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*ynomia
writes:Ok, I'm 24 and have fallen in love with a 51yr old man! Weird as it may sound, he doesn't act or look his age! He's a great guy and he is just about to go through divorce and child custody procedures!, I have known him nearly 20 yrs as my mother was a friend of his :S, my mother passed away in 1998 and I lost contact with him due to relocation... Bk in november I spoke to him on facebook and he gave me all the info on his wife leaving him etc! And since then I've felt different.... I met up with him a cpl times and got drunk with him.... I went home as usual the first time but the second I ended up going home with him..... And we ended up doing some pretty sexual things... He went quiet for few days n when I asked if he was ok he said... It shouldn't of happened I've lost your mums respect!... I don't think my mother would be upset as he is a great bloke! Anyways I told him I loved him the other day and he said well.. I'm shocked you feel this way but I'm not ready with all the stuff going on right now and maybe you shouldn't come see me atm.... So I said I knew he wouldn't be ready yet and that I was just saying my feelings!... This was 2 days ago then I got a txt at 4am saying we can meet up as friends but no ties? If u want.... Can anyone help me please?
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reader, dynomia +, writes (10 January 2011):
dynomia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo see I met him tonight at the pub, he asked how I was and I said fine... Although my heart revolves around him atm... He knows this too and when I met him he asked if I was getting a lift home and if not his mate could do it because he doesn't want me feeling there is more than there actually is but when I left he was like... Oh are u going already? Kissed me on the cheek and said txt me! I txt him on my way home in the car which took 40 mins and he said ''you look and are beautiful never forget that'' I really think he needs to chill a bit bout his stresses and talk bout things what do u all think?
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reader, swordandredrose  +, writes (9 January 2011):
This man is taking advantage of you. That's all I can say.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Ok well if you have fell for him then it would be really hard for you to be able to be friends with him if you still hold feelings for him, its something you need to think about and ask yourself can you handle that.
I cant say if anything will ever happen between you both or not to me it sounds like he may not be interested but am sure its not to do with you as a person he may just be confused if he is coming out of a marriage.
Goodluck.
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reader, dynomia +, writes (9 January 2011):
dynomia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for that :-) but this guy I'm sure is not on about sex as he said he didn't wanna do it and just be great friends like before I told him what was on my mind. I'm just worried more will never come thanks
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (8 January 2011):
When a guy says he wants to meet up as friends with no ties it means that he wants to have sex without the complication of being in a relationship. Dont lower yourself to this standard. You have told him how you feel about him and now he is taking advantage of that.
Keep your dignity and tell him that you are not going to do anything sexual with him if he is not going to commit to you. You shouldnt lower yourself to be anyones sex toy. He is probably just flattered that such a young woman like yourself is interested in him but do not get involved unless he shows some kind of commitment. If he says that it is to soon for him then say thats ok and that he can contact you when he is ready.
To be honest it doesnt sound like he is interested in you and you will end up getting hurt if you start having a sexual relationship with him when you have feelings for him, my advice would be to stay clear.
Goodluck.
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