around like a supermarket or shopping centerthe more safe you are - the more relaxed your be
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