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i have very strong opinions on alot of things, especially about self respect and making your own decisions.
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I'm afraid I'm in love with my 1st cousin!
Q. I am afraid I'm in love with my first cousin. I think he feels the same way but when he tells me he loves me in text messages and emails I am afraid to question it. We have been seeing eachother intimately for 4 months now. We have known each ...
A. 15 January 2011: to anonymous below... downs syndrome isn't caused by close genes (ie cousins) it is cause by a rogue gene, so your point is void.
Cousins can and do have children, and as long as you are careful (get tests done before falling pregnant, its call... (read in full...)
It was different for me than the horror stories...Is that ok, or is there something wrong?
Q. I just had sex for the first time last night with my boyfriend. It was great everything was perfect, I must admit I was really nervous and scared but once it happened I calmed down.from what I've heard I always believed that when you have sex for ...
A. 25 January 2010: Stop worrying, its wonderful to hear of someone enjoying their first time. For those of us who gave it away too soon or had it taken from us its a regret we can never take back. You can look back on this now and be happy that you have a good ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and want to know..why do I want to have a baby?
Q. I am fifteen(10th grade) and I want to be pregnant. Plz don't say I'm stupid cuz I'm not going to become pregnant I just want to know why I feel this way. My bf and I are very serious, like engaged serious, we are sexually active and everything and ...
A. 25 January 2010: Well most certainly don't do it if its being influenced by media! But its because of hormones, not down playing it trust me. I had a pregnancy scare like 8.5 months ago now, and ever since I have been so broody its ridiculous. My fiance and I a... (read in full...)
Is this some sort of STD from unprotected sex?
Q. ok so I had unprotected sex... please don't bitch at me about that... but that was about a week and a half ago and lately, around the opening of my vagina is very itchy and irritated. is there some sort of std or other reason as to why it is? ...
A. 22 January 2010: it sounds like thrush (over production of candida which is a healthy bacteria down there) it can get irritated due to sex,over washing or scented soap.
but it could also be a STD, so go to the docs or a clinic.
if not get some over the counter ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate to fall pregnant
Q. i am desperate to fall pregnant, so much so that i get so depressed every period i have. i cry all the time and i physically hurt whenever i hold my niece. its got even worse since my fiance's best friend found out his gf is pregnant, it hurt me ...
A. 21 January 2010: And to the poster who signed flynn 24, thankyou so much for your post. Its nice to know that people still believe that humans are designed to have children and therefore when you want to do what your body is designed to do that I shouldn't be judged ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate to fall pregnant
Q. i am desperate to fall pregnant, so much so that i get so depressed every period i have. i cry all the time and i physically hurt whenever i hold my niece. its got even worse since my fiance's best friend found out his gf is pregnant, it hurt me ...
A. 21 January 2010: To the anonymous poster, it is so good to hear of someone feeling the same. If you could private message me so we could talk more about it that would be great, half the problem is feeling so alone in this.
Xx... (read in full...)
I'm desperate to fall pregnant
Q. i am desperate to fall pregnant, so much so that i get so depressed every period i have. i cry all the time and i physically hurt whenever i hold my niece. its got even worse since my fiance's best friend found out his gf is pregnant, it hurt me ...
A. 21 January 2010: To the anonymous poster, it is so good to hear of someone feeling the same. If you could private message me so we could talk more about it that would be great, half the problem is feeling so alone in this. Xx... (read in full...)
How old do you have to be before age doesn't matter?
Q. How old do you have to be before age doesnt matter? Im 22years old and i really like a girl who is only 17, 5years is a big difference at this age i think, although she doesnt act or look 17, i feel as though we are the same age but i know when we ...
A. 20 January 2010: i've only just turned 18 and my partner is 23, our age doesn't have any bearing on the relationship we have.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my first female cousin
Q. ok here's whats up I'm in love with my younger female first cousin and i think she likes me back because when we are around each other she sits with me and we hold hands and we cuddle a lot even our family say were kissing cousins their is a slight ...
A. 27 December 2009: My first cousin was in love with me, I loved the attention but didn't really know what to do with it. We'll call him S, S sat by for four years, being there for me whenever I needed him, being my verbal punching bag and putting up with so much crap ... (read in full...)
We are mis-matched in terms of height, can we still have sex?
Q. my height is 5'3 and my bf is 6'2 can we have sex??? if so how????...
A. 17 December 2009: lots of people have a bigger height difference than that, me and my partner included, and i can't say our sex life has suffered!!... (read in full...)
What is the least painful sexual position for a virgin?
Q. Im 14, and me and my bf are ready for sex for the first time, im kinda scared though, whats the easiest/ least painful position for first timers?...
A. 17 December 2009: OMG!! way to be helpful aunts!!
she wasn't asking whether she should could or would do it, she had made up her mind on that. being judgemental is NOT HELPFUL. yes sex with someone under the age of 16 is illegal, however if they are both under 16 n... (read in full...)
Is Chlamydia only transmitted by having sex?
Q. Is Chlamydia only transmitted by having sex? and which test is more reliable the Chlamydia swab testing done by the doctor or the Chlamydia self testing kits (wee pot). I ask because I went to the doctors nearly two weeks ago. She thought I might ...
A. 17 December 2009: Candida (overproducing natural bacteria) is a form of thrush and that would cause the burning and itching
Chlamidya has no symptoms, hence its notoriety and the drive for screening kits.
candida can sometimes cause a positive STI test, but its not ... (read in full...)
I often dream of sex with siblings!
Q. Okay, so I in no way have any type of physical or sexual attraction to any of my siblings, but I have at some point in the last two years dreamed about having sex with almost every single one of my siblings. Why is this? ...
A. 16 December 2009: having sex in a dream with someone "risky" who you don't feel attracted to in waking life is a sign that you want to get more excitement or diversity in your life. if you orgasm in your dream it also means it will benefit you to shake things in your ... (read in full...)
I keep having bad dreams
Q. i keep having really long vivid not very nice dreams. i wouldn't call them nightmares because they don't scare me as such, they are just unpleasant and do not give me restful sleep as i seem to act out my dreams in my sleep (or thats how my muscles ...
A. 13 December 2009: how do i do this??... (read in full...)
My brother raped me when I was in 4th grade
Q. When I was in fourth grade, my brother (9th grade) had been touching me a lot lately and saying sexual things and putting on porn while I was there in the room, showing me his genitals. I would try to cover him up but he'd uncover himself again. I ...
A. 13 December 2009: i want you to read what i am about to say very carefully:
i too was raped and found it extremely hard to deal with. i didn't tell any one until way after it had happened and i also believed i was disgusting and it was my fault.
he locked me in a ... (read in full...)
I keep having bad dreams
Q. i keep having really long vivid not very nice dreams. i wouldn't call them nightmares because they don't scare me as such, they are just unpleasant and do not give me restful sleep as i seem to act out my dreams in my sleep (or thats how my muscles ...
A. 13 December 2009: thankyou so much for my help but i see that i have not given enough information.
the relative in my dreams is either my mother or my grandad.
i understand 17 being seen as too young to be engaged but i don't.
and probably the biggest bit of infor... (read in full...)
Any inventive sex suggestions?
Q. Having fun and looking for new ideas. It is my turn to come up with something new. Last time we tried ice in the anus (recommended). We also use toys. Any inventive suggestions?...
A. 7 December 2009: you could try exploring each others fantasies, for example schoolgirl and teacher or nurse and patient.
you could even try some of the more adventurous ones like threesomes etc, if you don't want to actually do them then talk about them whilst mast... (read in full...)
Computer game idea for g/f?
Q. Hi guys, I'll keep this short and sweet. I'm a computer games development student, and I want to make a nice little game for my girlfriend to play, nothing big and complex, but I want it to be fun and entertaining as well as cute and a reminder t...
A. 1 December 2009: i think you should create a game where she can create her own characters and her own world that she can go through and have little interactions with characters. maybe there could be a character resembling you that gives her little messages and ... (read in full...)
Please can anyone help Me? ..I am headed for a breakdown!
Q. right, here goes... i don't know what to do with myself. in theory my life is good, i'm at college, got a decent relationship with my mum, got an absolutely amazing guy who would do anything for me and has asked me to marry him. but underneath i...
A. 1 December 2009: thankyou so much, i was wondering if anyone had any ideas as how to approach my mum about it without causing an argument, she is quite hot headed and will blow up quickly.
i also wondered if any one had any ideas on therapy other than those give... (read in full...)
Is this abnormal?
Q. I was just wondering if this is rather weird. I think it is. I was raped when I was younger, but that was nearly 6 years ago now. Now with my boyfriend we like having roleplay sex games (that alone may be considered weird, I don't know) and for so...
A. 27 November 2009: its not the best, not exactly healthy but it is a common consequence of sexual abuse, especially in the childhood or adolescent stage. i suggest, unless you have already, some sort of therapy, but not just where you talk and they listen, the kind... (read in full...)
Does light spotting mean I'm not pregnant?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 5 month and we've been having sex, unprotected. We aren't in anyway trying to get pregnant as that may seem like something stupid to say but I am on the pill. I've only started the pill a month ago, finished that 21 day pack...
A. 10 November 2009: light spotting is what happens when your body withdraws from the pill. like any drug your body gets used to it has to get used to not having it too.
all the while you are on the pill your periods are not "true" periods, just withdrawals from the ... (read in full...)
Need some advice about IUD coils.
Q. I have some questions about the IUD coil I am 24 and my partner he is 29, we have been together for almost 7 years. since I was about 14 I have tried a lot of different forms of birth control, mostly in my younger teen years I was taking ...
A. 10 November 2009: not going to tell you what to do, but i have heard way too many horror stories to ever even think of using an IUD coil. a couple of people i know almost died even. plus they are extremely painful and affect periods and long term fertility if you ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help her get over this?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend, "Nicole", for almost a year now. I have had one previous girlfriend, "Molly", who I dated a few years before Nicole. I'm Nicole's first real boyfriend and she is very turned off by the fact that Molly and I had an ...
A. 6 November 2009: i can't stand that my partner has had sexual relations with anyone else, but he has, as have i, and he hates that. we get over it by knowing that it is so much better, not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally because of the depth of... (read in full...)
I'm running out of reasons not to start a sexual relationship with my cousin!
Q. My cousin wants to restart our sexual relationship, should I give in? My cousin and i have always been very close. He is my best friend and has been all my life. But we are more than that. It started when we were teens and we realized that we liked ...
A. 6 November 2009: To all those small minded aunts that have posted on here (barring a few, I'm not tarring you all with the same brush) sex with your cousin is no more wrong than it is to just have casual sex with any male. yes it depends on what state you live in,... (read in full...)
Why is porn regarded as such a bad thing in couples?
Q. i just have to ask peoples opinions on this, why is porn such a no-no when it comes to couples? my partner and i enjoy naughty weekends where we explore our kinkier side and watch and make our own porn (to be viewed by only us i stress!!) but i hea...
A. 6 November 2009: thankyou everyone, but i was just wondering if anyone agreed with me.
to the anonymous person who wrote do i think he will delete them when we break up... you have to trust that person before getting into any of this with them and i trust him comp... (read in full...)
If I tell him the engagement is off surely it will break up our relationship?
Q. i'm 16 and engaged. my friends think i'm insane but i love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. it is only a ring and we have agreed not to get married until i have finished university. what is the big deal? maybe it is too soon to ...
A. 6 November 2009: why should you break it off at all if it is what you want? forget what others think, those who truly care will not pass judgement but be happy for you.
i am nearly 18 and engaged, many think i'm mad, but he is my one and i want to spend eter... (read in full...)
Do her drunken texts reveal something new?
Q. We all know how blunt or honest we can be when drunk. Here's the scenario. She's 23, at a bar, drunk and I'm at home relaxing from a long day of work. Here's the texts: Me: What's up? Her: I'm at a bar babe... gettin pretty drunk haha Me: Lo...
A. 2 November 2009: girls can get overly flirtatious when intoxicated, so i wouldn't take it seriously. if, when sober, she states it yet again, then you can approach her about it, but don't get your hopes up yet. she probably just was thankful because you cared.
h... (read in full...)
I'm flirting with someone's boyfriend. Does he like me?
Q. I finally told this boy I liked him, even though he has a girlfriend. He always flirts with me and the other night he was sending me some extremly flirty texts about if he didn't have a girlfriend he would get with me and do stuff. I really like...
A. 2 November 2009: not necessarily, watch yourself with this one.
it could just be a case of the grass is greener on the other side syndrome, he might be perfectly in love with his girl but wants a bit of fun on the side.
don't show him you like him and you can't ge... (read in full...)
I told his kids how I felt about their dad. What did I do wrong?
Q. I have known an older guy with kids for at least a month now and there are many things he has done and said that lead me to believe he was interested in me like he would flirts with me and once or twice he has held me in his arms and cuddled me. Si...
A. 2 November 2009: not necessarily, but it could be he's scared of things moving too fast, even though its his kids initiating this. men tend to panic silently rather than women who ask questions and converse. leave him a voice message, email or something that h... (read in full...)
My daughter is ten! Is this sexual role play normal?
Q. my daughter is ten and is friends with a girl the same age. my daughter told me about a year ago that her friend masturbates in their class at school (which i have since told the head teacher) and has now told me that this girl has been role playing ...
A. 2 November 2009: as married lady said, playing doctor is normal, and even working out what bits of each others bodies do is to a certain extent, but this kind of sick role play is not only wrong, but can be mentally scarring.
for the sake of your daughter forb... (read in full...)
What's the deal with the student/ teacher fantasies?
Q. This may seem a but random, but please bear with me: what's the deal with student/ teacher fantasies? i've been hearing a lot of talk lately about how it's a man's "greatest fantasy" (and how they even go as far as watching porn on the subject) ...
A. 1 November 2009: i've never come across a guy who likes to be the student, which is pretty good as i love being the student.... (read in full...)
In a student/teacher fantasy, what role does the man prefer to play?
Q. this is going to seem really random, but i need to ask: in student/ teacher fantasies, do most men prefer being the student or the teacher? i ask this because it seems to me that most women i come across prefer to be the student, so i assumed that ...
A. 1 November 2009: teacher, guys like to be and i'd want them to be teacher... (read in full...)
Are my boyfriend's reactions to the abuse he suffered normal?
Q. hi please can anyone tell me if my bf`s behaviour is normal? hes lied so much im startin to wonder what to think. i met him in 07 when he was 34. he told me that between the ages of 12 to 15 he had been sexually abused by his stepfather. the abuse ...
A. 1 November 2009: when a teacher seduces a pupil and sexually abuses them, even though the pupil likes it, it is still abuse. your bf is probably really confused and messed up because he can't get out of his head that he liked it at the time and is probably disguste... (read in full...)
His behaviour is a bit confusing. What do you make of it?
Q. in a relationship with a fairly controlling boyfriend. he gets jealous of every guy i go out with or dance with when we are clubbing. i wanted to try rock climbing and he told me i don't have the upper strength and would suck at it. i said i ...
A. 1 November 2009: he is a very immature childish guy who is lowering you to his playing field because he doesn't feel, consciously or otherwise, that he is good enough for you.
leave him alone and let him come crawling back to you. when he grows up a bit, then you ... (read in full...)
I'm truly in love with my cousin!
Q. well there's so much to say i dont really know where to start. from the very beginning will make most sense. i've known my cousin Adrian ever since i was born. he's a year oler than me and we've always been very close. we told eachother everything, ...
A. 1 November 2009: hey, just wanted to add my own personal experience to this. I've had a closer than regular relationship with my cousin for as long as i can remember. it turns out he has been in love with me for over four years. we always had a sexual kind of ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I"m not good enough
Q. Ok, so there's this guy I've liked for around 6 years. But it seems like I've begun to like him more and more. Whenever I'm around him, I just feel so happy and I forget about all of the troubles in my life. He makes me smile more than anyone I know ...
A. 1 November 2009: never think you are not good enough because you will end up not being good enough. if he is worth it his will like you and what you call your flaws. go with the "you never know until you try" attitude. and i understand how hard it is to break do... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and have signs of pregnancy!
Q. hiya im 17 and are getting signs of pregnancy and im excited in myself but not really sure if my bf wants to keep it coz he finks im only young but wen i talk him in2 it he gets really in2 it x i have strong views bout adoption coz i havnt had a mum ...
A. 1 November 2009: well first of all you have to make sure you are pregnant, it will be painful if you start looking forward to bearing this child and find nothing is there. if you are in fact pregnant, and you believe you are ready, then eventually your man will see ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and father doesn't want the baby... he wants the abortion pill!
Q. I am 23 and just found out last week I am pregnant with my boyfriends baby. He is 20 and his father is a pastor. We were very devastated that we were pregnant and I told my sister, he told his brother and wife. The people we have told are very ...
A. 1 November 2009: honey honey honey!! i understand your pain and confusion, but you have to do whats best for you, not him. it is your body and while it is inside you, its your baby, at least until he is willing to see it as his. right now you will not realise it b... (read in full...)
Pregnant and thinking of Leaving Husband due to his strip club visiting...
Q. I have been married for 11 years and waited it seems like an eternity to get pregnant. My husband and I have had our problems, but I always thought he would be a little different when I got pregnant. Please tell me if I am being ridiculous with my ...
A. 1 November 2009: right:
first off, i can understand it completely but there is no point thinking a man will change when you have a baby, it doesn't save relationships and a man doesn't have the life changing experience of carrying the child and loving it etc.
secon... (read in full...)
Do girls draw a line between "it doesn't matter" and "too small" for a guy's size?
Q. Girls, would you think that there's a line that separates when a guy's penis size "doesn't matter" and when it's "too small"? Some girls have told me that it doesn't matter to her, and some just flat out told me it's never gonna work. (mine meas...
A. 1 November 2009: as long as you can use other parts of your body to satisfy her its fine.
yes there is a line that is too small, but if your skilled in other ways she shouldn't mind.... (read in full...)
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