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*r.Worry
writes:I'm trying to give my girlfriend space as I know women need.The thing is,I'm so jealous that when she's not talking to me,I worry she's talking to someone else and I end up texting her.She has a full live and doesn't think about me as much as I do her.I can't work,have no friends and have no hobbies.With all this free time it gives me time to make up crap and think about problems on the horizon.Like how I can deal with my family when they don't like her?I'm 40 and look 30,she's 46 and looks it to my grandmother I'm sure.I love my g/f inside and out and she is beautiful to me.I know I shouldn't care but my grandmother is very close to me and depends on me.She tells me alot that I'm the only one who cares about her,which is true and vice/versa for me.I haven't had sex in 15 years because of disability from a car accident.I have a paralized arm but I can walk.I'm pretty sure I can have sex but I know I can't satisfy her.She says sex isn't important but when we were just friends she mentioned she liked sex.I'm pretty sure I can't maintain an erection either.Years of stress and worry have done a number on me and with performance anxiety too,there's no way.She's coming to see me in a couple months and I'm really stressed.Mainly about what my grandmother will think of her,the sex will be on down the road,it's still a worry too tho.My grandmother has given me the world: cars,motorcycles,the best of everything and mainly more love than anyone could ever give me.She stayed 3 months in the hospital after my accident and never complained even though it was my fault due to drinking and driving.I want to live my life,but how on earth can I break my grandmother's heart.This will do that for sure.My g/f has 4 kids all grown and 3 grandkids.While this doesn't bother me,my grandmother will be hurt and angry.How can I live my life without breaking my grandmother's heart?I don't want to do that but at the same time,I don't want to lose my g/f.
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reader, Mr.Worry +, writes (22 March 2008):
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (22 March 2008):
Look, I've just lost my boyfriend mainly because of the need to keep everyone (IE my mother) happy, so I know how you feel. If you want this relationship to work, then fight for your space. Don't be a fool as I was. Try to talk to your grandmother, but do it in a way that doesn't make you sound guilty. You've done nothing wrong by falling in love with someone. Is your grandmother too old?
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