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writes:I have been seriously dating this guy for a while. We started off with me still being in a relationship with my ex. Within a month or two, I broke things off with my ex and had full intentions of being committed to this new guy. I've always had issues with letting go of my past. I never felt like I received closure with my ex, but as time went on, it gradually became easier. My ex would call me less and less, and I was hoping to get over our relationship gradually. One week, the new guy I was seeing requested I block my ex's number and rushed me to book our summer vacation. All of a sudden, it made me nervous, I felt like it was such a drastic change. So after so many months of not talking to my ex, I finally picked up his call on a Friday. He asked to speak to me face to face, and I did, and the new guy I am dating followed me and found out. He knows we didn't do anything, but I broke his trust. We had trust issues to begin with because I started off still in a relationship. I lied to him, deceived him. He tried to work things out for a week, but he says it is over, and he cannot continue being in a relationship with me, otherwise he would become a psychopathic boyfriend ie. over protective. He says he doesn't like who he is becoming because of me. Is it really over? I feel like I'm still in denial. But I'm sure it is. That being said, I have been unable to function. I'm nauseous, have loss of appetite, trouble breathing, heart hurts, can't sleep, constantly cry... is there anything I can do to alleviate this pain? Any medication suggestion? Hypnotherapy? I really need a fix, otherwise I don't know if I can make it.
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (28 April 2011):
Oh, so sorry. It gets like that sometimes. You'll heal in time, but during that process there might be some things to make you better. I wouldn't try any strong medication unless a doctor prescribes you some, but why not some natural sedatives (herbal tea, or those over the counter ones) to help you sleep better at night? It will put your mind to ease for a while and let your body rest. The loss of appetite will solve itself. After my last breakup my stomach completely shut itself, so I know what you're talking about. Don't force yourself to eat because you'll feel worse. Try to eat small rations but healthy. You don't want to get ill.Give yourself time to heal and if you feel you can't handle it get some counseling. I helped me a lot in the past.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 You don't need medication or hypnotherapy or hanging upside down in a cage full of gorilla's.What has happened here is THE LESSON Karma will be erased here if you learn that lesson NOW.You said you had trouble letting go of your past.That's the lesson in a nutty shell from hell.Your symptoms will go away when we realize your lesson and let it go. It is the Letting Go thing that really is the root of this predicament. You didn't change your gloves and instead put a new pair on over the old pair. Thus protecting yourself twice over.Getting full coverage saves you from choices, pain, indecision and commitment. Resulting in well... others around you making up your mind for you. While one receives the open door policy the other receives the door is open, door is closed, nope open, nope closed policy. So he leaves in frustration the other has already left the picture but comes through in ghost form from time to time, haunting you in the shadows of your past.the LESSONDoubt is DeathLeave the past behind you. Why?BECAUSE WHEN MEMORIES EXCEED YOUR DREAMS YOU WILL HAVE TROUBLE.
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