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writes:Please i need help, im going to a gig soon with some mates ill be 16 then and basically, my mates are taking weed with them and I dont know what to do. I used to smoke it with me old mates and i really dont wanna get back into it. It messed me up at the time. I just dont know what to say to them cos i dont drink much or anything, and they all do. I dont want them to think im a complete wimp cos im not. I just dont wanna get back into it again, What do I do? One of my mates knows I've smoked it before they just dont know how much, What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): Hey man if they try to get you to smoke and you dont wanna and they keep trying to get you to smoke. Then walk that means they aint true friends. I have friends in gangs and they smoke but they never asked me to smoke. Just ask them not to smoke around you. I know what you are going through with this I just left a basketball game because of someone that was smoking.
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reader, Dylan McK +, writes (2 November 2009):
 I gave up weed and MDMA. I am willing to say i enjoyed taking them. I still smoke cigs and i have only been drunk once, i think there are better drugs. Its up to you at the end of the day, make a choice. If you ever need help with this just message me
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reader, Mr Nice +, writes (28 September 2009):
 Just be honest mate, it is the easiest and best wasy. I still smoke but i have plenty friends who have given up in the last few years for the same reasons you want to. It can and does cause mental problems for some people and there is no point in smoking it if your getting paranoid or other mental health problems.
If your friends are good people they will understand, if not then start throwing punches and kick everyones ass!!! Ah no only messing im sure they will understand man, dont worry about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): SERIOUSLY, stay quite!!My x boyfriend tried to quit this a few times this year as we are expecting are first baby soon. He managed for 2 weeks but then he started again. He's completly addicted to the stuff because he has been smokeing it for so long. Don't start up again or you could be like my x, 25 years old spending ALOT of money on this stuff when it could be going on your baby. I remeber the once, when we had no food in the flat and he had 10 pound, were do you think that 10 pound went? on canabis. To make peer presure easy, you could say, no i'm quitting because when I haven't got it, it drives me crazy so i'm fed up of feeling this way and i carn't be arsed with all the hassleorsay, omg no way, it's killing my chest off and I can't breathe properly anymore. You could even say I nearly had a panic attack because of my breathing situation.good luck
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reader, kaity  +, writes (26 September 2009):
ikno how you feel hun, pass that spliff to the next person, if anybody says something just say you got bad lungsor just like you said, i used to smoke weed guys but, that stuff really messed me up..
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reader, Candleman  +, writes (26 September 2009):
 Peer pressure is a very strong influence on people. When addicts attempt to become clean, one of the first things that is required of them is to stay away from their old friends who use, or people who are using because the temptation is usually too great to overcome.
Since you don't mention that you had a heroin or coke addiction in the past, then it means you suffered from using pot, but you never graduated to becoming addicted to the harder drugs. It is a lot harder to quit using the other drugs than pot. Not that it is easy to quit pot, it's just the others are harder.
Pot often times is the gateway to other harder drugs. If you get back into this scene, then you run the risk of getting into these harder drugs or at the very least suffering again from pot. You know you don't want this.
If you allow peer pressure to make you smoke weed again, then what's next. A line of coke, an oxycontin?
When its your turn to hit the weed, just say "Nah, that's not my thing any more." Don't make a big issue out it. You can still partake in the joking and fun without being high, so don't let it make you self conscious and hide in a shell. Whatever the conversation was prior to this, just pick back up on that or start a new conversation to shift the focus.
You have to be strong in your person to do this. If you can't, then you're setting yourself up to get back into drugs as long as you hang out with these people.
If they won't be your friend because you won't get high with them, or if you can not resist the temptation then you need to find new friends.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (26 September 2009):
 Exactly as "Echo" says, if you get offered some in a circle, pass it on. If someone asks, just be like, "yeah, I haven't done that in awhile, I'm not into it anymore" or like, "I'm taking a hiatus". If your friends are cool, chill, nice, they'll let it go. If they don't, laugh off their pressure and get feisty and firm. Don't worry about it, sweetness, I'm sure they'll be totally fine with it.
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reader, Rose_red_09 +, writes (26 September 2009):
True friends will just respect that you are no longer wishing to smoke - it really shouldn't be an issue. After all the person that you are is not dictated by what you drink or smoke.
Good for you for making the decision thats its no longer for you :-)
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reader, pinkgoblin15 +, writes (26 September 2009):
 Well don't make a big deal out of it towards your friends. Don't make it seem like your a *wimp* You could always tell them that you went to the doctor recently and the doc said you have Asthma. So you can't smoke weed or cigs.
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