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writes:i'm 16 and engaged. my friends think i'm insane but i love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. it is only a ring and we have agreed not to get married until i have finished university. what is the big deal? maybe it is too soon to settle down and to be able to tell that i love him but i can't live without him. if i tell him the engagement is off surely it will break up our relationship?
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reader, DEAR CIN  +, writes (6 November 2009):
It sounds like both u and your boyfriend are pretty mature and level headed people. You have obviously discussed this in great length if u both agree to wait until you finish university. I myself don't see a problem with it as long as you feel strongly about this. You don't mention your parents at all or what they think of you getting engaged at 16. Being engaged is one thing..getting married at 16 would be a whole different thing. If u feel you want to be engaged..go for it..the opinions of others should not matter one way or the other.
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reader, PixiePie +, writes (6 November 2009):
 why should you break it off at all if it is what you want? forget what others think, those who truly care will not pass judgement but be happy for you.
i am nearly 18 and engaged, many think i'm mad, but he is my one and i want to spend eternity with him, become his wife and start a family with him.
the only reason you should break it off is if you feel you are not ready for those things, not if your friends do.
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reader, sillyboysilly  +, writes (6 November 2009):
I think, as long as you explain to him that you are not ending the engagment because of lost interests or feelings, but because you feel like you are both too young to make such a commiment, he'll take it fine. You could always suggest something differnt- such as a promise ring : ).Just be careful of your words and make it clear its NOT because of him, you, or that things have gone stale in your relationship.
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