I'm in love with a married man who is ready to leave his wife for me but I don't want to break up a family. What should I do?
Q. I am in love with a married man. I am 23 he is 29. He is willing to leave his wife for me. She lives in another country. I don't know what to do, because ever though we are deeply in love with each other, i don't want to break up a family. They ...
A. 3 October 2012: If he's willing to break up a family for you then one day he would break up with you for another person! You should always keep that in mind that a cheater is always a cheater. ... (read in full...)
My parents constant fighting have made me believe love doesn't exist
Q. My parents quarrel all the time. They are always disagreeing on matters concerning their marriage. At my mother s uncle s funeral my father didnt show. My mum was so hurt about that because she s always there for my dad. My dad is not a good man to ...
A. 23 September 2012: I was the same way until I met my roommate's parents. They met in college and they have been married for 30 years, still madly in love with each other. Yes, love does exist, it's just really hard to find. ... (read in full...)
Crush on my former teacher - what to do with our friendship now?
Q. Long post, but please read! I'm having a dilemma. Basically, I had this teacher in eleventh grade for economics and the minute he became my teacher I developed a huge crush on him. Literally, could not wait for his class, would make sure I look...
A. 12 August 2012: You mentioned that you guys talk "almost every night". I think you might mean more to him than just a former student. He might feel the same way as you do but I'm not sure how you can find out. It might be that he feels like he is too old for you ... (read in full...)
As a person, she IS my dream girl...but sexually, the attraction is minimal. What can I do?
Q. I don't find my girlfriend that attractive, but I am overwhelmingly happy with who she is as a person. What do I do? My girlfriend and I kind of stumbled into dating each other. We met at a party one night and ended up drunkly hooking up (havi...
A. 14 May 2012: Looks like you want it all!
In my opinion, you shouldn't let her go if she is your dream girl. Remember, beauty fades after a while.... (read in full...)
I'm twenty and I want to try a short-term relationship with a 56yr old man. Any advice?
Q. Got a crush on a 56yr old man. I know theres no long term potential and I know its not smart to get involved. But I feel weak. i like him a lot and I know he likes me too. would it be ok to have a short-tetm relationship with him? I dont like the ...
A. 14 May 2012: At first I thought I was reading my own question! I'm also 20 and I fancy a 56-year old but I can't do anything about it because he is married. I don't think what you want to do it going to be problematic as long as he is not married nor taki... (read in full...)
Is he too old for me?
Q. I am 20 and recently started dating 31 year old man. We get on well, but is 11 years too big an age gap for a relationship to work in the long run? ...
A. 15 January 2012: That's my IDEAL age gap! Go for it!... (read in full...)
Should I change myself for him or stay the way I am?
Q. So my man is 9 years older than me, he is stuck in his ways n believes women should act n be a certain way. I'm conflicted because I'm falling in love with him and I am nothing like what he believes in. My question is should I change ways and be ...
A. 4 December 2011: Don't ever change yourself. ... (read in full...)
I am 18 seeing a man double my age. Do I tell my mom or let things ride?
Q. Hi guys i really need your opinion on what to do. I have been seeing this guy who's going to be turning 37 this October, i am 18 turning to 19 next year February. I don't care about the age difference because we talked about it and we are cool with ...
A. 1 September 2011: I think you should tell your mom about this. Even though she is not gonna encourage you, she's gonna give you some good advice. You're only 18 and I know you think you are old enough to make good decisions but trust me this is not true. Your mom ... (read in full...)
How do I get my teacher out of my head and make sure this doesn't happen again?
Q. so I've liked my teacher for about 2 1/2 years since grade 8 something like that. Anyways i'm done jr.high now and even though I've only been off for a day or two i miss him terribly,last day of school i gave him a hug and that felt like closer but ...
A. 5 July 2011: Hey there,
I've been through this before. I had strong feelings for one of my high school teachers and I thought that I would never get over him. This happened my senior year in high school. Unlike all other students, I was so sad on the last day ... (read in full...)
Relationships with ex-teachers - how does society view them?
Q. Do you know of anyone who got together with their ex teachers? If so, do you know how they deal with pressure from society in general? Like with the ex student's friends, the ex teacher's students and friends etc. How do people view the coupling in ...
A. 10 June 2011: I know this teacher from my high school who actually married one of his students right after she graduated! They have 4 kids right now and their age gap is large. I met the girl once. They looked lovely together even though you could tell that the ... (read in full...)
My married manager and I are invovled in an affair, and I want out--but I don't want lose my job!!
Q. Need some advice please. My married manager who I for the last year have seen more as an uncle and he's a great deal older than me, i'm only 20. He's met my parents several times and I always saw him more like a caring uncle than my manager. However ...
A. 26 May 2011: I hate to tell you this but this is a total mess!
I know it sounds harsh but I think both of you need to pay for what you did. You slept with a married man and he cheated on his wife. You should tell him that you have to end this no matter what... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and my BF is 47!! Scared for the future...
Q. I am 17 and my boyfriend is 47. Thats a 30 year age difference...now, I don't have a problem with that, by it makes me so depressed when I think about the future. He will die so early, and I don't want to be alone..I love him and he is the only man ...
A. 25 April 2011: You never know who is gonna die first; only God knows that.
Enjoy your time and don't worry about death.... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my teacher and I think he likes me also, but he's married to a woman who is way older than him!!
Q. Ok, so at the beginning of the school year I didn't like him that much I just thought he was kinda cute so I thought I would get over it but then he started flirting with me! He started staring at me, smiling at me, and he just treated me ...
A. 13 April 2011: What? He has gotten another girl pregnant? A girl YOUR age???
Ok, seriously need to stay AWAY form this person! ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date an 18 year old? She's still a virgin.
Q. I'm 31 and have never gone out with a girl this young. She's 18 but she's quite mature for her age and doesn't look young either. Sometimes I forget she's 18 and feel like I'm speaking with a grown woman. She's not even "really" woman since she ...
A. 7 April 2011: As long as you are not planning on taking her virginity and as long as you are not a player... (read in full...)
Is it unacceptable to be with someone this much older?
Q. I am a 27yrs old woman in a relationship with a 55yrs old man. We've been together for 4yrs. I love him and he loves me very much but the age difference has been bothering me a lot lately. He wants to get married but the problem is I have a large ...
A. 29 March 2011: I don't think you should care about what people think about your relationship because it's YOUR life.
If you really LOVE him, you shouldn't care about his age because that's just a number. In my opinion, older men are much better than younger ones... (read in full...)
Is there an age gap problem if girl 18 dates 25 yr old guy? Or are they about the same?
Q. What is your view on an 18 year old dating a 24 or 25 year old, if their maturity level is fairly the same?...
A. 20 March 2011: Go for it!
Guys your age are too immature... (read in full...)
What if he forgets about me?
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I'm 19 and he's 34. We have had a lot of problems in our relationship, however, one of the things I'm completly sure about is that I love him and that he means everything to me. But he never has time ...
A. 7 March 2011: "If you love someone, let them go, for if they return they are always yours and if they don't, they never were"... (read in full...)
How can I believe that I don't have a chance with him?
Q. I'm a freshman in college and I can't get over the teacher I fell in love with my senior year at high school. It's been over a year and I expected to be over him by now but I still have fantasies about him and CAN NOT believe that I wont ever have a ...
A. 15 January 2011: But I'm not his student anymore and it's not illegal. I'm in college now and he was my high school teacher. His job is at no risk here.... (read in full...)
Do women respect guys who don't push for sex, or do they think they're wimps?
Q. In brief I know a girl who I have been out with a few times, sort of on a friendly basis.I have never ever pushed for any kind of physical involvement,and whenever we go out I just take her home and wave good night. But I know she has begun relation...
A. 15 January 2011: Trust me, decent girls love guys like you because it seems like you really respect them. Is this girl one of those ones who jump into bed with guys too easily? If so, she doesn't even deserve you; If not, I'm pretty sure she admires you. I would ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with... my step dad!
Q. hi im 18 years old and im in love with my stepdad and want to be with him but hes married to my mum and i cant resist telling him every day that i love him and i dont know what to do. Help!...
A. 10 January 2011: I think you should definitely move out. You don't wanna ruin your own mom's life! This is totally wrong and you should try to forget about him. I'm sorry but you can't do anything but to forget about him. I wouldn't tell anyone anything about it. By ... (read in full...)
Help I've fallen for an 45 year old man!!!
Q. I go secondary school and there's this teacher I like. He doent really teach anything he's a sub, but the thing is I think I've fallen in love with him. This is a big problem on its own but the other thing is he's a bit old and when i say old i mean ...
A. 10 January 2011: If he is a sub, he is going to leave soon so you can get over him really soon. Don't worry. Please don't do anything stupid because you can get him into trouble and he is lose his job. ... (read in full...)
27 years my senior and I want more than friends!
Q. Ok, I'm 24 and have fallen in love with a 51yr old man! Weird as it may sound, he doesn't act or look his age! He's a great guy and he is just about to go through divorce and child custody procedures!, I have known him nearly 20 yrs as my mother was ...
A. 9 January 2011: This man is taking advantage of you. That's all I can say.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my former teacher, who is married, how I feel?
Q. Hi there, I have a little bit of a problem. I'm 20 years old, been out of high school for almost three years now but I still have very strong, deep feelings for my high school teacher. I first had him as my teacher during my junior year, and sinc...
A. 8 January 2011: I really think it's a BAD idea to tell him because you could ruin his marriage. It would be so selfish of you telling him. Don't do it please.... (read in full...)
Age difference....just numbers??
Q. Do you guys think age is just a numbering am extremely attracted to a 38 year old and I am 24...
A. 7 January 2011: I think it's totally fine. Older guys are more mature.... (read in full...)
He is not allowed to date outside his religion!
Q. hey, i'm in need of advice! My bf has a very different religion to me and my family. His family's religion is very strict and one of the 'rules' is to be with some one who has the same religion. He doesn't care much as he is with me but he hasn't ...
A. 6 January 2011: You have 3 choices:
1. Convince his family to stay with you (which sounds unlikely but you know anything is possible)
2. Continue your relationship and deal with the fact that he might get disowned by his family.
and 3. If you really LOVE him, I ... (read in full...)
He wont tell me how old he is!
Q. Is it weird for a man not to tell you how old he is when you ask? Especially if it's a man you've been out on a few dates with? He refuses to tell me and gets defensive. I didn't think it was a big deal at the time, so I dropped it. But now I'm...
A. 5 January 2011: He definitely has a problem with you knowing his age. I think he is older than what he looks like and he is scared you are not going to stay with him after you know his age. But you can't continue like that. You SHOULD know his age, and if he thinks ... (read in full...)
Expensive love!
Q. dear cupid, i would like to ask, is right to spend alot of money in a relationship to impress your girlfriend....
A. 4 January 2011: Well, it depends! Does she appreciate it as much as you want her to?
As a girl, I hate stingy guys but you should always remember that you can't trade her love with money. ... (read in full...)
I may be in love with my stepdaughter...
Q. I married my ex wife with her having a 8 month old daughter.I stayed married to her mother untill she was 13.than me and her mom got a divorce and me and my stepdaughter built a incredible relationship up to that point.(know by incredible I mean ...
A. 24 December 2010: I think since you are not her real dad it is not that bad but still it's considered an incest.
I have a hard time understanding how it is possible for you to have feelings for her when you have raised her. It just doesn't make any sense to me. You ... (read in full...)
In love with a married man, how do I say 'no' when my heart says yes?
Q. Okay, here is the deal. I am in college, but right now I am on winter break. My sister, still in high school, and I went to go watch her boyfriend in a school performance. The teacher I used to have a crush on was there. I gave up on anything ...
A. 23 December 2010: I really admire the fact that you don't want to ruin his life. Again, I think you should think about that bad karma. Just think of it this way: what if you were his wife and a young girl was trying to steal your husband from you?
Just ignore him ... (read in full...)
He has a thing for younger girls and I am worried he might try it on with me now I'm 18!
Q. So I am a senior in high school and 18. For two years now I have been singing with diffrent musicians at diffrent venues. Now that I am "legal" I am able to sing in bars....I have a new musician Im working with named "tom"...tom is 33..he has an ...
A. 19 December 2010: What don't you stop working with him? This person sounds like a pervert.
Does your job really worth being abused by this man? Don't think so.
I'd say you HAVE to stop working with this man.... (read in full...)
I love a man who is 37 years older than me. How do I tell my family?
Q. okay well i been dating this guy for 1 yr, i love him to death. he makes me feel great he put a smile every time i see him. there one problem he older than me 37yrs. i met him when i was turning 20. he loves me and i love him. my parents don't know ...
A. 5 December 2010: I think you shouldn't care what people think about you. I know it might be a little harder for him when people see you two in public because people judge him worse that they judge a young girl, but he is going to get used to it. I completely ... (read in full...)
Advice needed ASAP!
Q. Yesterday i had sex with my bf and his condom popped i heard but i didnt realize it till he came in me. should i take the plan B pill or just wait next week to see if i am pregnant and deal with this issue from there???...
A. 3 December 2010: TAKE PLAN B!!!!!
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Why are young girls interested in much older men?
Q. What is happening? I'm wondering why these young girls about 13 to 15 say they love WAY older than them as much as ten even twenty years older I don't get why these girls would fall everytime I here this story I become sick to my stomach there are ...
A. 27 November 2010: Because older men are mature and more stable.
I'm 19 and I've always fallen for older men. Not only I'm emotionally attracted to them, but I'm also sexually attracted to older men.... (read in full...)
I miss my teacher
Q. I miss my teacher. He has been gone for a month and i feel like i lost my best friend. How do i move on from someone who'd been like a father or brother to me? Who had encouraged and almost spent every free available time with me? He almos...
A. 23 November 2010: Email him or find him on Facebook Why did he leave?... (read in full...)
How do I work with a relationship with such a big age difference.
Q. I am 18...in love with a 48 year old man... We haven't told anyone about it... I'm really confused...I do love him and i wanna be with him more than anything....but i still don't know how it will work out... What should I do?...
A. 17 November 2010: If he is married, then why do you want to destroy a household? Think about his wife; you are stealing her husband from her. Do you think this is a pleasant thing to happen to you if you were married yourself?? Just think about it for a second.
A... (read in full...)
Why would a 42 year old man be interested in a 54 year old woman?
Q. I want to know why a 42 old male would have a relationship with a 54 women Do you think he really cares about her or is he just using her. We have had problems in the last 1 and half years. I really do not trust him I do not know what to do...
A. 15 November 2010: He could be taking advantage of her money or status. But I guess he could also be in love with her, why not? Love doesn't understand age difference.... (read in full...)
How do I work with a relationship with such a big age difference.
Q. I am 18...in love with a 48 year old man... We haven't told anyone about it... I'm really confused...I do love him and i wanna be with him more than anything....but i still don't know how it will work out... What should I do?...
A. 15 November 2010: Is this man married??... (read in full...)
Is he waiting till I graduate?
Q. hi i am a new comer to the U.S and I couldn't speak well-English when I just got there and I am a student in a HIGH SCHOOL . I've met lot of students , teachers and people who helped me a lot to improve my English skills and they're all proud of...
A. 12 November 2010: Don't do anything that might put him in trouble. Remember that teacher-student relations are illegal in the states. I know exactly how you feel. I have had the exact same experience.
Is this guy married?
Feel free to message me anytime... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be attracted to older men?
Q. I'm 18, and for as early as I could remember I've been attracted to older men (40-50). Maybe because of their masculinity and overall maturity. My dad recently told me if he found out I was seeing a man in that age group, he wouldn't approve of it. ...
A. 24 September 2010: You are just like me!
I can't like guys in my age group either. I am in college now and there are lots of very cute guys here but I just don't get attracted to them. I think that is pretty normal. I thought there was something wrong with me at the ... (read in full...)
Tell me to be sensible! College professor likes me and I like him too!
Q. I just found out my uni professer likes me and I'm in turmoil. I am a mature student and I like him too. I don't know what to do, so far I have just been avoiding him. It is driving me nuts. I want to be sensible about the whole thing. He is ...
A. 23 September 2010: I think you shouldn't do anything right now, since you can ruin his life and yours. Do you like him a lot? If so, wait until you graduate. ... (read in full...)
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