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writes: What is happening? I'm wondering why these young girls about 13 to 15 say they love WAY older than them as much as ten even twenty years older I don't get why these girls would fall everytime I here this story I become sick to my stomach there are even girls just entering middle school and already pregnant! I'm just completely confused why girls do that? I just want atleast some understanding about this. Any thoughts?
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reader, Laura87z  +, writes (4 February 2011):
well first I dont thin there is any correlation between young girls liking older man and pregnancy. Accidents can always happen wether they are dating older or younger men. This is not really the issue. I personaly am attracted to older men because I feel that I can talk to them and communicate with them with more clartity and understanding ( but this doesnt apply to the majority )..while other girls might prefer older man because older people know how to manipulate young girls..seduce them because they know their weak points. However that is bad.So you see we cannot really generalise. It all depends on the case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Prob because virtually without exception, 'older' men are sexier, more complete in every way, more mature. Guys under 20 just haven't become real MEN yet. Though I whole-heartedly agree that girls 13-15 should stick to guys absolutely no older than 16-18 max!!
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reader, swordandredrose  +, writes (27 November 2010):
Because older men are mature and more stable.
I'm 19 and I've always fallen for older men. Not only I'm emotionally attracted to them, but I'm also sexually attracted to older men.
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reader, frenchii  +, writes (24 November 2010):
older men treat women alot better as boys my age 14/15 are soo childish ! :L 3 xxxx
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reader, Frankie v +, writes (24 November 2010):
In the way my sisster says it ..she enjoys older men becsuse there more mature
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): i find older men attractive because well thats just how i feel you can't help who you go ooooh he's nice ...
it's no wrong legally it is just ethnically wrong
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Sometimes they think an older guy will be more mature which is not always the case. Some have the whole needing a father figure thing. Some because older guys will have a job, care, security etc... there's a number of reasons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): for me, well beause simply that's what the wave brought me. lol that's what i found so...
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (24 November 2010):
 At the age of 13-15 it's a combination of
1. An Electra complex
2. The fact that boys from 13-19 are rarely attractive.
As a girl gets older it's probably a desire for security and stability (apart from (1) above) that the older, often wealthier man seems better equipped to provide.
Point worth remembering is that not ALL girls go through this phase.
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reader, WHISPERSOFMYSTERY +, writes (24 November 2010):
 i know exactly what your talking about and from having friends that were involved with older men twice their age is definatly weired but heres the truth,most young girls want to feel grown up and feel mature and being with an older guy makes most feel that way ,alot of older guys seem to understand young girls because they were a kid before and there for gain a young ones trust,also some older guys will put full attention on that girl, all that so called lubby dubby stuff,they seem to know how to purswayed a young girls mind,and most young boys act hard core more than sweet,thats my opinion from observing others'
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (24 November 2010):
because men that are say ten or twelve year older than them seems to be more mature than an 18 year old boy. they respect someone more than a young boy would and most important of all they know how to maintain a relation.
they understand the importance of relation and value the word ''love'' whereas a young boy would take it as a past time.
when a girl is in a relation with someone older than her to quite some extent the relation is more likely to survive longer. also it is said that boy matures a bit late as compared to girls so this might also be a reason of it as any girl would not want to date an immature boy.
But some men usually take advantage of it. yeah they use the youngs for their pleasure. yeah indeed some girls become pregnant very early in their age because they are totally unaware of the real world yet. it was just an act of theirs whereby they wanted pleasures without considering the consequences..
hope this helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): One word: Maturity. Even tho those girls are immature, maybe its the guidance they like. Often times women who seek much older men tend to not have had a father figure...otherwise, why the hell would they be getting pregnant so young? Dont worry man about this...those women can be lost causes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): hi rubixcube777,
girls of the age (13-15) vary a lot, but one very big influence can be the culture in which they live.
The smarter girls in that age group, and i am not talking IQ, i am talking EQ (emotional intelligence) recognise that getting involved with a male of any age can wait. But their hormones are stirring and they are leaving childhood, and entering a new phase, but they are not yet women.
They are at a very vulnerable time in their lives. And sadly they are easy prey, for unprincipled men who want to talk them into misguided relationships, with males who are too exploititive for them to handle.
And its all very exciting and these very young girls think they have 'arrived' and are special because an older guy is paying them attention.
I feel so sad for these misguided girls, being used, abused, and dropped by older men who can correctly be called pedophiles when they have sex with a underage girl.
It is sad that society cannot better protect very vulnerable impressionable girls, influenced by the culture around them. Some of these girls think to be accepted that they have to emulate what they thinK is the norm in their community.
And in some cultures they see sex selling products, they see inappropriate sexual connotations presented as a 'joke' on TV in programs. They see sexually provocative clothing or messages on a Tshirt where the message is inappropriate on girls clothing. Or worse on little baby girls, which i find sick to see a baby girl dressed up in such clothing.
I find it ugly when adult movies are left around the home, and available for the very young to watch in their room on a borrowed dvd. It gives a twisted view of real life.
Just meeting a boy does not mean that sexual relations must be instigated asap to prove they love each other.
it is exceptionally hard to change culture. It would take a huge groundswell of people saying enough is enough. And some well funded good school programs to show just how illogical it is to applaud underage sex. As if the latter proves the girl is attractive.
No it does not.
It just show the girl has been ill advised and poorly protected, and that a male has taken advantage of her naive state.
I am disgusted that some teachers in USA schools think it is cute that a 13 year old has a boy friend. And cute that the couple are caught necking at school.
And it is downright dangerous that any parent would condone her/his 13 year old to be dating an 18 year old or older.
It suggests a need for a serious rethink of sex education in USA.
I am not suggesting a puritan 'say no no no'. But what i would like is more programs that better inform teenagers and younger, and demonstrate by real exercises, how demanding young and older men can be, by cajoling, by lies, humiliation, by blackmail, and just plain date rape, to get the girl willing to have sex. It can lead to sexually transmitted diseases.
And lead to teenage pregnancy.
Something is wrong in our society when baby mums are only just a little more than a decade older than the child they conceive.
And i would love girls to stop fantasy idealistic outlooks that make them think they are all grown up because they are pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): I think a lot of younger women think of older men as experienced,secure,and ready to settle down.
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