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writes:Do you know of anyone who got together with their ex teachers? If so, do you know how they deal with pressure from society in general? Like with the ex student's friends, the ex teacher's students and friends etc. How do people view the coupling in general?Thanks for any input. Reply to this Question
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reader, galdegir  +, writes (20 June 2011):
Yes, and it depends on the teacher how professional they keep it. During my senior years as a young lad we had a very good looking young fresh out of Uni Physics teacher and she was involved with a lad in our year at the time but at school it was always professional and level headed and some times she'd come watch us play football go to the movies with us all as a group but they both didn't serious until we had finished year 12 at the time he was 18 she was 25.
They eventually married and are still very much together if they're both adults who cares as long as they love each other? Depending on the age gap too but age doesn't determine one's level of maturity either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2011): Well, at first realize many people will wonder when this relationship started, did it start before or after the student had grduated. If it was soon after many teachers and students may find it suspicious that they just started having the relationship then. Teachers (some) will probably think it was wrong because when they loook at their students they don't think about them being in their future. Students may be a little creeped out (depending age gap) and some will just say the student graduated, they can't change anything.
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reader, swordandredrose +, writes (10 June 2011):
I know this teacher from my high school who actually married one of his students right after she graduated! They have 4 kids right now and their age gap is large. I met the girl once. They looked lovely together even though you could tell that the age gap was large. That teacher had been there for years and I have never heard anyone saying negative stuff about what he did. I personally don't think it's wrong as long as you start the relationship AFTER you graduate.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (9 June 2011):
I don't understand how this happens. Are you talking about high school? Here in Australia teachers are only contracted a few years at one school and then move on. I know this as my aunt is a school teacher.
They change schools so often, its rare to work at a school for many years annymore. Even if you did want to talk to a teacher, they wouldn't be at the school any longer, to see them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): Thanks for sharing!
As an extra question, do you think it would have affected the ex teacher's career once colleagues and students know about it? What about if the ex teacher is now a private tutor thus income depends solely on the number of students he takes in, and not in a school setting? Would it have affected his image and reputation?
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (9 June 2011):
 I know of one or two teachers who ended up having relationships with their former students.
From what I can tell the relationships themselves worked, but that's because they are two compatible people who just so happened to meet in a classroom setting but waited until after the student was no longer in school to pursue a relationship.
As for how society views them, I've seen mixed reviews. Some people say that it's 'creepy' and 'teachers shouldn't look at their students in that light'. Now, I'm not saying that teachers should go shack up with their 13 year old students but if you come in contact with them after they have gotten through school and you find yourself attracted, hell, teachers are only humans, too.
Ex student's friends might be the most judgmental, being that there's usually a pretty definite age gap between the two (presumably) and sometimes people don't understand why people want to be with each other. Eh, I guess that goes for everyone around them somewhat, but oh well.
Basically at the end of the day if the two people are consenting adults who really care about each other and are good with each other, then who cares what anyone else thinks? Buut that's just how I see it...
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