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writes:okay well i been dating this guy for 1 yr, i love him to death. he makes me feel great he put a smile every time i see him. there one problem he older than me 37yrs. i met him when i was turning 20. he loves me and i love him. my parents don't know i am dating him, and we have plans on telling them but i don't how? we have been talking about moving in together we just bought a house i love the idea should i moving in with him? he the love of my life i know it but every time we go out in public we get people staring at us it doesn't bug me but it bugs him what can we do about that? please help us out thank u Reply to this Question
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reader, OliviaAna +, writes (21 December 2010):
 OMG an age gap of 12 years has been hell for me!! After 14 years of marriage, I'm 48 and he's 60, it's like taking care of my Dad. He has lost all interest in sex for the past year and now I'm simply his nurse and housemaid because he wants to go nowhere and do absolutely nothing. I'm not dead yet....not by any means! He sleeps in a separate bedroom (always has because of "reflux" he says) It's lonely and miserable as hell for me to have nothing more in common than one TV show.
My gosh please think about these things before you commit to any kind of relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Tricky one. You sound happy but have you thought about the future? In ten years or so he may need to be looked after because he is so old. Could you cope with that or would you want to be out doing energetic things with friends?
Of course it doesn't always follow. A friend of mine went out with a man much younger and he dropped down dead at the bus stop!
Your family will probably ask you similar questions. Think carefully, because love can be blind.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 There is no way your parents won't freak out and there is no way that people won't stare at you, because this age difference is objectively unusual bordering on weird.
But, if you are really convinced about your choice, that should not affect you. Every thing in life that's worth having comes with a price tag- and if you two are sure this is the love of your life, a few stares are a small price to pay.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (6 December 2010):
 They aren't going to like it. In fact, no one would - these May-December matches (or in your case, March-December) rarely work out in the long run. Have you really considered all aspects of this relationship? Are you certain you can handle to baggage that comes with being with a guy who's 58, has probably had a family etc etc.
No one can prevent you from doing what you wish to - you're an adult and he's probably reasonably well-off. But there's no right way to tell your family without them freaking out. I can only suggest that you try talking to the parents who you are closer to individually first and give some thought to whatever he/she tells you.
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reader, swordandredrose +, writes (5 December 2010):
I think you shouldn't care what people think about you. I know it might be a little harder for him when people see you two in public because people judge him worse that they judge a young girl, but he is going to get used to it. I completely understand you here. I'm personally attracted to much older men so I don't think there is anything wrong with a young girl who dates older men who are old enough to be her father. I guess you can explain to your parents that you are sure about what you are doing. I wouldn't tell them right away that I'm moving in with this man. Just tell them little by little.Now, I've got a question for you: how did you guys meet?Has he ever been married before? Does he have kids?
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