How do I stop from being obsessed with wanting to have a baby?
Q. I have been married to my lovely hubby for a year. We met in our 40's and it is our first marriage for us both. As soon as we married, we started trying for a family which we both dearly want. As I am 42 now - I have been seeing the doctor and f...
A. 24 June 2013: Thank you so much for the kind words - it means a lot to me. We just had a weekend of doing exactly what you said - date nights, movies and cuddling :-) Thank you for the good wishes for the next step in our journey - am trying to be as positive as ... (read in full...)
How do I stop from being obsessed with wanting to have a baby?
Q. I have been married to my lovely hubby for a year. We met in our 40's and it is our first marriage for us both. As soon as we married, we started trying for a family which we both dearly want. As I am 42 now - I have been seeing the doctor and f...
A. 24 June 2013: Thank you so moth for the positive words - especially the person who said don't be so lonely. I really am struggling at the moment and it's nice to know that people have had children at my age and older.
We have our first appointment at the priv... (read in full...)
How do I stop from being obsessed with wanting to have a baby?
Q. I have been married to my lovely hubby for a year. We met in our 40's and it is our first marriage for us both. As soon as we married, we started trying for a family which we both dearly want. As I am 42 now - I have been seeing the doctor and f...
A. 12 June 2013: Thank you Deidre - that's so lovely to hear :-) It is actually stories like that that stop me spiralling.....I know it can happen but it's a very lonely and hard process.
To the lady who fell pregnant after all the heartache - thank you thank yo... (read in full...)
How do I stop from being obsessed with wanting to have a baby?
Q. I have been married to my lovely hubby for a year. We met in our 40's and it is our first marriage for us both. As soon as we married, we started trying for a family which we both dearly want. As I am 42 now - I have been seeing the doctor and f...
A. 11 June 2013: I don't think my chances are slim at all - I am ovulating and nowhere near the menopause - it just maybe that we have to look at IUI or IVF. Women do have babies at my age - it can and does happen......
Adoption - you can not look at adoption... (read in full...)
I didn't sign on for benefits but I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do or not!
Q. I got married in April to the most wonderful man in the world, I was 41 and he was 47. It's both our first marriage and we couldn't be happier. My contract for my job is temporary and I will not until Sept if it will be renewed. Therefore, I...
A. 18 July 2012: Thank you Oldbag (great name!)
Well yes - thats the way I am looking at things - it's just the guilt that gets the better of me sometimes. With my husbands exhibition coming up, the idea is to turn his work into a business. And I am writing ... (read in full...)
I didn't sign on for benefits but I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do or not!
Q. I got married in April to the most wonderful man in the world, I was 41 and he was 47. It's both our first marriage and we couldn't be happier. My contract for my job is temporary and I will not until Sept if it will be renewed. Therefore, I...
A. 18 July 2012: I know that it's not personal, but it is very hard. I know that it does affect me big time no matter how I say that they are just doing their job. Of course I understand that people all have different level of life skills but to be put on a ... (read in full...)
I didn't sign on for benefits but I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do or not!
Q. I got married in April to the most wonderful man in the world, I was 41 and he was 47. It's both our first marriage and we couldn't be happier. My contract for my job is temporary and I will not until Sept if it will be renewed. Therefore, I...
A. 18 July 2012: Thank you very confused.
It's depressing because of how you are treated - it doesn't matter that I have a number of degrees and have been a manager, they just put you in one big lump together. As I said - having to attend courses that you need to ... (read in full...)
I didn't sign on for benefits but I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do or not!
Q. I got married in April to the most wonderful man in the world, I was 41 and he was 47. It's both our first marriage and we couldn't be happier. My contract for my job is temporary and I will not until Sept if it will be renewed. Therefore, I...
A. 18 July 2012: Thank you Starlights, yes I know it's my right. I just find it very degrading and hard. Last time, they put me on a course that was all about brushing your teeth before an interview.....
Hubby just called and yet again has said stop the worry. S... (read in full...)
The Ideal relationship at first. Now she ignores my texts.What should I do?
Q. I've been talking and getting to know this girl for a few weeks now and we've just recently told each other that we like each other....everything was great for the first week and now she is ignoring my texts(we used to talk everyday 24/7) or if she ...
A. 18 July 2012: Your friends are right. In the first few weeks of liking each other, there is always a flurry of texts but the fact that she isn't really bothering at all isn't the best sign. Stop texting her, wait and see if she texts you at all.
And if she is i... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from suitor after one date, what is the best way to move forward?
Q. So I met this guy online and we agreed to meet up. After a lot of hesitation of whether he was feeling energetic enough to come out, we finally met up, things went well, it was a short meeting over coffee. We then went back to mine and messed ...
A. 31 March 2011: Well - I think its a case of taking it very slow. You can't make him want to be with you - he has to work that out for himself. Moving too quickly can scare a man witless so leave anything serious for later. Show him that you care - say that you ... (read in full...)
Why do women say you're a fantastic guy, the best lover they have ever met, yet leave and say they need to move on?
Q. When my lady walked into my life, it was like a ray of sunshine, she was tall, elegant, graceful and very very beautiful with intelligence, so she should being a doctor. The second we met it was sparks, being a free spirit she didn't want a ...
A. 31 March 2011: Gosh - I really feel for you :-(((
I guess with some people - their actions just become a habitual state, there is sometimes no ryhme or reason but they prefer to live their life according to what they actually feel comfortable doing and what the... (read in full...)
What is the best vibrator for a G-Spot orgasm?
Q. I have never had a g-spot orgasm. Is there any certain vibrators you would recommend to achieve this?...
A. 12 November 2009: Practise practise practise!!! Have fun and enjoy!!!... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I meant it when I said that I loved him?
Q. Last night I said in my sleep "i love you" to my bf for the first time. We have never said 'i love you' to each other yet before. I sleep talk quiet often, but usally I either just mumble things he cant understand or im yelling and screaming when I ...
A. 8 November 2009: Yes tell him - clarify how you feel. We all fear rejection or embaressment but if its how you feel - there really is no harm in it. Just be aware that he maybe be a shocked by it and you may not get the reaction you want - but this is about your ... (read in full...)
How can I stop masterbating
Q. I plessure my self sometimes but I feel VERY VERY shameful after i'm done. What can I do?? I've tried to stop doing it but its hard not to since I havent had sex for a while. Any advice?? Thanks....
A. 22 October 2009: Agree with caringguy - it's a very natural and pleasurable thing to do - just enjoy and understand and appreciate that there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of :-)... (read in full...)
Is it possible to build a future together when we have conflicting goals?
Q. Hi everybody, I am new to this site but I registered as I have a major issue and I do not know who else to turn to - I don't feel that I can discuss it with any of my family or friends as I live in a close-knit community and I do not think I can ...
A. 15 October 2009: Well I can only relate the story of a very close friend - they were in the situation that you were in. They continued the relationship and he hoped that she would change her mind but she never did - the result being that they just don't know how to ... (read in full...)
I think I'm depressed, and my doctor won't help me. Help!
Q. Hi, I'm a 20 year old female and I believe I'm suffering from depression. I'm constantly tired and just don't want to get out of bed. I have no energy to do anything anymore and I'm beginnin to really hate my job (think this is making matters ...
A. 7 October 2009: Yes - go to another doctor! So sad that he won't even listen to you!!!
Also - with all the stress you are feeling with work - try and get some natural vitamins in your diet - lots of fruit juice and fresh vegetables etc, and you may not feel like... (read in full...)
She's not particularly pretty, so should I end it?
Q. I met a girl over the weekend that I've been talking to online since then. I think her personality is absolutely AMAZING. I LITERALLY can't remember the last time I've had THIS much fun talking to a girl. Ever. And we've both made it clear to each ...
A. 4 October 2009: Let her go or just remain friends. She deserves to be with somebody that doesn't even need to question or listen to comments about her looks.... (read in full...)
11 months and the honeymoon period is over
Q. I've been going out with my bf for 11 months now and the honeymoon period where he used to text lots with cute things and text as soon as I left his company...has gone. Does it mean he cares or thinks about me less than he used to? ...
A. 4 October 2009: Yep - agree with Caringguy, there comes a time in all relationships when that honeymoon period is over and you settle into a relationship. But - yes, speak to him about it. Sometimes it takes one partner to keep the romance and sparkle going - and ... (read in full...)
Why don't my nipples get hard?
Q. So I was with my last boyfriend for 3 years and I never thought that I was particularly abnormal but now I've found he told his friends how my nipples were never hard when we had sex. I feel so self conscious about it now, I've just started seeing a ...
A. 4 October 2009: Not all women's nipples get hard - period! Every woman is different - you need to remember that. And as for him telling his friends private and intimate details - well am glad that you are not with him anymore! Shame on him to make you worry now ... (read in full...)
Is there more to it? or is it just sex?
Q. i am still good friends with my ex and he has moved on but i still feel something for him. although lately he broke up with his girlfriend and he is always texting me asking to meet up for sex. he says we are only friends but i cant help thinking ...
A. 3 October 2009: Walk away Sweetie, all he wants is one thing and one thing only.
And you are very young to be having sex - please be careful. ... (read in full...)
I don't think my virginity meant anything to him
Q. i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (about a month ago). he was not a virgin, very experienced from what ive heard and what hes told me. about an hour ago we were just talking and watching tv, and he turned on a channel with guys cage ...
A. 3 October 2009: Walk away Sweetie - you are not some object that can be just used and conquered. What he said was indeed vile.
Try and use the experience to understand what you want out of a relationshop - sexual or otherwise. We all make decisions - sometimes they... (read in full...)
Was this rape? He's acting like nothing happened....
Q. Last night me and my bf were having sex he was behind me when he stuck his finger in my anus. He has done it b4 which i dont mind as it doesnt hurt me. B4 i continue weve always had this joke bout doing it up the bum. I always said i would never do ...
A. 3 October 2009: There's alot of guys that will always push their luck when it comes to anal sex - but if you are screaming and saying no....
Could he have misinterpreted your behaviour because of the joke that you have between you guys - I guess as I don't know... (read in full...)
Are we together for the right reasons?
Q. we have been together for just over 3yrs now, and we have a 14 month old son. since we found out i was pregnant he changed, i went through the pregnancy alone. since birth, he doesn't offer to help with our son or when i'm ill he don't help me, and ...
A. 2 October 2009: Agree with Uncle Phil. My brother was the same with his wife and she did exactly was Uncle Phil expressed - and you know what, it worked wonders! My brother was just taking his wife for granted and though he loves his son - he was using work as an ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how do I get 'the edge' ?
Q. I'm particularly interested in hearing responses from straight women in their 30s and 40s on this one. I appear to have a problem with women, and without being immodest, it seems that I'm too 'nice' and I don't have 'the edge'. The N word has b...
A. 2 October 2009: Well - I have been told that I like guys that are edgy :-)
All I can conclude on my friends observations is that I like a guy who is a little 'rock n roll'. Now that doesn't mean that I like bad behaviour or to be treated with direspect and that... (read in full...)
I don't want to go through with the arranged marriage for me!
Q. please help i am 19year old girl and my arranged marriage is getting closer and closer i am terrified and dont want to go through with it. i come from an indian family and my dad is very traditional and believes everyone in the west sho...
A. 2 October 2009: Can I ask where are you from?? Am just thinking if there is an organisation that you can contact - but depends where are you are.
May I ask also - have you spoken to your parents and expressed that you really are not ready to get married yet? Tha... (read in full...)
I like someone who is going to have an arranged marriage..what do I do?
Q. So there's this guy who i like for almost 2 years now, he's indian and I just found out the other night that he's going to have an arranged marriage. The relationship we have is kind of weird, were not friends but we talk sometimes on msn or ...
A. 2 October 2009: I know its hard but it sounds like he really did fancy you but due to family expectations/commitments, he is doing what is a duty to his family.
And if he is due to get married, then that in itself needs to be closure for you. He is getting on with... (read in full...)
Is sex all he wants?
Q. I met a guy on the internet about 3 months ago at first he was very clear about not wanting a girlfriend but he wanted to have sex with me so i stopped talking to him but about 2 weeks later he text me saying he didnt want to lose me and he wanted ...
A. 2 October 2009: I guess Sweetie, that you have answered your own question - yes, I would say that sex is all that he wants. You know you deserve more then what he is offering so tell him straight or just walk away.
Take care... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 1 October 2009: Well they say that a girl's got to kiss alot of frogs before she meets the Prince - and so the same goes for a guy...though obviously you want to meet a Princess i.e honest, moral, christian, slightly geeky girl. I know it doesn't make you... (read in full...)
My mum has just been diagnosed with cancer but I'm supposed to be moving to Oz next month - I want to be there for my mum but I don't want to lose my boyfriend either!
Q. I would appreciate any advice.. My Mum was diagnosed with rectal cancer last week and has to undergo chemo and radiation therapy combined before an operation in January. She may have to have chemo afterwards too. This has all come as a massive ...
A. 1 October 2009: This is really a tough call - I understand that your boyfriend has been driven to distraction with the waiting for you but it's not like you are saying that you want to delay going out there because you want to party....You want to be there for your ... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 29 September 2009: Marriedlady - you really made me smile :-)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont include me in his life
Q. Ok, im gay and im 27, my boyfriend of one year is 21. He is very mature for his age and looks mature.. he works in a corporate enviroment and he is Jewish... Im Russian/Italian. He is so obsessed and concerned about what others think about hi...
A. 27 September 2009: I agree that unless he is willing and ready to come out that closet - nothing really is going to change. It's a call you are going to have to make - you can't force him to come out if he is not ready to yet it is unfair for you to be constantly on ... (read in full...)
Son can't get job because of semi pornographic photos found when he was younger
Q. My 19-year-old son applied for a job this week, I wished him good luck. He did OK in the interview until the interviewer said they would not be able to hire him due to a background check. They said they'd found pictures of him "in the raw" on ...
A. 27 September 2009: Yep, get a lawyer or go to the citizens advice bureau. I just can't believe that these piccies could have the potential to destroy a young mans future. I understand if the prospective employers had done a CRB check and found something but your son ... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me?
Q. I like this guy a lot. We had sex about a week ago which was my first time and now he's ignoring me. When I call he doesn't answer when I text he doesn't text back. If he does he says he's working. I really don't know since he use to do it before he ...
A. 27 September 2009: Yep - he really is not interested I'm afraid.Funny how men can find the time to text you and soon as they get they wanted - they suddenly lose the ability to look at the phone and text back...
You need to walk away and just realise that it was an e... (read in full...)
Son can't get job because of semi pornographic photos found when he was younger
Q. My 19-year-old son applied for a job this week, I wished him good luck. He did OK in the interview until the interviewer said they would not be able to hire him due to a background check. They said they'd found pictures of him "in the raw" on ...
A. 27 September 2009: Sorry - I am a little confused. So your son does not have a criminal record whatsoever but the prospective employers just did search on an search engine and came across these pictures???
But the fact is that they maybe naughty piccies but he has ... (read in full...)
He's dealing with family stuff, but I love him and don't want to lose him
Q. So, I'm in the Army National Guard. I met my boyfriend while we were training to get deployed. We have a great time together. He says he loves me to death and he was even thinking about asking me to marry me. That was untill he found out that his ...
A. 27 September 2009: Sometimes you just need to let someone go before they can come back to you stronger than before. If you do lose him -then it really wasn't meant to be between you guys in a forever relationship. Give it time and I would say that major thing would be ... (read in full...)
Any tips on writing a love letter?
Q. I would like to write a love letter to my gf. We have been together for 6 months and to it cool. I want to take our relationship to the next level. Any tips for writing a love letter? Should I mention the possibility of sex and that I would like ...
A. 26 September 2009: No - don't mention sex. If you get stuck for words - there are some lovely cards out there with lovely messages on the front. Also - you can just do a romantic poem search and find one that you feel sums up how you feel and write that in the card.
... (read in full...)
My friends smoke weed. How do I tell them I don't toke anymore?
Q. Please i need help, im going to a gig soon with some mates ill be 16 then and basically, my mates are taking weed with them and I dont know what to do. I used to smoke it with me old mates and i really dont wanna get back into it. It messed me up ...
A. 26 September 2009: True friends will just respect that you are no longer wishing to smoke - it really shouldn't be an issue. After all the person that you are is not dictated by what you drink or smoke.
Good for you for making the decision thats its no longer for you ... (read in full...)
Is it weird for a girl to enjoy porn?
Q. i'm a girl, with a pretty damn good sex life, but i secretly love to watch porn. is that weird? my ex thought it was hot, but he was very open and adventerous, to "normal" guys is it weird for me to like to watch porn?...
A. 26 September 2009: Not weird at all :-)... (read in full...)
Parents suffocating me!
Q. Okay, so I'm in my early twenties, and I've never been in a relationship because my family has conservative values, and they praise education over anything else. So I focused primarily on school for the past twenty years or so. I don't go out as ...
A. 26 September 2009: To be honest - I can relate to everything you say and truthfully, the only way that I resolved the situation with my parents was in fact to move out. By doing that - I was saying that I am indapendent and wished to come and go as I please without ... (read in full...)
He still wants to be best friends, but won't explain why he broke up with me. I still love him!
Q. Hello, I'm just looking for a bit of advice really. My boyfriend of a year broke up with me recently giving me no reasons why. He said that I was still the most amazing girl he has ever met and there is no one else he is interested in, a...
A. 23 September 2009: I know how much it can hurt - it really is the hardest thing seeing someone when you feel such emotion. But you do need to concentrate on making new friends and getting on with life at Uni. If he is confused - well let him be confused without ... (read in full...)
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