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anonymous
writes:Dear CupidMy bf of 2 years lives in a different city, I visited him 2 days back and we spent a day together. I came back to my work city yesterday. From yesterday he is not picking my calls or calling me back.Even if he picks up, he calls me bitch and slut and treats my so badly. When I was with him, he was so good to me and we didnt fight. Why is he behaving so badly to me now, is that cause he just needed sex from me and once he got it, he doesnt need me now?In past 2 years, our relationship had more downs than up. BTW he took money from me and he expecting more from me for his student loan. What should I do now, please help me? I feel so dirty for sleeping with him now.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 January 2013):
Stop worrying about the guy and leave ASAP. He's not going to give you the money back so don't ask for it. Just block his number and delete him from your phone/fb/whatever.
This guy is verbally abusive and the psychology behind it can make you feel like you want to be with him even though he's a total asshole.
Don't fall into his trap or wait until he scams more money from you to leave
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2013): You should definately dump him and move on. For him to treat you like that shows that he doesnt care about you and he doesnt sound like hes a very nice person.I wouldnt dwell on it though instead think of it as a lucky escape, end all contact and move forward.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 January 2013):
 You can take a shower and - figuratively - parse the "dirty" from yourself.....
As to the rest of your "question"...... YES, this cad USED you for s*x.... and got what he wanted... so he did what so many guys do.... he cast you aside....
Don't fret unnecessarily.... Consider this an unpleasant lesson in life, and go on.... NOT with any contact with this CREEP!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (6 January 2013):
 OP, is this the first time you slept with him? Has this been an online relationship (until now) or a long distance relationship? It's not very clear.
You should not tolerate anyone calling you those names. It's completely unacceptable. Don't put up with that.
Decide whether or not you're willing to put up with any more of this behaviour. I can tell you that you deserve way better than this.
If you stay with him, don't give him any more money. Tell him the bank closed after he called you a slut.
What should you do now? Stop calling him. Move on to someone deserving of you. Good luck.
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reader, R1 +, writes (6 January 2013):
 He does not sound worth it. Don't let him get any more of your money!
Don't feel bad for sleeping with him, you did it with good/honest intentions it was him who was in the wrong and should feel dirty.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (6 January 2013):
 How much money did he get from you? You should demand it back and then dump him. He sounds repulsive. Why would you want to be with someone who calls you gendered slurs? You shouldn't be in a relationship just for the sake of it. If you're not feeling happy most of the time, it's time to leave.
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reader, tby1 +, writes (6 January 2013):
 So now you make this moron your ex bf. Disrespectful and doesn't care at all over your shambolic relationship or you. Just be the decent person as usual and say bye.
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