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*iceprincessx
writes:I know you’re all going to think I’m being childish here, but please hear me out. I’m 18, and very mature for my age. Last year, I met my college lecturer, and we hit it off straight away. There was one point though where I got close to this boy and my teacher started being harsh to me and him. The same week I finished it with the boy and we drifted apart, and my teacher started being nice again. Whenever a boy at my college got close to me or flirted, he would get very moody with me. I got the tag name of teachers pet, because he would let me get off with everything. I would find him staring at me from the other side of the room.He is always complimenting me, for example one day I came in with a different hairstyle and he was saying how lovely it was and touching it. Then someone else had theirs done, and he didn’t bother saying anything to her. He’s always touching/flicking my hair and saying how nice my perfume smells. I have him this year and we have gotten closer. One time something was upsetting me and he told me, they have to go through him to get to me. He’s very protective of me, and at first I thought he saw me as a daughter figure, but now it seems that he wants something more. He knows that I fancy him (well last year) and he made it worse by getting closer.There are so many other things he does, but I’m not going to bore you any longer. We do flirt a lot, especially the whole bickering thing that students have in high school/college. I’m just confused about what this teacher wants. Does this guy have a crush on me, or is he just being a teacher? Thank you for readingUPDATE:So I'm writing the next part of the question as it's been like 4-5weeks now.It's kinda getting a bit crazy now as one of my friends likes me and my teacher isn't that happy about it.He's even warned the boy to back off from me which I think is stupid,as this Is my personal life!even though I've made it clear I dont like my friend back.My teacher gets really jealous when guys approach or I talk about them and starts asking all these questions.Then giving me random compliments saying how pretty I am :/.I still catch him staring at me especially when I'm around with male friends.So what is this strange behaviour?From what I can see he has feelings for me but I need your opinion from the outside.Thank you for reading
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 This is clearly one very disturbed individual.DO NOT allow this to continue any longer.Report his behavior to administration immediately,and ask to be reassigned to another teacher. Your very life may depend on it... "SERIOUSLY"I take it he is a college professor, and knows full wellthe college's policies on teacher/student relationships.Sure, you might bear some responsibility in not setting him straight in the beginning, but he's supposed to be the adult and authority figure here, and should know better. He clearly does not.He has broken the code of professional ethics, and should be fired by the collage.He has no right to say anything about who you associate with or to pass judgement on any of your friends, much less touch you!I would like to go on, but I find I'm becoming infuriated by his behavior.What's next, "If you want an "A" in my class, you'll have to earn it in my bed"?Do the right thing, REPORT HIM NOW!Save yourself and any future, more vulnerable girls, he sets his sights on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): This teacher sounds very unproffessional and is actually toying with an idea that could lose him his job! If he had a relationship with you he would be sacked and could lose any potential jobs of being a teacher. You can do better that flirting wiht a teacher who is being over protective and almost bullying your friends and guy colleagues who are perfectly at liberty to flirt with you without a teacher being overly aggressive about it. This is not right and i would either talk to him and say how you feel and that this has to end or go straight to the authorities or the college and explain this situation. This is wrong and should stop now. This guy could be dangerous he is well aware of the fact what he's doing is dangerous and the fact he's flirting with a student is very wrong. deffinately take action and try and stick to guys your own age or older if you like but not teachers! Good luck!
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reader, Drew21 +, writes (24 March 2011):
 I would say it definitely sounds like the teacher has a thing for you... I also think it sounds like it's getting almost unhealthy.
Does your school perhaps have a policy set that prohibits students and teachers from having relationships?
I know just recently the university i work at put such a policy in place because there WERE some relationships developing between students and teachers that put the integrity of the institution at stake.
My next question would be: Are you interested in this teacher still?
If not, i would start trying to take classes that he does not teach.
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