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writes:Its almost been 1 year since me and my ex split up and im still finding it hard to get rid of the feelings. I did love him, then i found out he cheated on me, which caused us to split. Now i dont love him, i just feel certain things for him. I go out with my friends and try to take my mind off him but it isnt working. I also tried deleting his number and all contact with him but i personally think its pathetic, i dont want to lose him as a friend. Do you think im doing the right thing? or should i forget about him and ignore him?
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (1 May 2011):
Not everyone can be friends with their ex. It depends on many factors. One of them surely is the cause of the breakup, and yours wasn't a pretty one. Now, if you're still somehow attached to him emotionally it is better for you to take distance. Deleting his number from your phone can keep you from calling him, and also removing him from msn. You can keep the number written down somewhere, but deleting it from your phone will make it harder for you to call him if you feel the urge to do it. I don't think it's pathetic. It's doing what you must in order to heal. Maybe you can try to be friends later, when you have got over him, but you must ask yourself if you really want that.
Would keep him as a friend bring anything positive to your life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): Well, if the fact that he cheated on you before doesn't affect your view of him as a person (so if that doesn't make him the type of person you wouldn't want to be friends with), then go ahead and be friends.
But if you don't think you can really just be friends, because you still have feelings, then it might get complicated for you later on, especially when another guy comes into your life.
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reader, Capri2 +, writes (1 May 2011):
I don't think it's pathetic, but just normal. I think it's wrong, also. I mean, if you're having a hard time letting him go, keeping him as a friend won't make things any easier. And will be useless also, as he disrespected you.I guess as soon as you fell in love with another guy you will forget about him.
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