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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:This is a short one. I have fallen head over heels for a good (male) friend... and I am not sure if he feels the same. I am not going to painstakingly discuss situations we have been in as dissecting our interactions drives me nuts and never helps! My gut instinct is that he does feel the same way as me. He hasn't said anything (other than that I 'mean a lot' to him.. but this could be interpreted either way) it is just a feeling I get when we are together; a sort of intensity (particularly when we are making direct eye contact). The problem is, I am not sure whether to trust my instincts or not... maybe the intensity is symptomatic of my feelings for him and not his for me. Should I trust my instincts? If so, how do I let him know that I like him more than 'just a friend' without being direct (I don't have the guts and I'm pretty sure this will not change). Answers from personal experience would be great! Thank you :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Ronnie70 +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Trust your instincts.
You could say something like "Well dude, we've been good mates for a long time now and the longer we've been mates the more I like you. In fact, I fancy the arse off you and I'd like to be more than just a mate. If you don't feel the same way about me I'd still like to be mates and hope my admission hasn't spoiled things between us."
There's not a lot to lose really. Go for it!
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