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writes:im a 14 year old and i weigh 86lbs. before you call me bulimic,anemic,or anything else let me tell you i do none of those things. i dont know what to do people at school make fun of me and tell me im skinny. it really bugs me cuz i eat but i dont change.i hate it that everyone tells me im skinny but i already know. how do i deal with this problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011): Technically you are very very underweight and it would be healthy to gain some, but as I stated earlier, as long as YOU feel healthy. Otherwise your recommended weight is between 120 and 130 I believe, though even weighing 100 would be a good improvement(health wise) for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy height is 5 feet 2 inches.....yes i have starte my period already im a 36A .......thank you for all your advice i hope it helps =)
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reader, Cutter  +, writes (30 April 2011):
I was in your position too at high school and I hated being called skinny by the other girls when I was your age. I was tall and thin and it was usually larger girls who'd laugh at me and say 'are you anorexic?' just out of point and call me 'the long legged lanky thing' and things like that. I used to get really distressed because I was really shy timid and gentle and would've never said anything to anyone about what they looked like, not even a compliment! I'm 21 now, average height and weight and I have some advice for you I wished someone would've told me back then.1. Your body will change and you will 'bulk out.' My hips, legs and arms filled out when I was about 18 making my body not as bony and thin and more feminine, it'll probably happen to you. (either that or I started drinking.2. What gives them any right to say that to you? You don't go around saying 'gee, you've got blonde hair' or whatever, so ignore them, or reply with something else about their body. Or say 'so?'3. Do you hate being skinny? Or do you want to put on weight just to stop people saying things to you? Your body is yours, if you like being skinny then please, don't listen to them. If you personally hate it, then try playing sports or going running/swimming. That will give you muscle mass rather than fat and will be better for you. I've got friends who are big and friends who are tall and skinny who like their bodies and no one should be able to tell them what they should look like.Sorry about the long post, this is a topic very close to my heart. Hope these people stop being so stupid and leave you alone :)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (30 April 2011):
 Depending on your height, you might be the right weight. A doctor should be able to confirm this.
As a teen it is always hard not to be 100% like everyone else. As an adult, you will realize just how silly that is but that is a long time away.
But that doesn't change the fact that you are the way you are and there is little that you can to change that. Sure, you can start overeating and pumping yourself full of fat. You will be sick, miserable, unhealthy (what do you think will happen to your skin) and fat but you will suddenly fit in?
WRONG. Fitting in is not so easy. Fitting in is about being with people who accept you for who you are and you accept for who they are. Not being around judgemental freaks who can only exist if they can dictate what everyone else should be.
But that is hard to see as a teen.
Just try to remember that you won't been a teen forever and someday you might actually enjoy having a metabolism that can eat tasty food without bloating up.
And in the meantime, what are they calling the girls who are not skinny? Fatso's? Lard asses? What about the girls with problem skins? Or glasses? Or anything else at all?
Perhaps teens just like to call other people names, it makes the insecure assholes feel better about themselves. Don't give them the satisfaction of ruining your own self view.
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (30 April 2011):
 I know exactly how you feel. I too was called skinny all through my younger years, even though I ate like a horse. It annoyed my two sisters, as they both were on the plump side. When I had a baby, in my late twenties I gained some wait then, and my body shape changed. You are they way you are, and when you accept that, everyone else will too. You will find that some people have to make a comment on your appearance, whatever it is. Just make sure that you eat healthy, exercise, accept the way you look and be happy.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (30 April 2011):
 First off, no one here is going to call you names hon so throw that out the window...and second, you are still growing at 14 and it might take for you to "fill out" more as your body is just now getting ready for adulthood. But, being slender isn't a bad thing. Turn on your TV and see how many commercials there are for weight loss and how many women wish they were thinner. So if you want to gain weight, don't go for the "easy" route and eat junk food. You may still be skinny, but still develop a very unhealthy body. For example, high cholesterol can still happen to thin people, so can diabetes and other diseases.
So, if you want to gain weight, have a chat with your doctor. He/she can develop a good nutrition/exercise plan for you that will help you gain weight the healthy way. Some tips are: build muscle but don't go crazy forcing yourself to lift weights that are too big. If you go to a gym, first ask the gym attendant what size he/she reccomends for you as you really hurt yourself if you choose something too heavy for you. Take in good protein. Lentils and all sorts of other beans provide good proteins without resorting to bad fats you find in meat...eating too much meat-protein can actually enhance cellutite :/ And most importantly-get a LOT of rest. Don't go working out every single day. Your body needs to rest to grow. When you start putting on muscle mass, your muscles are going to tear to become bigger and they need time to heal. So, three times a week is a good goal. As for people at school, I guess they think it's acceptable to tease you about being slim than someone else about being overweight. I know this is cliche but: ignore em. Try and joke about it. But, if they keep persisting just ask them to plase stop because you're just not finding it cute or funny.
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (30 April 2011):
Alright, I have to ask you: have you already had your period? Many girls gain a little weight after they start menstruating and their bodies change further into a woman's body. I was very very skinny for all of my childhood and early teens. No matter what I ate my legs were two sticks and I was flat chested. After I got my period at nearly 13 I started to get a little more full. Nowadays I cannot say I'm fat but I'm not skinny either and I watch what I eat (but not too much) because I did get fat in my early 20s.Have you seen your doctor lately? Maybe you can ask next time you see him/her. You're probably naturally thin and you're still changing, but if you want to make sure there's nothing else going on there's no hurt in asking. Also you can get information on healthy, nutritious food.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Proteins and carbs cooked healthily. Breads, starchy vegetables, chicken, pork. Try increasing your portions, but try not to let yourself go either. Remember to still include fruits and a variety of other foods, and when you hit a healthy weight make slow cutbacks till you find a way of maintaining the weight you like.Remember, as long as you feel healthy you are. I do not know your height, but if you feel happy and not too skinny then that's ok. Only gain weight if YOU want to :)Cheers
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