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writes:Am girl who is 21 years of age,there is this guy I just met and I love him and I do want to have sex with him, but my problem is his pregnant partner. What if he loves her more than he loves me? What if he just want to have sexual relations with me then leave me? Reply to this Question
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reader, msnewbeginning  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Allow your decision to have sex with him be based on what you want for yourself. Don't be intimidated by her pregnancy because he is with you for a reason. Make sure you examine yourself and be aware of possible situations before you give your body away. Once you give it away, there is no getting it back. As far as him having sex and leaving, let him prove his love before sex is an option. Waiting sometimes strengthens relationships.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Me might leave her.. knock you up and leave you too for someone NOT pregnant..He sounds like a loser, sorry.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Please put your emotions aside and try to look at this from a logical point of view. If you could see into the future, you would know that the odds are slim of him leaving her for you and staying with you. Men like him are the "love 'em and leave 'em" type. Don't waste your time, or your emotions. You will NOT come out a winner and all you will get out of this is a broken heart (or possibly a STD). Treat yourself with respect, walk away with dignity. Would you want your boyfriend to leave you if you were pregnant? Keep in mind this little ditty "If they cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you". It rings true about 99% of the time. Walk away.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Just go away from this guy. He is not for you. Trust me. (And he is also not supposed to be having sex with someone else - he has a woman, and he got her pregnant, and they are expecting a baby - really - this is a moment for you to tell yourself to leave well alone, and find a guy who is not already part of someone else's life - please - for all your sakes).
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Wow, that is a lot of baggage to be getting into. If this goes anywhere, are you willing to be a step-mom type? How many months pregnant is this lady?Honestly, you just met him...you don't LOVE him. You might think you do but you don't. I would get out fast, break it off. Tell him that you just want to be friends for awhile because you're not comfortable with him having a pregnant ex. See what else is out there...there is nothing worse than "baby mama drama". After she has this kid he's not going to have a lot of time for you, if he's a good father, his free time will go to this kid, and it's a possibility that he will grow closer to his ex, maybe they will both even realize that they want to try and be a "family" for this kid.
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Some things are just not meant to be.Pull yourself together, and put those raging hormones back in the box. By the way, it's not love your feeling, it's lust. Anything you think you might have to gain is far outweighed by all the devastation you'll cause to all those concerned.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 March 2011):
 You've just met him and you love him? I'm sorry my dear, but you cannot possibly love someone you've "just met" - you hardly know him.
Anyway, the main thing is he has a partner who is expecting his baby. I would certainly hope he DOES love her more than he "loves" you! You have no right to expect anything from this man. In fact, you should RUN - not walk - away from this man as fast as you can.
But you probably won't.......well, your funeral (I hope not literally, and that you don't end up pregnant if you insist on having it your own way).
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