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writes:I am fifteen(10th grade) and I want to be pregnant. Plz don't say I'm stupid cuz I'm not going to become pregnant I just want to know why I feel this way. My bf and I are very serious, like engaged serious, we are sexually active and everything and we had a pregnancy scare once. Ever since then I've wanted to become Pregnant. All the shows and movies make it look great.But I really want a baby..badly
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reader, cheerwhore23 +, writes (25 January 2010):
watch "the pregnancy pact"
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (25 January 2010):
Because you are 15 and your hormones are crazy and telling you your fertile. Its normal I was the same way as you and even now at 20 I want a baby but I am so busy with school and work that I barely have time for my dogs yet alone a baby. The thing that sobered me from wanting a baby was getting out on my own and having to decide if I wanted to pay the PG&E or have groceries. When true adulthood hits you you will realize that serious or not, my ex and i were together almost 5 years and engaged to be married for 4,that when you are wondering if you can stomach any more koolaid and sandwiches until you can get more hours at work you will realize waiting and enjoying the hardships of being on your own plus the amount of time you get to focus on your partner are what is most important. Your feelings are normal hell 100 years ago you would be married and pregnant probably with baby two and I think some people forget that while our morals and our views have changed our bodies are still for baby making and when your ovulating and your hormones are flipping and jumping and you have no major concerns like wheres dinner coming from or is the rent going to be paid your body has nothing to focus on but that drive to procreate. Just fight the urge and enjoy being able to baby your partner for now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): It may be natural for you to want to have a child with your boyfriend because you think you are in love. However, you have NO idea what you're considering. You really are a child yourself. Have you seriously thought about how having a child would change your life? At your age, it would not be a change for the better. You should be focusing on things like doing well in high school so that you can go to a good college and get a great job. Once you've done that, then it would be time to think about a baby. Don't do it now, you will seriously regret it.
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (25 January 2010):
 It's mainly because you're a girl who wants to grow up fast. You should remember you should only have fun at your age now. Keep the baby ideas for later, like 4 years from now, after finishing school more importantly and when you’re mentally mature most importantly. Especially since it can seriously block and alter your future to have one now, like school because school’s very important especially when you’ve got someone to take care of, even with two. You need to develop yourself a great deal to seriously understand the whole picture you're having. More than you know right now, seriously. A baby is NEVER the same as it's being pictured in the movies, nor will it be as easy as in the movies nor as happy because the movies only show a few moments, imagine what all the other moments they don’t show are like. A lot comes to it, more than love even. It will really change your entire life and if you still think right away that it doesn't matter all this then that means you should definitely not have one yet. It means you're not ready if you can't picture it all and I know you might think you do, but it's an emotion that tells you that, a simple thought, but you really aren’t ready for a number of reasons. You will actually know when you're ready, yes ‘know’… you can't feel it, you'll really know, but you have to be actually grown up for that and then wait at least another year, because not all stories become happy stories unless you really know what you get into and live it the best you can. You can always have a baby… now, 30 years from now, 3 years from now. There is absolutely no reason to rush into it because it will only be a craving coming true for you at this age, it won't have your soul in it because if it did than you'd feel different than you've put forth in your message. There is no reason not to wait; there is no reason not to be ready because your child will be the biggest victim of your lack of insight. Believe me, you'll be ready when you know and when you're willing to see and face all the troubles ahead with your hands held high. If you do it while still in school you'll have difficult problems to face and yeah if your heart is really in it, you can be a lucky one but realise it's a really really really small chance you'll be a lucky one and it will only conflict your life a great deal. Be grown up in heart and mind to make that decision and only then it'll be a good one for sure.Now the reasons you should have a child now, if you can’t see yourself in any other future than having a child, if you feel you are smart enough to face every challenge in your way, your love for your partner and his for you is endless and if he ever does leave you or doesn’t love you anymore, you’d still be able to handle it and if you have the parents and money and time to begin with it and stay in it for the next 18 years. And most importantly if you have the wisdom to actually grow your child into a great person. If you are strong enough to face any challenge and protect your son or daughter, even by yourself then you might be ready.
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reader, Jays  +, writes (25 January 2010):
some girls around the this age sometomes feel like that but really dont even condsider having a preganancy because once having a baby your whole life changes, there first of is the whoel 9 months of your body going through soo many changes you also have to consider your financial situation which at 15 cant be great. you have too get up during the night too feed it and look after it all the time which will affect your education. having a baby would really ruin your life because you would have the responsibility of being a mum before having fun and getting experience. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): Shows and movies show a very "idealized" version of being pregnant and having a baby. They are on tv to entertain you, not to give you accurate information. If you watch anything watch "16 and Pregnant" and "Teen Mom" and see how much those girls have had to give up in their lives and how frustrated and tired they always are. It's not something any teenager should have to take on, let alone want to.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (25 January 2010):
Because you're naive, immature, and think it'll be all nice and fun, but that's not how it is. You're judging it by shows and movies, it's television. Become a babysitter or nanny if you want to be around babies and children, then you'll see how it really is, and it ain't pretty.
Also, "getting engaged" isn't serious, getting married is serious. You can be engaged for years and never get married, and you're 15 and sorry to say, but once you got knocked up, your boyfriend might turn out to not be so great afterall and leave you with the baby while he goes out and parties with his buddies and bangs other chicks. So don't even contemplate having a child until you're an adult, married, financial stable, finished with your education, and have stopped living in a fantasy world.
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reader, PixiePie +, writes (25 January 2010):
 Well most certainly don't do it if its being influenced by media! But its because of hormones, not down playing it trust me.I had a pregnancy scare like 8.5 months ago now, and ever since I have been so broody its ridiculous.My fiance and I are currently trying, and although I know that the initial gut feeling of 'my god I want a baby' is hormonal, it doesn't stop the intensity.I want a baby so badly I get depressed etc, I've considered hormone therapy to stop the broodiness, but its not a problem, its a delight.Just make sure you do wait til you're older. Too much too soon and you, your partner and your baby will suffer X
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