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writes:I am 17 and my boyfriend is 47. Thats a 30 year age difference...now, I don't have a problem with that, by it makes me so depressed when I think about the future. He will die so early, and I don't want to be alone..I love him and he is the only man I want to be with, but I am so scared for the future and how this age difference will come between us. :'(
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reader, swordandredrose +, writes (25 April 2011):
You never know who is gonna die first; only God knows that.
Enjoy your time and don't worry about death.
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reader, moon river  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Just out of curiosity is it legal in your state?
I have had a relationship with an older gentlemen and it was hard but I had to realise that it was never going to last. Maybe hours will I'm not saying it won't or anything but I know a woman, 40 now who did what we did and she has buried her husband now. I'm still with the older guy, but only as my thing on the side, also we have become great friends which is too valuable to give up!!
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reader, zhacha +, writes (24 April 2011):
IMO a 47 man who is with a 17 is doing so for as an advantage - to himself. He's probably not agonizing over this as he is looking towards the next. Not nice to say I know, but most men that age experienced to see a long view you cannot at your age. It is not likely that he will be your last, and that is good. The 30 year gap is too broad, perhaps less where you 30 and he 70... even then it would be difficult as he would pass away first more than like. In the case of the 47 he will probably pass on to someone else. I think an age gap at your age should not be more than 5 years. More years the older you get.
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 April 2011):
 Age difference only come between you if you allow it to. You're deciding the future, where your future is uncertain. I'm 39, a friend I went to school with passed away a couple of days ago. He passed in his sleep due to a heart condition. If you truly love him, treasure the time you have through that love. I read a story where there was a large age gap like this. He did end up passing, but she said she's grateful for the time they did have, and would rather have had that short period of time, than to have not had him in her life, than she would have being with some else that she didn't have the same love for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): Im afraid those worries are going to be natural when you date someone with such a large age gap. Theres really nothing you can do about the fact that he is much older than yourself and the real possibility that he will pass away before you. I know you say you love him but you might have to do some really serious thinking soon! Its unfair that you should be worrying about someone dying at a time when you should be happy and excited about your future.With respect, this man has already lived a large chunk of his life. To be honest, things are on the downward slide for him now...and he has taken a teenage partner? If he had any wisdom or real love for you. He would let you go and find someone your own age to love and settle with. He knows thats what he should do but hes keeping hold of you for very selfish reasons i think. The only way to not have these worries is to be with someone nearer your own age.
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