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writes:Last night I said in my sleep "i love you" to my bf for the first time. We have never said 'i love you' to each other yet before. I sleep talk quiet often, but usally I either just mumble things he cant understand or im yelling and screaming when I have nightmares. But my bf said that last night i said "i love you". At first when he told me I was shocked but once i had enough time to properly wake up and think about it, i remember saying it because it relates back to my dream where i was saying 'i love you' to him. My bf asked me if i meant what I said, i paniced and said I didnt mean to say it. But the thing is, i do mean it, i do love him and i have been thiking about telling him for a while, but i am just so scared. shoudl i tell him i meant it? what happens if he doesnt love me back? or only says it back because he feels he has to? i want him to say it IF and when he is ready. i dont want him to feel pressured. but at the same time i dont want to be rejected. what do i do? [Moderator's note: Please add your age to this post, through an update.] Reply to this Question
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (8 November 2009):
Something very similar happened to me a long time ago (although it just slipped out while I was awake so I couldn't even blame it on a dream) My boyfriend of the time didn't say anything back and I didn't mention it again til the next day.
I said "Remember what I said yesterday? It just slipped out but it got me thinking. I've come to realise that I do love you. But it's okay. You don't have to say the same to me."
I then gave him a quick kiss got up and started doing some work in the kitchen, giving him time to think. It took 3 months before he told me that he loved me back but it was worth the wait.
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reader, Rose_red_09 +, writes (8 November 2009):
Yes tell him - clarify how you feel. We all fear rejection or embaressment but if its how you feel - there really is no harm in it. Just be aware that he maybe be a shocked by it and you may not get the reaction you want - but this is about your feelings. Don't push anything on him - good luck!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 November 2009):
If you mean it, tell him. Otherwise he'll end up confused and he'll be less likely to say it back to you.
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