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*annapao26
writes:So I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I'm 19 and he's 34. We have had a lot of problems in our relationship, however, one of the things I'm completly sure about is that I love him and that he means everything to me. But he never has time for, he's always busy. 5 days ago I text him and told him that we should spend sometime together and he text me back saying he has a lot of problems that he's busy and to leave him alone for a while. So I stopped calling him and texting him.Today he called me and I didn't picked up and then he called the house home and asked me if I didn't wanna talk to him I told him I was busy and he said he'll call me tomorrow. I'm scared because I'm inlove with him and as much as I want to forget about him I can't. what if he doesn't call me tomorrow as he said he would just because I didn't wanted to talk to him today? What if he forgets about me?
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (15 March 2011):
 NOOOOO! Do not cave now and tell him you miss you.
It is good he thinks you are busy having a life of your own. You should be having one anyways. But you need him to wake up to the fact that you are not going to sit at home and wait for him anymore if he doesn't make more time for you.
And he finally does so don't ruin that but telling him now.
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reader, dannapao26 +, writes (15 March 2011):
dannapao26 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe did introduced me to his friends and his co-worker and roomate and brother but not his whole family because since they don't live close.
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reader, tinkercharlie  +, writes (15 March 2011):
Hi, how is your situation now as i feel I am in a situation like yours. Im 19 and going with someone who is 26 and i dont see him much either. Its really hard to figure out what is going on in their heads. Mine hasnt got any kids or being married. Has he ever introduced you to his family or friends?
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reader, dannapao26 +, writes (7 March 2011):
dannapao26 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe did call me early this morning .. he asked me why I didn't picked up the phone yesterday . He also said that it looks like I'm really entertain doing other things because I have not call him in 4 days. Idk what to do . Should I let him think I'm doing other things or should I tell him how much I miss him?
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reader, swordandredrose +, writes (7 March 2011):
"If you love someone, let them go, for if they return they are always yours and if they don't, they never were"
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reader, dannapao26 +, writes (7 March 2011):
dannapao26 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo he is not married. He does have 3 kids and I totally understand that his kids are always going to be first and that's how it should be, but when you love someone you always have time for that someone.
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reader, Aunty Honest +, writes (7 March 2011):
 I do understand that fear of everything falling apart, but people don't stop caring about someone because of a phone call. Especially when he'd done the same to you a day before! Also, when we care about someone we don't forget about them in a few days. If he was going to leave you over something that small, then he was always going to leave you I'm afraid. But it doesn't sound like you're at that point. He clearly wants to talk, and hopefully explain himself. Don't panic, I bet he's not plotting your break-up. However, it sounds odd to me that he would be so busy. And you should start really thinking if you can take it being this way. I know you love him, but it doesn't sound like he's placing much importance on your feelings right now. I'm not saying you have to leave him, but maybe be a bit assertive about getting what you need from him. Tell him what's not working for you. Because if you don't tell him how you're feeling and why, things won't get better. Hope that helps a little. P.S I really hate to ask this, but there's absolutely no way he's married is there? Worth checking out hun.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (7 March 2011):
Don't panic I'm sure he will call tomorrow, because your not chasing him for once. Besides your 19 and still young and beautiful he should be worried about you getting tired of him or finding someone else who wants to spend time with you. So let him chase you for a while.
You'll probably be amazed at how un-busy he suddenly gets.
And if not then he wasn't right for you anyways. Better to know now.
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