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*hemidnightfox
writes:so im 16, never had a girlfriend, but i finally found a girl that i like a lot and cant stop thinking about. Im pretty sure she likes me, but its so hard to tell how much she does. I go to an all boy school and she goes to an all girl school, and we live 45 minutes away, so i dont get to see her much. I want to ask her to the spring dance and eventually ask her out, but the only way i ever talk to her is over text, facebook, and twitter. I want to call her but ive got like a mental block. I dont know why, but i cant bring myself to call her. Its stupid, i know she'll say yes i just have always been so shy around girls i like, excpet when im texting her. I have time to think about what i want to say and dont have to be put on the spot. I just dont want her to think im not as fun to talk to in person as over text. I just need some advice on how to gain some confidence. Ive never liked a girl this much and it makes it so much better that she has shown likes me back. At least i think she does. She has a lot of guy friends and i have no idea f om falling into the friend zone or if i actually have a chance at dating her.
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reader, themidnightfox +, writes (27 April 2011):
themidnightfox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so i said enoughs enoughs and i got it over with. She said yes, i knew she would, but i was still shaking and my heart was beating like crazy. I tried my best to act normal and i think i did a good job faking it! Im glad i got it done without freakin out too much, but when it comes down to it, this was the easy part. Within like half an hour, she wrote on my facebook wall, "i hear you got a hot date to the spring dance!". Ive never really told anyone, but that was the first time i'd legitimately called and talked to a girl over the phone. The last few dances i went to i had ended up just texting them, but this one was different :) Im sure i'll have more questions about her in the future, and will def return here. Every answer was great. Thanks!
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reader, Edico +, writes (27 April 2011):
 Go for it, kid. You dont want to live with the regret. After all, she just might say yes. Whether you sound nervous or shy, the fact that you're talking to her will show plenty of confidence.
Just call and I do wish you the best of luck, friend.
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reader, thatshouldbeme11  +, writes (27 April 2011):
I'd say tell her straight up.
My boyfriend told me he was shy to be on the phone and that he'd never kissed a girl at 15.
I thought it was adorable, and now after a year I'm not a virgin anymore!
SOOOOOOOO tell her is my advice :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): Hi. You should def call her and talk with her in person because if she does like you back and you two do end up as an item, you will be going on dates with her and being with her in person and it will be on the spot. It cant always be planned like in text. Also if you start calling and than start freaking out or think bout calling and freak before even doing so, just press the little green call button lay down the phone. Take deep breaths and dnt think about it. She will say hello and you will have to respond. If you have never been ready, its as ready as u'll ever be for the moment. Just take the chance and aim at the possibility. Dont miss out on something great just because you get cold feet or chicken out. You can do this and dating her will def help boost your self-confidence!
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (27 April 2011):
Oh I know how you feel. I'm terribly shy too. And so is my boyfriend. I'm pretty sure you have seen signs over Facebook and the other sites that she treats you in a different way than she does other guys. So you're sure she likes you back. I think she will find very pleasant the fact that you call her to ask her to the dance instead of doing it by text. It means a lot for a girl to be given special attention.
Try to think what you'll say but not too much. You want to ask her to the dance, so you'll ask how she's doing and if she's going to the dance and if she would like to go with you. If you act shy don't worry, it will tell her two things: that you are a guy with feelings and that you care about her. She might even find it sort of cute. I know I did.
Try to be yourself and if you find it too hard to call her talk to her on msn or whatever but make sure to ask her. Tell us how you did. And best of luck.
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reader, la negra +, writes (27 April 2011):
Girls like guys with confidence. It's sexy and attractive. Just take control next time you see her. Show her a grand romantic gesture or ask her out to dinner and a movie or a picnic or whatever 16 year olds' do for fun, just wear a condom, no, I'm kidding, no sex, but seriously. Be yourself and let her know you can't stop thinking about her. It's time to put thoughts into words and words into actions. You can do it. As you get to know yourself a bit better, you won't be so shy.
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